Reminder

pinkyberries · 2020-02-16T14:22:15+00:00

Wish i found FDS when i wasted months on a guy who was hot n cold, i would get ghosted and ignored for 3-8 days then he would come back as if nothing happened.

He ignored me every day yet read the messages within minutes so i assumed he's not always on his phone (bad attempt to convince myself, deep in my heart i knew damn well i get ignored). When we met up he was on his phone the whole 'date' and even texted his ex.

anonymouspinneaple · 2020-02-16T15:47:06+00:00

I am important. My importance is not determined by someone else.

hydrohydrangeas · 2020-02-16T14:38:21+00:00

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TheQueenQuasar · 2020-02-16T19:21:49+00:00

I agree 100%. This also applies to any relationship whether romantic, friendship and even relatives. I've let "friends" and other douchebags go because I was over always being to first to initiate texts and phone calls, got tired of being called only when someone wanted something, and got tired of the excuses (I don't care if everyone always calls you and you don't call anyone).

There is almost no excuse to not be able send a quick text. Class, how many minutes are in one day...? Let us Google it...

There are 1,440 minutes in one day class. And that person can't even take 30 seconds of one of those minutes to communicate via text at least? Nah, it's a solid pass for me...

This is something I finally have drilled into my head, people make time for who they want to make time for.

responsiblenatures · 2020-02-16T14:39:48+00:00

"... To him."

StrawberryMoon3 · 2020-02-16T20:23:52+00:00

Even even Barack Obama was president, he always made time for Michelle and his daughters. So average joes don't have an excuse.

husheveryone · 2020-02-16T14:16:51+00:00

FACTS! 💜 Thank you for the reminder, sis!

ins0mnikat · 2020-02-16T18:03:13+00:00

This goes for family and friends as well. Know your value. ❤️

AliceKingsly · 2020-02-16T23:08:04+00:00

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2020-02-16T22:46:44+00:00

my current bf texts me 10+ times a day and if I don't respond he says he misses me and wants to skype/see me soon. he has THE SAME JOB as the guy who barely could send a text every 3 days

Give_Me_Your_Coffee · 2020-02-16T22:10:49+00:00

This applies to women as well. Never let some pickme put your friendship in second place.

AngieinWisconsin · 2020-02-16T23:01:49+00:00

Anyone (male or female)..who I like(friend, relative , BF)....who I on occasion, or regularly initiate contact with...who does not reciprocate. I will basically drop them after a while. Dont make someone a priority, when you are just an option.

Nunyabz7 · 2020-02-16T16:39:03+00:00

Ouch. That hurt.

Notsoabc1 · 2020-02-16T17:21:24+00:00

PREACH GIRL

bitch_not_it · 2020-02-17T06:56:46+00:00

I think the eureka moment for me was when I followed one of FDS core rules: always be dating more than one

And I found myself reading texts from a couple guys I wasn't that interested in and answering if I felt like it, or I wouldn't even answer if I felt like it because honestly who cares. But at the time I'd be thinking "well I can't right now, I'm busy, I have to do [this]" but while I was so 'busy' doing that, if the guy I liked texted it was stop drop everything and text him for hours

And then I was like ohh. And it was just a huge help mentally to take it less personal when it happened, or apply some tough love if I found myself unable to move on, plus I think it's healthy to gain more understanding of the other side so you can be fair/self aware/avoid hypocrisy

This *clap* is why you always *clap* follow FDS *clap rules!

whaaaaatttt · 2020-02-16T20:42:46+00:00

Ouch. But I needed to see this.

kaylazomg · 2020-02-16T21:24:52+00:00

Sad reality to accept, need to stop giving excuses for lack of interest

EvesStillLearning · 2020-02-16T22:48:49+00:00

This is so true! I bought this line for years ...no longer!

65special · 2020-02-16T22:32:20+00:00

I needed to see this today. Thank you.

Blackgirlwanders · 2020-02-17T00:42:28+00:00

THIS!!!!

mesmeriz · 2020-02-17T16:21:10+00:00

Yep! I learned this the hard way. I was infatuated with a FWB who was "career oriented", but let's be honest, my schedule was WAAAYY busier than his (I was juggling interviews, team lead management, and my engineering courses) and somehow I found the time for him. He kept looking at his phone while I was in his company. I had to initiate the conversation with him until I had enough. I told him enough is enough, I don't want to do anything with him anymore as he was sucking all of my energy and I was burning out.

buffalocoinz · 2020-02-16T19:44:08+00:00

It sucks to hear but it’s the truth!

PicklesNBacon · 2020-02-17T00:51:02+00:00

I wish more people would understand this

makon77 · 2020-02-17T02:58:05+00:00

Thanks to FDS realized why after gf status was granted they dropped off to incognito mode. Just a casual daily text to check if u are still alive but no time to see you more in person 🤔 then off to their other super important priorites. Definitely not setting time for them now. Going to say no also to gf status unless it leads to marriage etc they are definitely just locking in.

ilikesoy_ · 2020-02-23T22:57:38+00:00

or theyre focusing on some other woman online that couldnt give a shit about then.

L3Kinsey · 2020-02-17T02:56:03+00:00

Can't agree. Sounds like it's lacking empathy or acknowledgement of those not neurotypical

Title	Reminder
Author	Radtron3000
Upvotes	1174
Comments	38
Date	February 16, 2020 1:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f4qyoe/reminder/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/reminder.682346 https://theredarchive.com/post/682346

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