How to respond to Schrödinger’s Douchebag

Throwradfem · 2021-08-26T02:42:44+00:00

This is wonderful advice. I would love to see more tips like this if anyone has them. I am always trying to find ways to redirect people when they're being bigots, showing their internalized misogyny, or otherwise being problematic without putting myself on the hook to be their own personal Google.

The easiest and simplest one I have is just saying "yikes" and making a cringe face. Then say nothing else and see how they respond.

HereForTheFreeFoodOk · 2021-08-26T04:55:17+00:00

And if you don't sit in your discomfort and speak up - you will be met with a chorus of men saying "You are so sensitive" or "stop overreacting" or "you killed the mood" "It was just a joke"

In short, no matter what - they will find a way to humiliate and belittle you.

So sitting in your discomfort becomes your default, because you know that the alternative is is a man or a group of men becoming even more aggressive.

FuckSakez · 2021-08-26T07:48:58+00:00

I like to ask ”What was your thought process behind that?”

Your facial expression can be blank, baffled or disgusted depending on the context of the ‘joke’ etc. They wild fold, bluster off or mansplain to justify their tomfoolery.

PenneyPence · 2021-08-26T12:08:20+00:00

A blank stare with silence really messes them up.

Aksentia_Ivanovitcha · 2021-08-26T05:10:04+00:00

Schrodinger's douchbag is a great name

aquietsword · 2021-08-26T08:19:14+00:00

It outs gaslighters too. The last time I used this the scrote insisted he didn't say what I remembered but he worded it differently and meant something else entirely. Nah, my memory is on point and that landfill of a man was trying to revise sexist remarks.

StrikingCoconut · 2021-08-26T14:46:30+00:00

Also, when men tell stupid/bigoted/misogynist "jokes", you can do something similar to this. There are 2 great ways to completely neutralize the poison he just put in the air and make him look like a fool

1 - Pretend you're hard of hearing and ask him to repeat the "joke. Jokes are always less funny every time you hear them, they don't hit as hard and makes the teller feel awkward.

2 - "Huh...I don't get it." jokes are always less funny when they have to be explained and you'll have to make him own the shitty thing he said. Repeat as necessary.

It completely sucks the air out of the offense, but is such a way that you can't be accused of "being too sensitive" and going down that road.

2021-08-26T10:21:13+00:00

This phrase is also a good way to alienate them. We've been playing along with male bullshit as if it's normal human behaviour for way too long.

queen-wannabe · 2021-08-26T02:41:14+00:00

What should you use this in response to? I’m confused.

GiveMeWings3 · 2021-08-26T08:20:43+00:00

1,000 upvotes!

Defiant_Error_ · 2021-08-26T09:17:37+00:00

Yess yess!!! 🙌🏻 It works like a charm for me

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-08-29T00:35:34+00:00

I’ve only recently learned “what do you mean by that?”, and it’s been a godsend

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Title	How to respond to Schrödinger’s Douchebag
Author	Wild_Artio
Upvotes	0
Comments	28
Date	August 26, 2021 2:29 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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