She ASSUMED I Liked Her

blackmetaltednugent · 2020-11-24T12:08:28+00:00

"I don't find you physically attractive at all, so you have nothing to worry about."

ransay3277 · 2020-11-24T12:28:16+00:00

She was fishing for you to pursue her. She wanted you to make a play on her.

FanofLemmy · 2020-11-24T13:13:10+00:00

This is how you destroy her soul.

"I am flattered you are into me but I could never have sex with you or think of you in that way. We have grown too close as friends and I wouldn't want to ruin that! You mean too much to me 💙"

Phantom_Spark · 2020-11-24T12:40:54+00:00

She didn’t assume you like her. She feels entitled to your attention. And she wants to lock you in the friend zone to monkey branch to later in case she wants to end it with her man.

It’s semantics... but she’s a woman. They assume all men like them and are so thirsty for sex that they will kill themselves just for the opportunity.

And the way some men behave, this isn’t such a strange idea. LOL

evergreen35 · 2020-11-24T13:16:57+00:00

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Cursedwithknowing · 2020-11-24T12:08:13+00:00

Now that's she's shown you her nature, it's easy to avoid her.

BlackPilledYekke · 2020-11-24T12:53:00+00:00

You bring up a good point: Women perceive being hit on online so much now that any interaction with a man is assumed to be sexual.

You were playing with fire there

Legs2big · 2020-11-24T13:41:52+00:00

Men and women can’t be friends. Stop trying to convince yourself the next is going to be any different than the previous who nearly got you in jail over assuming you were stalking on her... 🤦‍♂️ Creating cases for yourselves there. It’s simple: 0 interactions with them, unless it’s at the cashier to give your freaking coupons.

Gari_305 · 2020-11-24T12:41:00+00:00

"I think you are very funny and very smart, but I am in a relationship and have been for several years so at the moment I am not looking for any sort of romantic relationship outside of my current one."

Long commentary to say, she accepting applications. You probably have more resources than her current man, secondly since you mentioned you 2 are similar in age, she's already hit the wall and now looking for beta bux. In short, she saw you as a prospect to finance her wall years, while still looking for chad to dick her down proper.

It's a good thing you said no, this is simply platonic, because she was going to put thru some hoops like a dog and pony show.

Lastly, it seems no one has taught her that Assume, makes an ASS of U and ME.

Diogenes-- · 2020-11-24T14:37:30+00:00

Their narcissism knows no bounds. I don't even look at them. I'm probably a sperg so it's not a huge stretch for me to act aloof. But I have excellent vision, including peripheral, and I notice everything. Once I got serious about lifting weights, the female attention went through the roof. They stare at me, push out their tits, etc...

It gives me great joy to act convincingly as if I didn't even notice their existence. I imagine they go home and cry to their cats, but maybe that's just me being too hopeful. The probable reality is they just go on tinder and get gangbanged again. Still, I enjoy my fantasy.

JosefG91 · 2020-11-24T12:11:06+00:00

Yea i have gotten that exact same treatment before too. It's sadly pretty common these days. You don't even have to try to hook up with women. Even when you're not hooking up, you will get the "I'm sorry i'm not single" treatment. Absolutely crazy.

2020-11-24T12:16:59+00:00

holy fuck

I've never come across an example of this attitude in women that's so blatant.

I've had numerous encounters with women for some reason acting weird and awkward around me after I've met them - I assume because for some reason they think I like them. Because I don't know how they got this idea, I assume it's because I spoke to them some way or I was just extra friendly to know something about them. Infuriating attitude for them to have, because now I have to avoid her or put up with her fake niceness while she's probably pitying me in her mind. Only solution is to be intolerant towards them I suppose

ConfederateGuy · 2020-11-24T14:00:12+00:00

Dude its ok. You may have just come off as a very friendly guy. I had a friend of mine explain to me she thought I was hitting on her because I looked her in the eye, engaged her in conversation and ranged from topics like art, politics and gaming. I just treated her as a normal human being. Later on when I commented on her husband having a perfectly shaped ass you could bounce a quarter off of she got it. Women will assume things based on their own vanity and self importance.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2020-11-24T14:58:50+00:00

She’s gaslighting you. Honestly, I’d start recording any interaction with her in case she’s setting you up as a fall guy for blackmail or a false accusation.

U-94 · 2020-11-24T12:45:19+00:00

I have experienced this with girls telling my friends "Ugh, he's like IN LOVE with me" when the reality is they were the best option at 3am.

4everrekt · 2020-11-24T14:37:05+00:00

Part of TRP is seeing reality for what it is.

If you’re a women and 95% of men who talk to you do so bc they want to sleep with you (and think a relationship is an easy way to do so), why wouldn’t you assume that this guy is the same?

There’s nothing particularly special about you, or me, or most other men. They just see us as average guys, and the average guy is trying to sleep with them through various means, most often by trying to befriend them.

silly_birb · 2020-11-24T16:23:34+00:00

If you answered

"i just have casual sex with women, i would never seek a relationship"

She would have dropped her pants and sent you a nude picture.

Neldot · 2020-11-24T16:31:50+00:00

Happened to me a lot of times, it's the hamster brain in action.

They are attracted a lot by a man that shows little or no interest for them, because their brain sees this as a sign of being a strong, independent male. They're totally uncapable to understand that a man could be polite and wanting to chat but also be really indifferent to them sexually.

You should see what happens when you are brutally honest about the fact that you are not interested, invariably they'll try to rationalize their lack of attractive power towards you, by asking if you are gay or if you have already a girlfriend. LOL

2020-11-24T12:26:47+00:00

I think you are very funny and very smart

At least you got complimented for nothing. Good job.

I feel a bit dumb now

If you don't need to be on good terms with her in any way, you should really rub it in, but I guess the opportunity has passed

DKN3 · 2020-11-24T14:45:40+00:00

Remember this,some in this sub said: “Women assume that when someone is being nice they are Bad because that’s how they are, they are good when doing doing something bad” THIS QUOTE IS VERY CORRECT

shellbross · 2020-11-24T13:52:34+00:00

It should read: "I think you are very funny and very smart, but I am in a relationship and have been for several years so at the moment I am not looking for any sort of romantic relationship WITH YOU. I am sorry if i'm over assuming, but I assumed you would like one with me"

If a better man than her current "boyfriend" starts to talk to her, she would discard him in a millisecond...

RangoDj · 2020-11-24T13:59:48+00:00

Similar story, I was once asked by my female friend after being in a friendship for several years. "I wonder why you have never proposed me?", after an encounter when she and I was in a same room having dinner and nobody was around, I asked her to stay and I left the room with my meal. My answer to her question was somewhat rude I guess. I told her that "I don't think you are girlfriend material". She had a very "monkey branching" past, and I'm not getting into that. This was before I joined MGTOW.

Coslin · 2020-11-24T16:26:03+00:00

Projection. She's interested in you and dropped that line so you would chase her.

catsdontsmile · 2020-11-24T17:05:04+00:00

A funny thing I noticed in her message was the "I am in a relationship and have been for several years so at the moment I am not looking" - typical monkey branching.... keeping the door open for the future

This!!! It blows my mind how THIS pattern repeats itself every time. They go in thinking "this guy wants to fuck me", and they asses what to do. So they are actually considering to fuck you and whether or not its convenient for them regardless of the cucky boyfriend. Think about it, she kept it up all this time THINKING you wanted to fuck her.

Gay4Android · 2020-11-24T16:11:34+00:00

As others have said, if you value your job, record your future interactions just in case.

Getting men fired is wonens' favourite hobby today.

LotBuilder · 2020-11-24T18:47:19+00:00

Women are something else. I have a girl that I have a past with doing some marketing work for me. Our history is 5+ years ago. She’s been dating some guy for 3 years and on social media is very mushy with him. It’s mostly been through phone and email for 6 weeks but yesterday we met in my office and she was super touchy, started talking about old times, started talking about what he doesn’t do or how he’s kind of a pussy, doesn’t make that much money, etc. I tried to gently redirect it by jokingly saying I’m not a relationship counsel so I can’t help. She said all we really needs is a few days at my families cabin. We used to sneak up there midweek and bang our brains out. I said it was a bad idea as she is seeing someone and she said it would be fun to have a naughty secret and she always wanted to fuck her boss. After she left I texted her to confirm the offer and she elaborated... then I texted her that we can’t work together after getting enough proof to cover my ass. If you looked at her social media she was in love with this dude and is getting engaged. I have no trust left.

PabloAsscrowbar · 2020-11-24T14:41:41+00:00

It happened to me.

Thot and I made eye contact while passing by in our workplace. She held eye contact for 4-5 seconds and then subsequently looked downwards. Before that, we were just introduced once and never talked before,

The next week, I looked at her for a while (while she wasn't looking) because I thought she might be someone I have met outside before. She refused to even look at me and avoided eye contact all the way, not acknowledging my presence.

Like really....you were the one who locked eye contact and caused confusion to me.

Wooden_Replacement54 · 2020-11-24T14:57:49+00:00

TELL HER BF IMMEDIATELY. Us guys need to look out for each other. Tell him that she's a cheater and use the texts for proof.

__ApexPredditor__ · 2020-11-24T17:19:23+00:00

Every MGTOW needs an imaginary out-of-town girlfriend.

I sometimes even wear an engagement ring to keep the thots away (although that only encourages some of them, sigh)

It also helps if the imaginary girlfriend is a total trainwreck. If there are lots of ugly details lurking, it will prevent people from wanting to inquire about her, see a photo, ask when they can meet her, etc. Occasionally mention things like she was arrested for trying to stab you when she was drunk and you're weighing whether to press domestic violence charges, she said she was pregnant and you got super excited but turns out that was just a head game, you've recently discovered that she cheated on you with the entire Devnver Broncos defensive line, etc. Nobody will bring her up after that.

Chakra_Devourer · 2020-11-24T14:10:41+00:00

If you know better then don't be overtly friendly with them than necessary. Of course she's going to receive the wrong signal seeing as you tried talking about movies, sports, travelling and so on with her.

In her mind, you were trying to find a common ground by talking about all these things which she surmised that you eventually want to get in her panties.

2020-11-24T15:41:16+00:00

ALL THE TIME! They don't stop. You can almost see it on their face when the "He wants to fuck me" thought enters their brain.

On one hand, I can't be mad because they have been surrounded by pussy beggars for so long. But on the other hand, holy shit it's so annoying. They use it to boost their ego. It allows them to think they are the prize. But sooner or later their assumption it drives them crazy and they have to seek a confirmation. That's what this one did. She assumed that you talking to her and being cool meant "he wants to fuck me" but she couldn't be sure (because you didn't want to fuck her) so she HAD to throw it out there. But instead of just asking they ASSUME and then send you a rejection instead of just asking.

A couple months back a chick I used to work with (and flirt with) 22 years ago tapped me on facebook. I knew exactly what was happening but I'm open to friendships. I figured that, no matter what happened, I'd get some kind of closure.

I really don't like to "chat/talk" on facebook or any type of messenger service so I was open to us hanging out. We had also made contact with 2 other co-workers (female) from this job so she finally felt safe enough to invite me over because she invited the other girls also. Only one other girl came but we had a backyard fire at her house. It was great catching up. I made chicken skewers and everyone had a few drinks and smoked a little pot. At the end of the night we had a big hug and went on our way with everyone saying "we should do this again!"

I stay in contact a bit with messenger. I remembered that way back in the day she likes the Wallflowers and had lent me the CD. I happened to be listening to them on youtube and sent a link to the video. Then another. I was reminiscing a bit. She finally comes back with " blah blah blah, you have eluded to wanting more... blah blah blah, we're only ever going to be friends" and I was like "ELUDED? ha, ok we're done here." and blocked her.

They just can't help themselves. I told the other girl what happened. I said how fucking sick and tired I am of women doing this shit. I explained that I'm an extrovert and friendly and hell yeah, I can flirt too (why do women think they're the only ones allowed to flirt with no intentions of anything else?). She apologized, basically on behalf of all women. She said that she knows it hurts when they do that shit. So I felt better and understood.

It's funny because the first girl was in between relationships. She broke up with her husband a couple years ago and just bought a house and this guy she was seeing was supposed to move in with her and he ghosted.... THAT is when and why she reached out to me. She needed to see if there still might be a spark like 22 years ago (we made out once, back in the day). She needed some validation and to see what her options were. She got NO indication from me that I was interested. Hell, I told them both that I was done dating because chicks are crazy. But her hamster refused to believe that I wasn't interested. So it assumed I was to avoid the rejection. And it bit her in the ass. I didn't have any smart ass comebacks. I just blocked.

Thanks to MGTOW I enjoyed how I knew what was going on EVERY STEP of the way. I just sat back and waited and watched and remained friendly and BAM, there it is! SHE was thinking of something with ME, not the other way around. But to avoid rejection she put it on ME as if I was the one interested in her. Fuck that. BYE.

StingRayFins · 2020-11-24T15:48:59+00:00

This is why I advise guys to NEVER hit on or approach women or pretty much interact with them at all. They have egos out of this world.

attoj559 · 2020-11-24T15:49:04+00:00

You should also say even if you were attracted to her you wouldn’t pursue anything because if she monkey branched to you, she’ll monkey branch to someone else while with you.

Kini42 · 2020-11-24T16:23:19+00:00

Classic shit test!

nitro-666 · 2020-11-24T16:37:45+00:00

This means she has considered you and were only discarded by a narrow margin, so she wanted you to know you'll be called when her relationship sinks.

Seven_Swans7 · 2020-11-24T17:30:01+00:00

"At the moment"

Miserable-Lemon · 2020-11-24T22:18:57+00:00

Women don't understand friendship. She saw you talking to her so of course she says she's not interested. Why would a human being speak to another if it's not to make a transaction or try to trap one into a contract?

beatstorelax · 2020-11-24T13:32:43+00:00

sabe basically said " yeah. i tested talking to you for some time. i decided you are worse than my actual guy"

FreeWeld · 2020-11-24T14:47:45+00:00

"You must have a wrong number" would be the best reply to make them feel stupid

inetkid13 · 2020-11-24T15:03:02+00:00

Funny thing is that it's mostly women who say 'he's just a friend'. 'men and women can be friends too' and they know exactly that the guy just meets with them because he wants to bone them.

Her message was an absolute shit test. You didn't hit on her so she is just testing the waters and wants to be conquered.

TJCasperson · 2020-11-24T15:03:26+00:00

Honestly? I think I know what happened. I think that she happen to be talking about you a lot around her boyfriend/fiancé/husband whoever he is. And whoever he has said “oh no you didn’t.” So to make him feel better, she sent you that message. Because that’s how she feels, and that’s how she hoped you felt too. but then you put her in her place, and now she look stupid in front of you, and her significant other.

Last_Supermarket302 · 2020-11-24T16:47:58+00:00

What sort of misogynistic white supremacist are you anon! You should of jumped at the chance of being a beta orbiter!

2020-11-24T16:58:06+00:00

Disregard females, acquire currency.

KingMysoFutureHdrx · 2020-11-24T18:20:33+00:00

this is exactly why in the beginning of every interaction with a new woman, I tell her indirectly that I'm not hitting on her. Because these girls assume talking to them is you wanting them(which is a fair assessment because it's true 9/10 times)

I tell them:

-I have a gf

-you remind me of my sister

-not in the headspace of dating

-too focused on my career to date

-im gay

idgaf. I tell girls indirectly at least one of these things. I never hit on them and keep the conversation light. because then the woman assumes you like her and I dont like that

Adawk91 · 2020-11-24T19:50:42+00:00

this was a shit test

she thought this would motivate you to “work harder for it” and she could possibly create a competition between current BF and yourself as to who would give her “more” of whatever it is she is wanting

Crusty_Dick · 2020-11-24T21:04:46+00:00

For real. Had something similar happen to me. Like lady, not all guys care about sex 24/7 gtfo lol. I'm just talking to you, not trying to get in your pants.

RemoteGuava · 2020-11-24T21:37:24+00:00

To be fair, 99% of the time she would be right. A guy talking to her is looking for something.

Global_MGTOW · 2020-11-24T21:58:43+00:00

There was a Twitter cap of a man answering his phone next to a girl on a plane. The woman made up some scenario in her head that he would try and cheat on his gf with her and how she would reject him because she's been cheated on before. FFS he never said a word to her and was minding his own business, yet she's already inventing an entire scenario in her head, well, that's women summed up.

GroundbreakingAd7585 · 2020-11-24T22:46:41+00:00

Women: We can be just friends with men.

Also Women: I assume my men friends want some of this!

cleverbutnotoverlyso · 2020-11-24T23:34:38+00:00

Telling a girl you’re not physically attracted to her is the quickest way to get her to try to be attractive to you.

2020-11-24T23:41:58+00:00

"Monkey branching" - That's exactly how my ex-fiance would do and I'm too stupid to have realized what she was doing until it was too late.

Friendly-Casper · 2020-11-25T07:32:10+00:00

This is why it's best to keep all interactions with women at work to a bare minimum and professional in nature only. Do not ever become friendly or familiar with them in any way.

someevilwhitemen · 2020-11-24T13:57:30+00:00

happened to me once in the past, almost the same message, her situation was a bit different and instead of just talking to me she sent me a facebook message

back at the time when i had facebook, the first and only facebook message she ever sent to me

i just answer something like, i never thought we were or we ever will be in a relationship the people putting that idea in your head are so wrong

GynocentrismCanSMA · 2020-11-24T15:24:47+00:00

For the record men assume these things too.

yelo777 · 2020-11-24T17:08:49+00:00

You don't specify where you started talking to her. If it was on Tinder, I would think it's ok for the female to assume that you're at least interested in a hook up.

spotless1997 · 2020-11-24T19:03:02+00:00

What you need to remember is that thirsty simps are the reason women assume every man who talks to them is into them. Don’t get me wrong, it’s dumb but I’m more mad at the simps who give them this validation. I really do wish there was a way to recruit more men into MGTOW because it seems a lot more men become simps rather than join MGTOW. Men these days have to self respect and that’s why women get away with these grandiose egos.

realChebz · 2020-11-24T19:55:35+00:00

Good on her for telling you straight up, not sure why you're upset or the angry comments here. I would've preferred many women told me that ahead of time back when I was a blue pill idiot who still dated, instead of leading me on, and at last moment after I wine and dine them "oh sorry I have a bf, can we just be friends?"

xeq937 · 2020-11-24T20:24:25+00:00

🙉 monkey branch alert! 🙉

LegitimatePenguin · 2020-11-24T22:57:33+00:00

This reads like satire but I can never be sure on this sub

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-11-24T23:42:59+00:00

If you were Chad or Tyrone she would've already been ass up face down with a smile on her face.

AndyBrown65 · 2020-11-25T00:19:05+00:00

Similar thing happened to me, but slightly different. An old GF living interstate contacted me and asked if I knew X, I said no. I did the usual olive branch thing of "oh, next time you are back in town seeing your parents, did you want a coffee?" "Yes, and I'm actually in town right now" So, long story short, caught up, she whinged about how she was a single mum for 10 years and needed a man for her, and a father for her 14 yo daughter.

Suddenly, she moves interstate and I get the message:
"Hi Andy thank you for the catch ups and friendship I look forward to all that Sydney has for Bella and I and our future there I enjoy our chats but feel a little bit uncomfortable with your compliments All the best Andy and God bless you"

So essentially she was looking for a meal ticket and didn't find one with me. And yes, FYI, the were no "compliments" given to her, but it's nice she turned it around like that making me as the bad one and she as the nice one

2020-11-25T01:58:59+00:00

ah the power of suggestion.

except it's for her, not for you.

she's testing the waters, awaiting your reply, wondering if it's safe to proceed with further severing her ties mentally with her current relationship.

Chimimouryou24 · 2020-11-25T04:04:32+00:00

This is why it's hilarious when women are like "just talk to us like you would to men we aren't a different species". Really? Then why do you take normal communication to be flirting? If I treated you how I treat my male friends I'd be in a sexual harassment lawsuit in seconds

TheThotFearsTheTruth · 2020-11-25T17:42:56+00:00

Well it's like McDonalds, if you're there they assume you want fries. Likewise why would you associate with a female if you don't want a prostitute?

pilllogical · 2020-11-29T02:06:12+00:00

In a moment's notice though.

irishluckk · 2020-12-21T22:31:45+00:00

Maybe she was shit testing

Juninho888 · 2020-11-24T14:01:25+00:00

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RedGoldSickle · 2020-11-24T14:43:19+00:00

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Ziym · 2020-11-24T19:51:50+00:00

This is borderline schizotypal personality disorder on your part, as someone who has it.

You're assuming this person even gave it as much consideration as you. You also assume nothing you say comes off as flirting. And you get this butthurt that you were politely told that if you are send those messages, intentionally or not, its not going to be fruitful. The fact that you maintain a friendship means that line needs to be drawn.

It astonishes me how this sub can go full sperg over simple communication.

Title	She ASSUMED I Liked Her
Author	Juninho888
Upvotes	766
Comments	162
Date	November 24, 2020 12:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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