Men who date multiple women

daisy_0720 · 2021-09-04T13:44:53+00:00

Not to self promote, but OP, I made a post on this a while back that might help you:

https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/igufgh/men_and_women_multiple_dating_are_not_the_same/

Platipus6 · 2021-09-04T08:49:53+00:00

FDS definition of dating = going on dates in public to get to know a man until he fails or passes your standards and proceeds to commit to you.

LVM definition of dating = fucking

If a man is "dating" multiple women, he's fucking.

A HVM enjoys the process of dating because he's doing things he'd do while he's single or with good friends anyway. He's not courting multiple women because men can date consecutively without problems and end it with unsuitable women rapidly (1-2 months to decide if he likes her). Women have to date concurrently because men take 3+ months to let the mask slip and we don't have that kind of time to waste. And then another month getting a restraining order and another 2 months in therapy.

jupitarianrise · 2021-09-04T08:43:54+00:00

Men who date multiple women are unattractive.

You know a man does that when he only offers low-efforts date that won’t cost him much.

A man who invests in you, takes the time to find a nice restaurant, who pays at the end etc. is making efforts to impress you. He isn’t likely to do that with other women, that would be too pricey (and exhausting). This is why we say no to coffee dates and a pizza slice at his apartment.

We don’t do it for the same reasons as men. There’s no need to compare ourselves to them, or to feel bad because “that expectation wouldn’t be fair” men don’t play fair, this is why they win 99.9 of the time.

edelbiatch · 2021-09-04T13:44:02+00:00

I use first and second dates to weed out obvious LVM. Most men don't make it past that. Since HVM are extremely rare, I never had the situation that I was dating two men at the same time before it became obvious that one of them (or both) are walking red flags.

blueboobs- · 2021-09-04T10:21:20+00:00

I just wouldn’t tell them ....because they’re definitely not telling you ...

08__80 · 2021-09-04T12:20:30+00:00

Look, dating didn't used to be like this. Everything happening right now is so extremely unnatural. To meet random strangers online and chatting for a minute and then going out somewhere alone with them. That is weird and unsafe as fuck.

Back in the day, when communities were closer, you either grew up in the same town as the people you ended up dating, so you knew them back when they were eating boogers in kindergarten, or you knew them through school, or someone else in your circle knew them from somewhere. Everyone was connected. Everyone got introduced to each other and got to observe each other, acquaintanceships happened, friendships happened, flirting happened (remember flirting? What's that??) the girl gave out signals that she was interested, the guy asked her out and did his best to impress her. Everyone knew the dirt on everyone. Before the guy even asked you out, your girlfriends had already told you everything they knew about him, who he dated before, how it ended, what kind of guy he is, his family situation, his job situation, any red flags. You had all the intel.

And people, both men and women would date each other casually, until a pair decided, hey, let's make this exclusive and official, AND THEN GUESS WHAT? The dude whipped out an engagement ring and they got engaged. They didn't dick around for another 10 years living together and going "we don't want to label things." When you decided to go exclusive with someone, an engagement was not far behind. Because what in the actual fuck is the point of going exclusive otherwise? Going exclusive means you're done auditioning other partners because you feel like you might have found the right one.

You don't buy the first shoe you try on. You try on lots of shoes and buy the one that you want. It's the same with guys. This wacky mentality of meeting some clown on OLD, going out on one dinner date, and then expecting exclusivity is very confused. You need to date around and find the guy you actually want, and he needs to do the same. <--- But him doing the same doesn't mean he gets to dick you around, play games, and waste your time. RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG

EDIT: I also want to add that I'm getting the feeling that your gut is sensing fuckboy vibes from these particular men, so listen to your gut. There is a huge difference between an HVM who is looking for a partner, and a clown trying to squeeze into a different clown car every night.

europoor24 · 2021-09-04T11:43:09+00:00

Men who date multiple women makes me think: fuckboy, community d*ck, one of those losers who copy and paste messages, and those guys who try to be the cheapest date possible. (the coffee, walk dates)

Feministtiktok · 2021-09-04T15:45:30+00:00

Men will date many woman at once. Why do you want to be the only one being loyal to a guy who isn’t loyal to you? He’s not your boyfriend, so he’s going to date other women behind your back

sikulet · 2021-09-04T08:43:58+00:00

This is discussed in the handbook extensively.

Junior-Lion7893 · 2021-09-04T16:16:37+00:00

I blame OLD for normalizing dating multiple dating.

I think that it’s really important to screen men that date you. Find out if they have an active account. If they do, chances are they have matches and it’s probably best for you to stop seeing them. Trust me, I learnt that the hard way.

Men who date multiple women will never change. Well… maybe when they’re 60 with one foot in the grave looking for a bang maid, they probably settle for anything at that point.

modernmedusaa · 2021-09-04T17:39:54+00:00

OP this isn’t a debating sub - this post is getting removed

Title	Men who date multiple women
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Date	September 4, 2021 8:34 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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