"Do Not Get Divorced In Florida!" Billboards: Though Florida statutes are gender-neutral, divorce judges order permanent alimony with a bias against men and without consideration of men's financial circumstances. The result is "indentured servitude."

DoctorStorm · 2012-05-31T13:57:41+00:00

Dick Lindsey, President of the Alliance for Alimony Reform and divorced father of five, says even though Florida statutes are gender-neutral, the courts hand out (permanent) alimony with a bias against men and without consideration of their financial circumstances.

This is an important aspect of the overarching argument of alimony reform.

Legislate the ability for women to transfer wealth away from men upon divorce.
Facilitate the process by allowing unreasonable sums of money to be transferred away from the men.
Lawyers go where the money is, and there's lots of money here.
The number of instances of women divorcing and successfully transferring wealth away from the men increases, thus the probability of success in general increases.
Given a sufficiently high probability of success, more women attempt and succeed the same, or similar, process.
Divorced men who have their wealth transferred away from them unjustly are subjected to the concept of alimony, and thus forced to either be for or against the concept.
The percentage of women successfully transferring wealth away from men is directly correlated to the percentage of men fighting for alimony reform.

I don't think it's coincidental that the president of AAR is a divorced father of five.

These women are building an army, and they don't even realize it.

McFeely_Smackup · 2012-05-31T17:11:11+00:00

Alimony is itself a horror of human indignity, permanent alimony is nonsensical, almost a punative punishment for the stupidity of getting married in the first place.

I get that alimony had a purpose in the original intent. Women didn't work, didn't have careers or job skills, and if dumped by a husband post middle age, had nothing to fall back on. I'm sorry, but this is 2012...those justifications NO LONGER APPLY.

Now we're subjected to ridiculing men as "man children" because they're rejecting the institution that has evolved into a financial no win situation for them? Sorry, but at this point rejecting marriage is not an immature position, it's a highly educated and sensible position that I like to sum up as "Paying Attention".

2012-05-31T15:30:38+00:00

...unless you are a woman.

ExecThrowaway · 2012-05-31T19:59:37+00:00

My parents were separated for a couple years before finally divorcing.

My mother was living in an extravagant house inherited from my grandmother's (at the time) recent passing, along with money inheritance. She was dating a doctor that was living with her, taking her to fancy meals several times a week, that whole spoiling deal.

My father was just short of homeless, relying on help from his side of the family for a place to stay. She has her own business, he was struggling to find a job in a city where unemployment rate was at 18%.

Despite all of this, the courts forced him to pay alimony that he absolutely under no circumstances had the ability to provide. And when he couldn't, they almost had him put in jail... on Christmas eve.

This went on for years. My father married another woman, that has three young children. My mother continued to live with the doctor. He bounced from job to job, struggling to provide for his wonderful new family.

My mother continued to pursue the alimony, like a fucking vulture. My dad has fought it the entire time, with everything that he could. His lawyer was my uncle... and at some point during the battles, he passed away due to a heart attack. And my dad's case went with him.

This started in... 08. Only last year did he finally manage to get my mom called out on enough of her shit that the court realized the entire situation was fucked up, and finally cut her off.

You guessed it, living in Florida.

overtmind · 2012-05-31T15:28:11+00:00

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bluthru · 2012-05-31T15:15:49+00:00

This country needs an anti-marriage movement.

ninfan200 · 2012-05-31T19:13:37+00:00

The more I read reddit, the less I want to see florida

flemishknight · 2012-05-31T14:53:17+00:00

Even better, do not get married, ever!!!!

Liverotto · 2012-05-31T16:11:03+00:00

I think it is safer for a man to inject with heroin than to get married.

Shattershift · 2012-05-31T17:44:53+00:00

You probably just shouldn't get married.

nduece · 2012-05-31T22:39:03+00:00

Why not "Do Not Get MARRIED In Florida!"?

Hypersapien · 2012-05-31T15:21:29+00:00

Has the Family section of the Florida Bar made any attempt to justify their position? Has anyone asked them to?

MarkDLincoln · 2012-05-31T17:59:06+00:00

Florida, the only state with it's own Fark category.

MissCait · 2012-05-31T17:28:24+00:00

No one should do anything in Florida. The state is crap when it comes to laws.

jbuk1 · 2012-05-31T19:10:15+00:00

Surely it's more of a case of don't get married in Florida.

FascistOrigami · 2012-05-31T14:47:01+00:00

Florida is a police state. I would fully expect this of Florida.

Really, the billboards should be saying "Do Not Live in Florida!"

MRMRising · 2012-05-31T23:27:58+00:00

Frisher notes that the family section of the Florida Bar has made their intentions eminently clear in that they will oppose any change to current law.

Gotta keep that gravy train rolling, no matter how many lives it ruins.

Il128 · 2012-05-31T16:03:00+00:00

I know most of the country looks at the south as backwards and oppressive and anti-woman...

Trust me, you do not want to get divorced in the south. Yes. The south is backwards. Backwards in that women are helpless and men are evil and women have to be taken care of for the rest of their lives.

2012-06-01T01:04:26+00:00

not exactly. I got divorced, i got custody of my daughter, and my ex wife doesnt have to pay me anything because i didnt want her to. I live in florida. It also helps that she didnt have a lawyer or show up to court.

betaprime · 2012-06-01T03:14:48+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I was under the mistaken impression that Florida's alimony laws were fairer than elsewhere.

SatisfactionSorry830 · 2023-02-05T01:27:44+00:00

What is the wife has been sole provider and spouse never worked 50% of marriage in and out of prison . We have 2 minor children and have been married 14 yrs. He is threatening to go after alimony. Is that possible in Florida. He is a registered felon