Some quotes to practice, memorize, and repeat. Don't bow to the patriarchy, queens.

masalamermaid · 2020-03-12T16:02:41+00:00

"No" is so important. Say it, scream it and don't qualify your decisions.

MiaNaim · 2020-03-12T17:50:09+00:00

why do men feel entitled to make gross sex jokes in our presence and then act like WE are stuck up cunts for not laughing.

postmodernistweasel · 2020-03-12T16:13:52+00:00

Similar to I already know that - I have done this before. Guy the other day was giving me instructions on catching a spider when I already had it in a glass and was making ready with a piece of card - 'just slide it across' he says. Lol. I've managed my own spiders for decades my friend.

Bovvsette · 2020-03-12T18:12:20+00:00

You’ll say something to a man and he will start repeating the EXACT SAME THING but in a tone that sounds like he is explaining it to you. Bro I was the one who just told you that wth. Drives me nuts.

doesanyonehaveweed · 2020-03-12T17:50:33+00:00

I honestly want to just start saying "I'm turned off now."

Because it's true. When someone treats me poorly, or I feel pressured to respond to a neg my libido disappears.

MomsSpecialFriend · 2020-03-12T17:27:16+00:00

Finally went to HR today about a coworker that has been incredibly disrespectful to me. I sent a polite email asking him to not contact me over work messenger anymore. He then upped the ante and turned up at my desk. I walked straight to HR and filed a formal complaint. He has been trying to intimidate and harass me for a couple months now. I have saved significant documentation to support my claims, I have remained professional the entire time. He followed me on the elevator to HR and told me I how I am a stupid bitch (mind you, this man works in the collections department and I am in IT). Now everyone knows. My bosses, his boss, HR, everyone. He can't hide anymore.

burnerbabee · 2020-03-12T16:11:22+00:00

Might have to get this tattooed on my arm until it's automatic cause I'm sooo not there yet sadly! I'm gonna practice lol

sunnyxbaby · 2020-03-12T21:54:14+00:00

Don't forget when creepy dudes compliment you (i.e., "You have great legs") to say, "I know." Watching a man who get floored when you don't need his approval is priceless.

buddingQueenie · 2020-03-12T21:24:23+00:00

I actually told a male classmate when I was explaining something "I'm not done talking".

His bewildered and subdued expression as he shut the fuck up and let me finished was glorious.

Edit: The amount of classmates who will mansplain you're on work to you is remarkable. Especially if you're in CS. My lord.

Pipulka · 2020-03-12T16:19:40+00:00

I say this a lot, and been often told I must have Borderline because I'm bitchy.

spacebubbletea · 2020-03-12T20:25:32+00:00

Also „I’m not sorry”

ms_monquis · 2020-03-12T22:29:32+00:00

And say it without a smile — practice suppressing that nervous smile, I know I have to — or qualification. Not “I’m sorry, that’s not appropriate.” Or “that’s not appropriate [laugh].” And the answer to “why?” is “that’s not appropriate.” Because trust me, they already know why.

(Things I’m working on.)

Meredeen · 2020-03-12T16:07:39+00:00

Finally had the courage to tell a male friend/acquaintance that he was making me uncomfy when he told me "Love you, bye!" ,"You're so cute!" and wanting to hug me, and he kissed me on top the head when my cat died (He's not strictly gay but bi). Just waaaaay too into my boundaries. I tried pointedly ignoring his I love yous and hugs but he just wouldn't get it??? So I had to tell him straight up.

He took it very well, but I still feel disgusted around him because he eroded any respect I had for him by doing that. I also feel mad at myself for not putting my foot down earlier, ladies. I just didn't want to disrupt the friend group. Everyone else in the group is perfectly fine, not clingy and not showing signs of being an orbiter or using me as a free therapist. Since I've been here and have been more aware of how I am treated, he is the only one that has done anything I dislike.

I'm not sure that he was doing it to be creepy. I mean, he never texted me ever, never tried to ask to hang out, he kept his distance in that regard at least. I need a stronger backbone. >:c

hellosmurfette · 2020-03-12T22:33:42+00:00

My SO is awesome, but there was one time when we were fairly new into our relationship where he made a comment during a conversation and I called him out all over the carpet on it haha.

He was talking about some computer stuff, and he said something along the lines of "I know this is stuff people like my mom or you wouldn't understand." I just looked at him and was like "umm excuse me?! I'm offended by that comment." And he asked why and I said "because I worked in an electronics department for a few years and I know exactly what you're talking about. You made an assumption. Don't do that."

He apologized right away and hasnt made any similar comments since.

spacebubbletea · 2020-03-12T20:14:23+00:00

Funny thing is that it makes people so uncomfortable!

Nmbr1Stunner · 2020-03-12T20:52:44+00:00

LOVE this!!

2020-03-12T17:25:32+00:00

Already do 💁‍♀️

_Hells_Belle_ · 2020-03-13T22:04:12+00:00

I joined Reddit like a month ago. I'm still trying to figure out the rules and how things work around here. I'm direct. If people ask questions, I answer them, even if my answers aren't popular. I'm nearly 53 and I've dated a lot. I know men like the back of my hand. What I'm finding out on this page, is that you don't want real answers or advice. What you want is clones. You want everyone to agree with you on every topic. That's not real life nor reality. But for the mods or whoever's in charge to say that my profile is a "throwaway account" without knowing me or my story, is childish on every level. I don't even know what a throwaway account actually is, but I guess it's something Less Than. Perhaps all of you would do better to actually listen to somebody that has some experience, even if you disagree. I'm leaving your group now, because obviously I'm not wanted here (because I'm not a sheep), so I'll leave you the most important lesson there is to learn as a woman: NEVER have more babies than you can afford to take care of by yourself. Now then, feel free to throw insults or tomatoes or other juvenile shit to defend your egos. I assure you what you think of me means nothing to me. And that's the second most important lesson to learn as a woman.

_Hells_Belle_ · 2020-03-12T16:33:21+00:00

That's how women stay single. Women don't need to constantly assert themselves to the point that they alienate everyone around them. I've used all those phrases, and all that happened in my case, is I lost every valuble relationship I ever had. It's okay to lose arguments.

Title	Some quotes to practice, memorize, and repeat. Don't bow to the patriarchy, queens.
Author	eng2fly
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Date	March 12, 2020 3:27 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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