The Queen has spoken

Maiden_Ayawolf · 2020-10-18T17:46:48+00:00

It took a while, but I will be damned if I comfort a man who's hurt because I called him out on how he hurt me.

It's so odd. They get apologetic and hell, even if they mean it, why am I the one comforting you for you finally regretting your behavior? Nonsense!

notreallyhere123456 · 2020-10-18T17:49:35+00:00

My ex blamed me for his infidelity.

I “forced” him to watch porn constantly because my post partum body was “gross” and then I “forced” him to cheat on me because I wasn’t giving him enough sex. It was all my fault, you see?

shaquielle0atmeal · 2020-10-18T16:18:30+00:00

I'm all too familiar with this

bluedreamdream · 2020-10-18T19:27:46+00:00

My ex blamed me for making him "react." Essentially it was my fault for his abusive behavior 🙄

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2020-10-18T19:50:34+00:00

Lmfao an ex blamed me for making him feel like dead weight in the relationship. He was dead weight and he came to that realization all on his own.

BellaMob · 2020-10-18T17:11:13+00:00

Many men truly have a great talent for gaslighting.

4everdoe · 2020-10-18T17:38:34+00:00

I’ve learned not to underestimate men period. They are capable of anything really. Even if they promise to love you, they may turn right around and feed you to the wolves.

jchvrxo_ · 2020-10-18T20:20:36+00:00

My ex of 7.5 years cheated on me twice, maybe more, God knows, but it was “my fault” I became insecure & jealous. The only fault I had was staying after he first cheated on me, and not packing up my bags.

ThrowRA745318 · 2020-10-18T22:10:05+00:00

Yup. My ex called me "difficult" for wanting basic respect and asking that he didn't continuously put me down and neg me. Never his fault. Always me being too sensitive about something that "other girlfriends" had never had a problem with.

He'd always say "do you really think I'm being serious" as if I was somehow stupid by being hurt by a man I was dating insulting me under the guise of "just a joke".

2020-10-19T02:39:44+00:00

I abso-fuckin-lutely cannot understand how Chris 'Woman-Beatin- Brown hasn't been cancelled as hard as R Kelly. It blows my mind. Like everyone is cool with how evil he is?

enigmaticHOE · 2020-10-18T17:21:17+00:00

Ahhh I feel this so much

aqua_not_capri · 2020-10-18T22:09:39+00:00

Seriously. They will have you think you're own eyes have deceived you. That you're crazy and need therapy. Don't do it!

Northern_LMT · 2020-10-19T02:11:54+00:00

I had an ex cheat- he had a threesome while we were dating. I only found out after we'd broken up for other reasons and he was trying to win me back. His excuse- I didn't want to have a threesome so he was trying to respect my wishes.

robinbyrdy · 2020-10-18T19:06:35+00:00

it's your fault that i'm physically and mentally abusing you (not that i'm doing that, but i'm saying if i was) and completely forgot your birthday because you're crazy and mentally unstable, so i have no other choice but to treat you like trash, duh

yourscreennamesucks · 2020-10-18T23:05:40+00:00

Well, they can only try. I will never feel guilty for their mistakes. They do try hard though.

Kzunzh · 2020-10-18T23:20:38+00:00

when I was sexually assaulted he told me it was my fault for making it look like i wanted it and for the longest time I believed him, I'm so glad I found this sub

Street_Narwhal_3361 · 2020-10-19T03:17:59+00:00

My ex told me it was my fault he drank cause I was pregnant. Have fun living in your basement apartment and your dead end job, shit balls.

HornetKick · 2020-10-19T02:01:24+00:00

Yep. I had a friend whose boyfriend cheated on her and blamed her for his dick slipping into someone else. I could never understand it and it's been over 10 years.

areyoureadykidss · 2020-10-19T03:00:12+00:00

too real.

texasmushiequeen · 2020-10-19T03:50:14+00:00

Hah. I never feel guilty for his dumb ass mistakes. That’s on him.

mourningxdove · 2020-10-24T23:48:18+00:00

My ex was planning on cheating on me and the only way I found out was because the girl sent me the screen shots. It came out that I was sexualy assaulted many years ago and I became numb and I mentally shut down for a while. My ex said this is the reason he was going to cheat because he didn't feel loved. Here I am speaking to professionals and going through one of the roughest times in my life and he goes and makes it about him. Here I am traumatised and disgusted by my body and because I'm physically not showing him love, he was the nerve to blame me after everything I'm going through. It gets even better, he then says he is suicidal and regrets it, I come running to the rescue to make it all better. Never again!!!

Title	The Queen has spoken
Author	HaveNoIdeaWhatToPick
Upvotes	3464
Comments	57
Date	October 18, 2020 3:30 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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