Please help me clear up something about MRP

thisisme0007 · 2015-06-29T11:13:47+00:00

Mid life crisis sounds to me like something invented to keep you plugged in.

battery_licker · 2015-06-29T12:11:29+00:00

First of all, there's no such thing as a mid-life crisis. The concept was made up to shame men for doing things that benefit themselves but don't benefit women.

As far as what goes on with men who are having a "mid-life crisis", it's about realizing that you finally have the ability to do things you've always wanted but felt you couldn't.

Taking the red pill is also a realization, but a different kind. It's the realization that the things you were told about how to succeed with women are all false.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-06-29T14:31:30+00:00

Realizing how the world works and that everything any woman ever told you about love, attraction, sex, or romance was a lie designed to test whether you had the mettle to ignore them makes for a hellofa "midlife crisis."

They have a lot in common since unplugging can trigger a so called midlife crisis and the "midlife crisis" can trigger that fateful google search that brings you to MRP.

However, as stated many times on this thread, the so called midlife crisis is an invention of the feminine imperative to shame men into remaining sexless, loveless provider drones.

TLDR: FUCK THAT!

TrainingTheBrain · 2015-06-29T11:20:57+00:00

how does a mid-life crises compare to taking the Redpill?

I'm 28, so take my advice for what it's worth. I've never felt that having a 'mid life crisis' was anything more than somebody looking for an excuse to take the plunge into something they've always wanted to do.

When it comes to starting a business or in your case, buying a Harley, you've probably always wanted to do it, but didn't have the balls to make the decision yourself and have waited for an excuse.

With the realization that you're at roughly the 'half way point' in your life, and you are accepting that nothing is guaranteed with death around the corner, you now have the excuse needed to take action.

I'd bet that if you had been living Red Pill the entire time, you'd of never gone through a mid life crisis and would have just continued on your way as an Alpha as fuck Man.

I'm not touching on the divorce or kids as this is solely, about your question regarding the 'mid life issue'.

Don't give the slightest shit to other people accusing you of doing this shit because you know you're getting old. Age is a number that comes with expectations. If we all listened to expectations there would be no MRP because we'd all be groveling and repressing our masculinity and sexuality.

Take care of you and lead your clan like the Family Alpha that you are. If you want that Harley and Want that vehicle, recognize that you bought it with hours of your life. These things aren't going to make you feel younger, nor will they extend your life. They are there to serve the purpose of your enjoyment.

Do. You. In whatever else it is you want to do, take the action necessary towards achieving those goals. If divorce is your path, then follow through, if it's not, then make it work. Raise your kids right and show them that Dad isn't buying shit for no reason but rather, because he is living in each moment and these purchases were a part of his overall plan for maximize life enjoyment and family enjoyment.

You don't buy a motorcycle so you can be alone all day every day on the road. You buy it so when you want to be alone, you can. Or just with the wife, you can. You're a Man and a Husband and a father. You have to balance these roles and in doing so strive for optimum existence.

TL;DR - Fuck the MidLife crisis bullshit, live life in a masculine manner and optimize every moment you've got on this planet.

Redneck001 · 2015-06-29T13:04:50+00:00

If you bought your wife expensive jewelry instead of a bike, would anyone call it a "crisis?"

Do what makes you happy, man. I buy myself stuff I've wanted but couldn't afford earlier in life. BECAUSE I can now afford it. Who gives a shit what others call it?

Midlife? Yes. Crisis? Um, no.

RPSigmaStigma · 2015-06-29T12:40:17+00:00

I read a study a while ago that found almost no correlation between a man's age and the typical behaviors associated with a "midlife crisis", but found a strong correlation with his wife's age. In other words, men do things like buy a sports car, start working out, etc, when their women reach a certain age, presumably because their subconscious is telling them their woman is past her prime childbearing age and is looking to attract younger women.

Tofitrightin · 2015-06-29T15:36:48+00:00

I'm 45. 40's is the old age of youth, and now we know shits going to start going downhill. Most people think I'm 30ish which is great, but even if I look it, I know that time is ticking away.

A midlife crisis is just you realizing "shit I gotta live before I die". I can't say I've hit anything that would fit as a crisis, but I don't think you did either.

Most of my spending is on stuff people don't see, so I don't get the issues, but if I were to get a sports car I'm sure I'd get the same as you. I personally grew up in a family where my father had a lot of sports cars, so I was done with them before I started.

Live your life as you need to, and you didn't really give any details on why you figure you are heading to divorce so can't say much about that.

stonepimpletilists · 2015-06-29T12:52:10+00:00

Way to early to post, but welcome
I'm 35, a mid life crisis is people freaking out because they didn't do anything in their lives, and they think it's too late. Didn't fuck enough chicks, go on enough adventures, and decided to be a dad and take care of an overgrown baby too soon. If thats your worry, just go do some shit. NMMNG spells that one out pretty well.

The reason they are looking at you funny is because you're completely off what people expect, and these things don't fit with who you are in their opinion.

If they tell you a mid life crisis, tell them to fuck off... I wanted a bike, I bought a bike

trphardmode · 2015-06-29T13:04:53+00:00

Calling it a mid-life crisis is a shaming tactic because good little wage slaves are not supposed to do that. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_Disintegration goes into crisises as a positive (and necessary) feature of self actualization - this is a common theory in psychology as well you see it in Jung and many spiritual teachings (dark night of the soul, etc.)

whinemoreplease · 2015-06-29T13:33:09+00:00

My thought is that you're letting others judge you. This is weak sauce, imo

AdanacRock · 2015-06-29T13:55:29+00:00

The shaming of the mid life crisis is just another way that society and your spouse holds you back and tries to keep your SMV lower than hers. You want to go by a harley or topless corvette.... she accuses you of going through a midlife crisis, the truth is that she knows that your SMV increases exponentially when you are doing things for your self.

Taking the redpill is different because instead of it being a temporary phase in your life this is a permanent way of life that you implement and fuck anyone else that doesn't get on board. A break from the society norm that you as the man has to put your spouses (or anyones) happiness ahead of yours.

ZeeyardSA · 2015-06-29T14:42:13+00:00

32 myself..I had a beard (islamic one) for Years..Decided to shave it off...Shaved my head as well..Started dressing better....The wife thought that I am going through a phase..You know what she is right..Its a phase of me doing what the fuck I want to do because I want to do it..Not because it will keep her happy or because religion says so..Do what you want for you!!!! Keep yourself happy and life will be better.

exbp · 2015-06-29T17:10:20+00:00

Who cares what they think? You're missing the point if you're concerned that people are whispering behind your back. Do the things that make you happy, include the people who you want to share with, exclude the rest from your attention.

Dot807 · 2015-06-29T21:01:37+00:00

MLC is real. There's no female conspiracy here. It's just something that begins to work it's way into your conscious as you begin to realize you're not young anymore. So what? Roll with it. I had a blast reinventing my earlier rock days. Formed two bands that played the originals nightclub circuit. You know, once you hit forty, there's a good chance you might need reading glasses. That's not gonna make you BP, nor is it a female construct.

wakethfkupneo · 2015-06-29T12:59:19+00:00

midlife crisis

So called "midlife crisis" is nothing but a socially constructed feminist approved myth.

In reality it is midlife epiphany about man's increasing SMV whether conscious or subconscious.

Don't buy into that crap!

Sexual Market Value chart: https://dalrock.files.wordpress.com/2013/08/smv_curve1.jpg

The Rational Male - Mid-Life Crisis: https://dalrock.files.wordpress.com/2013/08/smv_curve1.jpg

The most stereotypical mid-life crisis occurs for a man around age 40. It’s important to remember that a man’s SMV really begins to peak between 38-42. It’s at this point that men have the best chance to truly unplug from the Matrix; and it is also at this point that the Threat of a man becoming self-aware of his now fully developed SMV has it’s greatest urgency for women to repress him from realizing it.

Yea, this is you.

ruse_of_metacarpi · 2015-06-29T16:07:17+00:00

how does a mid-life crises compare to taking the Redpill? I

Most men on TRP have taken the pill long before marriage and family and vow never to get married. Many MRPers are just simply late to the party.

Like others on here have said, mid life crisis is just a tactic to keep you in line because it is during these times that many men realize that they've been had by society.

Also please see here:

http://therationalmale.com/2015/04/24/the-reckoning/

https://dontmarry.files.wordpress.com/2008/08/the_manipulated_man.pdf

bogeyd6 · 2015-06-29T11:03:21+00:00

I am not old enough to speak on this but I feel like I can see everyone's point. From the outside looking in the label seems to fit perfectly. Remember that your are not seeking validation or verification through others. Starting a few days ago you began to be your sole judge of you and your actions.

strategos_autokrator · 2015-06-29T14:49:06+00:00

Why do you care what they think of you? They are shaming you for your self improvement, trying to keep you plugged in. Why give value to the opiniion people that are criticizing how you are increasing your value?

alphabeta49 · 2015-06-29T17:01:45+00:00

When someone tried to shame you by labeling you that way, a&a.

"Yeah, I'm totally freaking out. Sometime soon I expect the end of the world to come, so I'm enjoying it while I can!"

KyfhoMyoba · 2015-06-30T18:40:32+00:00

I have read a lot of posts etc.

I hope most/all of them are on therationalmale.com

turbosympathique · 2015-06-29T21:11:55+00:00

the mid life crisis is something that is very real. But the definition of it is kind of vague. We have the same age and you will understand what I will explain to you.

It come a time when we take a cold hard look on the first half of our adult life and we then decide what direction we want for the other half. This is NOT something trivial. This is a very important time where (And sometime for the first time) we put our-self first.

Is your married life really what you want?

Do you want more out of life?

what can you do about it?

what are you willing to do about it?

Those are the question that we ask ourselves during this important event.

PS: English IS NOT my first language.

Title	Please help me clear up something about MRP
Author	The_Litz
Upvotes	4
Comments	34
Date	June 29, 2015 10:57 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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