this may be controversial - should FDS members re-post from MGTOW ?

wowthispostissad · 2020-01-25T02:47:15+00:00

Personally I don’t like the links here from trp or mgtow or similar but for a different reason. Those subs are 100% trash and posting their content here makes this subreddit more negative.

With posts from relationships or similar... they’re still negative as in they describe shitty men but it’s more FYI and maybe to help the OP or others. There’s a silver lining due to hope for change. There is no hope for trp or mgtow or similar. It’s very possible for men to leave that negative space but it’s too much of a risk for women to be involved with that. You’re very likely to get raped or assaulted or abused or murdered.

letsberealforamoment · 2020-01-25T02:57:40+00:00

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FlamingFeminist · 2020-01-25T03:31:13+00:00

I honestly don't like all the attention we give LVM on this sub. I think some outrageous stuff is fine, but half of our posts are about them. I would prefer it if it was only peppered in.

What I don't like even more is posting messages from the trolls that message us. It gives them far too much power here. There shouldn't be any. Their lil pp gets hard when someone posts their harassment. All it does is encourage them or others to message us.

Sorry guys I'm just being honest.

E: I almost wish there was a second sub for that stuff.

grimreapersdtr · 2020-01-25T03:10:34+00:00

I don't like the MGTOW crossposts either-- although I'm already aware of how they think about women to begin with.

MyNeferTitty · 2020-01-25T03:58:36+00:00

Yes, keep the trash LVM out of this sub please.

Even other males don't care about their bleating, why should we?

MidnightCarp · 2020-01-25T03:42:43+00:00

Yeah, it's honestly just giving new attention to the same worthless thoughts they have been regurgitating for years, and the content is not relevant to us other than for a quick laugh or an eyeroll, so it's not worth it I think. We don't gain anything from debating them or rebutting their talking points, and it's very unlikely we would ever encounter them in any relevant social context. They're just living in a completely different world and we don't really need to be a part of that.

Making posts to mock them also reinforces the idea that FDS is the female equivalent to TRP/MGTOW/incels, because we seem to be actively at war with them instead of just focusing on ourselves and improving our lives. I think some guys there must feel like our attention validates them, it's rewarding because they get to be kinda sorta noticed by at least a few women for a few minutes.

finalbosskitten · 2020-01-25T04:25:35+00:00

Backing you up...we shouldn't give the manosphere any limelight other than specifics to protect ourselves in the dating space. Doing so just for hateporn's sake doesn't serve us.

When you really dissect them it really comes down to most are no longer operating rationally but grasping for the next dopamine and superiority hit. They're a hive mind or hate cult...at most. There's masses with whole hobbies or lifestyles dedicated into optimally hurting or policing women, and…well. Most worthy to note, triggering women. Might be the most evil immoral shit ever, they love doing or saying it just to provoke a reaction--this means that even us trying to dispute them is apart of that.

The best we can do is just to ignore it and continue having high standards and being joyful. Really. I can't help but comment on this subject often but it quickly has gotten old...their biggest nightmare is us literally just living our best lives and thinking highly of ourselves anyway, lol.

rftw2013 · 2020-01-25T04:45:59+00:00

Fellow mods, what do you think? If like it if this sub were less bitching about men and more field reports and tips on how to handle certain situations. What say you?

Lovelywings2 · 2020-01-25T03:31:22+00:00

I agree with you in a big way about the negativity of it

But.

I know what you mean about it being useful, one of the things I LOVE about this sub is the warnings. I'll also add tho, the thing is, a lot of us see mgtow types all over reddit and it's like...there's no one to look around and exchange a look with. So coming here is like "no girl you are not crazy, I'm seeing it too" idk it's just nice

Maybe as a compromise MGTOW content should be blurred? nsfl 🙃

SimpleSyrups · 2020-01-25T04:38:12+00:00

I’ll go against the grain here and say I don’t mind it. I guess just for me personally, I hate their thoughts & actions so much and I love dragging them. I think it’s good to be aware of their tactics and thought process so that it’s more easily identifiable in the real world.

For what it’s worth I also care very little about what reddit at large thinks of this sub, because anyone with half a brain can see it for what it actually is: self improvement. Anyone getting riled up about what we have going on over here needs to take a good look in the mirror. That’s their problem. I’ll still be laughing at entitled scrotes either way.

Bitemebitch00 · 2020-01-25T04:06:16+00:00

I don’t like it either. It’s a tense reminder of how trash LVM are

7_0f_9 · 2020-01-25T16:44:44+00:00

I agree and i think there are other plenty of other things we could be talking about. They are plain old narcissists and it's never got to give narcs the attention they crave, whether positive or negative. Talking about our trauma stories can be cathartic too and really brings home that these are class issues, not individual ones. I love seeing these posts because they give me insight to my own life. But i think the posts i love seeing the most is women talking about how they improved, which I'm guessing you won't really see men doing in mgtow groups. When women separate we progress. When men do, they enable each other's shit and devolve. It's weird. I'm not against anyone posting what they want but i think we should all consider where we invest our energy. I love the uplifting stuff and the emotional roller coaster stuff but let's give LVM the exact amount of attention they deserve, which is nothing.

7_0f_9 · 2020-01-25T08:19:04+00:00

No. In my opinion this should not be tolerated here anymore. No offense, I've just gotten too tired of their blather.

flandersmustash · 2020-01-25T10:17:41+00:00

I really don’t like it either, and although I’m repulsed by a lot of things reposted, by focussing on making fun of those men is really negative and isn’t helping women in dating. It’s a bit more of a circlejerk of we would never fall for this terrible behaviour!

I guess it can be argued it’s what to avoid but I don’t think it’s very relevant to the reasons why i subscribed here 🤷🏻‍♀️.

pqrsthrowawayyyyy · 2020-01-25T13:47:36+00:00

I’d add to this: we shouldn’t. MGTOW is exactly the breed of men that we want to not even acknowledge. Block, erase, and move on is the formula for dealing with them IRL. So why on earth should we go through their warped mindsets and posts, either? They’re going to be warped and twisted, they’re MGTOW. Theres nothing for us to learn there.

turquoiseblues · 2020-01-25T07:25:25+00:00

I agree. We should not be giving them any attention at all.

ThinkTofu · 2020-01-26T20:24:38+00:00

I think it's feeding the trolls when we get into sad little back-and-forth past wars.

It's like when that annoying couple breaks up and they constantly use public Facebook posts as retorts for each other--even though they unfriended each other ages ago. It just shows that they won't stop obsessing over each other and looking at what the other person is posting.

There's literally an option for reporting it called "don't feed the trolls" in the "breaks FDS rules" section. I report the posts half of the time, but nothing comes of it.

Title	this may be controversial - should FDS members re-post from MGTOW ?
Author	Lovelywings2
Upvotes	108
Comments	46
Date	January 25, 2020 2:42 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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