Red flag after red flags: More reasons why age gap relationships suck

souredskittles · 2021-02-17T01:14:07+00:00

This is a straight up horror story. She had so much potential. Her next move would have been to get a job and try to be independent. Omg let this be a lesson to the younger gen.

sleepysiri · 2021-02-17T01:22:01+00:00

This is abuse. This is textbook domestic abuse.

AuroraAustralxs · 2021-02-17T01:37:16+00:00

She got groomed, end of story. These men need to stop preying on girls young enough to be their daughters.

BigDebbie4ever · 2021-02-17T01:41:46+00:00

He is abusive and her life sounds like my worst nightmare. Hope she gets out. Is she getting good advice?

Skittleschild02 · 2021-02-17T01:47:50+00:00

Jesus. This is heartbreaking. I hope she can break away from him. I hate hearing these stories. Too many young women get wrapped in the fantasy that they don’t realize he’s grooming them into their fucked up life plan.

aquietsword · 2021-02-17T04:58:24+00:00

Identifying red flags and signs of abuse in relationships needs to be part of sex education. It wouldn't fix everything but it would be a start.

the_ghost_of_ · 2021-02-17T00:58:26+00:00

This is literally terrifying....

SmallBunny0 · 2021-02-17T01:11:50+00:00

This is one of the most depressing things I’ve ever read. This poor woman. I hope people directed her to abuse hotlines or a shelter, this is 10000% emotional and financial abuse.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-02-17T03:41:55+00:00

Oh this is awful. I can’t imagine living this way. What an awful man. And she threw her life away on him. Marrying older like that is more like marrying a controlling father. I wish women would realize how this would lead down a bad path

FabledAngryVillager · 2021-02-17T01:15:25+00:00

I am confused. Is she being sarcastic in the end? She already sounds done with him and keeps on listing why he's a piece of shit.

clairenovak · 2021-02-17T05:42:39+00:00

I can only skim reading this story, it’s so infuriating. Just seeing he was 41 and she 21 make me want to lose my shit, vile.

just-peepin-at-u · 2021-02-17T02:59:56+00:00

At this point, I hope she DOES get a full time job and uses that as a path out.

pickadaisy · 2021-02-17T03:52:33+00:00

Fuuuuuuck this is sad.

sahu_ · 2021-02-17T06:05:39+00:00

What did I just read? What a horror story. He's alienating her, abusing her and now his son is the next victim. So sad.

eveloe · 2021-02-17T09:12:43+00:00

This guy fucked up his own mother’s life and then blamed it on his wife. He is an emotional, physical and financial leech and she needs to check her credit score so she can find out what else he’s been doing in her name.

2021-02-17T05:37:38+00:00

Yeah. Seems like he’s really taking good care of her. This is just heartbreaking.

2021-02-17T07:49:41+00:00

I feel like this could have been my future because I was 19 when I was in a relationship with a 28 year old military veteran who was a devout Christian who believed in "traditional gender roles". He constantly talked about wanting to have kids with me despite the fact I told him that I didn't want to have children, at least not until I was in my late 20s. Thankfully, I was so focused on school and my desire to travel that it didn't work out. I honestly feel so bad for this woman and I can't imagine being tied down at such a young age, especially with a man like that. I hope everything works out for her.

PequenaSenorita · 2021-02-17T15:05:08+00:00

Jesus Christ, she lost me at "military/police/firefighter hero stories"!

I thought the end of this post would be that she has left him, but no she's asking for advice on how to show him signs of commitment, loyalty and appreciation. My heart actually hurts for this young woman reading this, it's a really serious case of abuse!

Are people at least giving her advice that she's in an abusive relationship wherever she posted this?

karaokekiller · 2021-02-17T04:13:02+00:00

Oh my gosh 😭

ThoraFriganza · 2021-02-17T10:03:02+00:00

This made me so sad. He's clearly using her child against her, this is clearly abuse but he has messed with her so much that he doesn't even have to hit her.

And this is one of the reasons why I really dislike homeschool because both the mother and son are stuck home ubder his control all the time. It's more difficult for her to find a job too because she has to take care of

nostradamusapologist · 2021-02-17T13:36:19+00:00

Curious about christianity????????

melonmagellan · 2021-02-17T22:52:05+00:00

What the fuck? Someone needs to literally rescue her while he's at work.

And he'd never get that kid. He sounds like a broke joke and a horrible parent.

ribsinthegarden · 2021-02-17T14:40:10+00:00

I’m seething right now ! He gaslighted her so much she blames herself for this POS psychopathic behavior ! I really really hope she breaks free soon...

Lavender_flow · 2021-02-17T23:15:17+00:00

I am sorry, but I find it incredibly hard to feel pity for women like her. She is just next level stupid. It is harsh to say, but it is reality. When you make bad choice after bad choice and it is SO obvious how awful the choices are, you dont have anyone to blame but yourself. Life isnt "fair", but women like her just makes it 100 times harder than it has to be, but they willful ignorance. It is not THAT hard to think and learn. Also I know women like that NEVER listen to advice given to them, but still moan about their issues.

I was smart than her when I was 16. I made mistakes, and did stupid things because you learn and grow, but this is like next level shit. You cant blame it all on a man, because she still made these choices too.

Even if you are so deep in it and being manipulated, come on. She isnt even thinking of leaving. I get it is hard to leave an abuser, but there is SO many resources available these days and she really dug that hole for herself. It is SO obvious this relationship was a GLARING RED ALARM right from the start. Also the whole credit card thing..... I just cant

This guy is a total shithole/groomer/manipulator. But women need to do better than just falling for such shit and instantly getting pregnant. Like NO, fucking run for the hills.

saggy_lemons1 · 2021-02-17T01:33:56+00:00

She fucked up her life. I don't understand how someone can be so committed to sabotaging themself. Jeez.

Title	Red flag after red flags: More reasons why age gap relationships suck
Author	KevlarSweetheart
Upvotes	235
Comments	37
Date	February 17, 2021 12:47 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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