Help with anger phase

red-sfpplus · 2017-09-17T00:15:15+00:00

You need to stop focusing on what SHE is and focus on becoming what you need to be. Leave the anger phase you will.

CapNGrind · 2017-09-17T12:41:05+00:00

You aren't pissed at her. You're pissed at yourself. She's just a reflection of you.

dontbedenied · 2017-09-17T00:29:44+00:00

Just wanted to say I went through the same shit mentally. You're not alone. I struggled a LOT with feelings of inferiority comparing myself to the type of men who all women find more attractive than me. More naturally physically attractive, more muscular, more confident, better leaders, funnier, more "I don't give a fuck if you walk out the door because I can replace you easily" because they actually can.

I just take it a day at a time and do what I can to improve myself. There is ALWAYS going to be guys more Alpha than me. That's a fact of life. All we can control is ourselves, work on building the man we want to be, and trust the process.

88Will88 · 2017-09-17T01:24:37+00:00

Something is missing here, no way are you just angry about her being a lefty or just angry about female nature. Either some dude has been sticking it in her or you are not sure. Does she have male friends? Does she get online validation? What is really going on here? Just list your issues, not some bullshit grab bag of "women are A,B and C". What is your women doing?

ElSupremoDeluxe · 2017-09-17T07:18:59+00:00

"Marcia! Marcia! Marcia!"

You sound like Jan Brady. Focusing on someone other than yourself.

Work the sidebar. Do the work. Breathe.

Breathe.

What is the absolute worst that can happen? She leaves and you start over?

You leave and start over?

Breathe and relax. Work the sidebar. Relax. Breathe.

You come across as someone panicked. Stop. Read the sidebar, and slowly, SLOWLY, put it in play.

Neo_1975 · 2017-09-17T00:14:55+00:00

The anger phase lasts until you begin to see improvements. Stick to your MAP, work on your self, and don't expect the 1000 foot rope issue to resolve itself in 100 feet. AWALT. That means that there is a path forward.

Sepean · 2017-09-17T07:56:38+00:00

She she she.

Look bro, if you'd been alpha you would have been treated very well.

FireTempered · 2017-09-17T02:25:34+00:00

Your post appears to be an attempt to find a way to kill your anger.

u/Scurvemuch made a very pointed statement about anger. Seems more than appropriate here since it appears that your wife is the object of your anger, but you are the source.

the real cause of anger is one's inability to reconcile your past actions with their results

markpf73 · 2017-09-17T02:01:12+00:00

1) anger is only warranted when her actions materially impact your MAP.

2) Isolate her finances and social circles from yours and your MAP will be unimpeded by her self sabotaging ways...

3) you will eventually transition to feeling bad for a human trapped in a mind controlled by feelings. Just listen to two hens cluck away...almost every sentence begins with "I feel like...".

4) don't worry you will eventually observe all of this from the outside in and be indifferent in your next phase after anger...at this point stick with your MAP so you don't MGTOW and wind up FAPPING away your 40s, 50s, and 60s.

BluepillProfessor · 2017-09-17T16:55:03+00:00

Welcome...to the real world.

Acceptance is the final stage.

470_2_700_nm · 2017-09-18T00:36:54+00:00

She she she. Jesus man step out of it.

You had your eyes closed. You were a beta pussy. You carried on the great dad now I'll get a blowjob play. You had the dad bod. You bought into Disney. You mentally masturbated yourself. You were a little bitch.

Your mindset is still one of scarecity. Your head still believes your happiness depends on her. You are on a journey, and this is the rocky part where you fall, sprain your ankle, and scratch your knee up something fierce.

Good thing your internet buddies are here to pull you up and give you that stare that says "your not a pussy through and through, there is no time for it here". Now let's go.

mattizie · 2017-09-17T06:54:59+00:00

Anti-modern-feminist.

What does this mean? Why not just say feminist? All that shit is horrible.

mattizie · 2017-09-17T06:54:59+00:00

Anti-modern-feminist.

What does this mean? Why not just say feminist? All that shit is horrible.

LewisCross · 2017-09-17T16:16:51+00:00

At least in part, you're angry at yourself for something.

Check that part of it. And you'll find it.

screechhater · 2017-09-19T00:03:12+00:00

She ?

no wonder your so fucking angry ...... called oneitis, pedastalized pussy

zayelion · 2017-09-19T15:17:55+00:00

She didn't choose what she's attracted to. She didn't choose to be attracted to men with muscles. She didn't choose to be attracted to men high in the social order. She didn't choose to be attracted to men with confidence, men who lead, men who protect and guide the family.

She married you for a reason, you ... specifically you,... to some extent, are those things. And it is within your power to do those things. You arent mad at her, you're mad at yourself for not putting in the effort sooner. So put in the effort now and as much as possible.

Her being a feminist has so little to do with anything, because shes hitched to you now and you know the secrets. If anything it means she'll be even softer and submissive later on because you've murdered ever shit test. She's won she has you, you're either gonna rise to the occasion like the god she secretly wants or stay the beta bitch she thinks she wants. You are her ALPHA, act like it.

You know how, you've read the side bar. Get it done. Drop and give me 300. Work that self hatred off.

Kingofdeadbedroom · 2017-09-29T07:43:15+00:00

1) You do not have to give a shit about her politics. You don't have to agree with them. If she doesn't like it, then it's just tough luck.

2) Don't bother trying to make a partner happy, particularly by sacrificing your own interests and happiness. If you have been trying to do that and neither of you a happy, then that tells you all that you need to know. Make your own health, happiness, success, fun and fitness your top priorities. You cannot make her happy, but you can make yourself happy. If you are happy, then she will probably be happier too.

3) Enjoy your own life. Your happiness is not dependent on any one person. Women are replaceable. You don't even have to limit yourself to one at a time.

DatingCoach111 · 2017-10-02T15:24:31+00:00

Women do not have enough courage to take responsibility for their actions, so they are naturally fearful. And you're correct; it is not their fault for being this way. They are incapable of handling consequences like we can, so men truly are the stronger sex. Acknowledging their fear will help you accept them for who they are.

They need us.

batraz · 2017-09-17T21:24:09+00:00

Had similar issues with general irritability that caused anger spurts. ASHWAGANDHA helped me. It takes the edge away and gives you balance so you can give zero fucks when the usual annoyances happen.

Title	Help with anger phase
Author	HoveyC
Upvotes	24
Comments	28
Date	September 16, 2017 11:31 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MarriedRedPill
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