How to have quality dates in lockdowns/high COVID incidence?

QueenAlice3 · 2021-12-03T20:59:04+00:00

I had a guy invite me on a date then call me an hour and a half before the date to say he’d had a cough a few days before so thought we’d better make it a phone date. Then he proceeded to tell me all the things he did with his friends for the past few days (post cough). Needless to say block n deleted.

leadmemories · 2021-12-03T18:54:25+00:00

I haven’t dated during the pandemic so I can’t answer as to where quality dates are held during this. However if he asked you out to dinner, backed out, and then suggested a walk… it definitely sounds like he’s just trying to be cheap.

Spittens · 2021-12-03T19:45:39+00:00

There's three reasons I have chosen not to date until at least the pandemic is over ;

1) MEN IN GENERAL ARE DESPERATELY THIRSTY. And they've used this time to dig themselves into foxholes on the scummiest corners on the internet (RP tactics, porn sites). They've taken this shit to heart and with renewed vigor due to their desperation.

2) I can't think of a date scenario where we could be safe, even with the lifted (and quite frankly, those that remain are largely ignored) restrictions in my area.

3) I can't be arsed to waste my time and jeopardize my health & safety for any man, the vast majority (if not 100%) of who will still turn out worthless after a first date, second date, or third date.

In short, my thoughts are due to the current plague it isn't possible. Best to concentrate on yourself so that you can be ready for when the time comes that dating is not an apocalyptic disease ridden hellscape. >.> EVEN MORE SO THAN USUAL.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-12-03T19:30:49+00:00

I don't think it's possible, unless you are willing to freeze your butt outside on a picnic or sabotage your safety by meeting at his place or yours.

ewokblubber · 2021-12-03T19:47:04+00:00

I live in a country close to Germany with very similar covid restrictions, and I think there's really only two options: You either suck it up and get tested, or you don't date. There's no real middle ground, and I think both options are equally HV.

I personally enjoy a lot of cultural activities and am not willing to give them up now that I'm fully vaccinated. I have no issues going out to the theatre, museums, or restaurants both with friends and with men and just having everyone get tested beforehand. Alternatives don't really exist- it's winter, it's cold, there are no decent outdoor activities, and going back to his place is obviously not an option.

Think about it like this: If getting a twenty-minute, free test seems like too much of a hassle for him, is he really valuing you enough? And if it seems like to much of a hassle to you, are you really into him?

Looking at your specific example, his actions seem weird and they make me question whether he ever intended to take you to that restaurant in the first place. Granted, his booster might take him out for a day or two, but that doesn't prevent him from going on a proper date with you on Sunday. But he didn't offer a proper date on Sunday, he offered a walk. It's not impossible to have dinner with a test- I have dinner plans with friends on Sunday, in fact! . Him not offering that option just seems like he never intended to make dinner a reality in the first place and is using new restrictions as a convenient excuse. And if he was really scared of getting sick in a restaurant or other avenue, he should also be too scared to meet someone new (You!), so that can't be the reason either.

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-12-03T20:43:45+00:00

Men just use it as an excuse to have low effort, cheap dates. Don't believe them.

edoth · 2021-12-03T19:06:31+00:00

I agree with the comment above

curlyhaiir · 2021-12-03T20:47:13+00:00

Was hat die Booster-Impfung mit der 2G Regelung zu tun? Versteh seine Logik nicht. Ich glaube, er wollte die nur ein Date schmackhaft machen und war doch dann zu geizig. Ihr hättet euch beide ja vor dem Dinner Date testen lassen können, oder?

Title	How to have quality dates in lockdowns/high COVID incidence?
Author	gcthlp
Upvotes	75
Comments	26
Date	December 3, 2021 6:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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