This is so real and it makes me sick.

Apricot_Ibex · 2021-07-04T13:24:21+00:00

Pickmes are so insanely desperate that they call Chris Watts a “good dad” because he did some chores around the house and sometimes dropped his daughters off at daycare....before he fucking killed them, and his wife!!! And they still blast his murdered wife for doing the girls’ hair “wrong” (pigtails too tight or babyish) or dressing them “wrong” (shirts that have “diva” on them or “tacky” dresses from Target and TJ Maxx...I’m not joking). These precious girls are dead because of him.

Pickmes will praise a man who murdered his wife and kids for doing bare-minimum parent stuff and mom-shame a woman who’s been in a grave for 3 years. One of them went on a tirade that Shanann Watts should have served food to Chris’ friends for Super Bowl parties while staying in the playroom with the girls and checking periodically to see if they need more snacks. She criticized Shanann for having Chris help her host some party and “help watch the kids” for awhile, because apparently that’s the woman’s job. 🤦‍♀️

whiskey_and_oreos · 2021-07-03T17:38:30+00:00

I feel this so hard. At one point I brought my then-husband to a coworker's BBQ. I was talking with some work friends and he literally just came over to ask if I wanted some food before wandering off. You would have thought I married a Greek god, the women around me were all "omg he's so sweet!" "does he have a brother?" "where did you find him?!" They had no idea what was happening at home and were praising him for basic decency and something friends do for each other.

s_slayer · 2021-07-03T20:52:57+00:00

I cooked the entire holiday meal for my family for years by myself. Some old crone I fed for years (my step dad's fathers girlfriend) actually thanked my then-husband for the meal when she knew full well I cooked it. It's just that the bar is so incredibly low for men and so high for women that even him mixing up a salad was praiseworthy, meanwhile I cooked the damn turkey and everything else and I don't even remember being thanked really. I finally got smart and stopped cooking holiday meals. I just don't participate anymore. We can go out to eat, I'm not slaving away all day for ungrateful people.

s_slayer · 2021-07-03T20:47:46+00:00

Every single father I've known think he's father of the year I swear. The bar really is set low. Meanwhile women actually grow babies, nurse them, do all the tedious stuff like school meetings, play dates, birthday parties, etc. Men can make microwave Mac n cheese and take a kid to the zoo and get applauded for his great parenting. Actual parenting is exhausting. They don't do it in the vast majority of cases.

QueenCrownn · 2021-07-03T18:48:01+00:00

True facts. My friend was celebrating her husband helping out with their disabled kid and I’m like….you’re celebrating because he’s doing what he should be doing??!

queen-wannabe · 2021-07-03T17:51:15+00:00

I’m so glad I’m never going to marry a man to see it for myself.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-07-03T19:07:28+00:00

So depressing. I'm happy that I'm already done with marriage and having kids but my heart hurts for those who will get trapped.

I don't blame young women for not agreeing to this patriarchal, sexist bullshit and choosing a single life instead. It's a smart choice.

melonmagellan · 2021-07-03T21:55:54+00:00

Let's not forget how awesome he sounds when he's Mansplaining to kids. This is a guy that only gets invited parties out of social obligation.

BlackGirlNerd · 2021-07-03T20:48:12+00:00

Or the cutesy, viral videos of men doing their daughter's hair and pulling it back into the most struggliest ponytail...people fawn over it. Basic af.

MissMisfits · 2021-07-03T20:29:31+00:00

Some dude messaged me saying “Actually when men take their kids to the park they get called pedophiles and kidnappers. But yeah you know what you’re talking about.”

My long winded response ended with what will now be my response to any man who complains:

”Women did not do this to you, the patriarchy did. Your anger is misdirected. Do your part to dismantle the system that got us here, and start being the change you want to see in the world.”

mina_fer · 2021-07-03T23:51:46+00:00

Lmfao my ex bf wanted praise for doing his chores on time to make sure he saw me once.. and for even learning how to cook and take care of himself.. imagjne

Odd_Studio_1919 · 2021-07-04T00:52:10+00:00

And most of them can’t even do this!!!

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-07-05T20:18:45+00:00

It’s true. I actually had a guy say that he never physically abuse or hit his partner as though that was an attribute.

Title	This is so real and it makes me sick.
Author	MissMisfits
Upvotes	2914
Comments	51
Date	July 3, 2021 5:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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