Dry Spell? Try 12 years.

razzertto · 2013-02-06T19:23:09+00:00

My favorite part(s):

When i hear a woman tell me that she’s gone through a dry spell and not had sex in over X weeks/ months.. i feel like putting my fist through her face.

When i hear a woman tell me that she just picked up a random guy for a night of fun because she was lonely, i feel like i’m glad i don’t own a gun.

When i hear a woman tell me that i shouldn’t feel bad about having gone without for so long, after all it’s only just sex, i feel like disfiguring her face with a scalpel.

Nice. Real nice. Classy even. Keep it up!

Edits: formatting.

LadyLuq · 2013-02-06T14:43:13+00:00

This article is hilarious. Dude calls women cunts and sluts and has fantasies of punching women in the face and slashing them with a knife, then goes on to call himself a nice guy. Shames women for the evil act of having casual sex with men who aren't him, then brags about it when he does the same thing. Compares not getting laid to actually being raped. Also has no idea how biology works.

Does anyone care to explain the downvotes? Does anyone want to explain why it's apparently okay to fantasize about mutilating women and calling them cunts and sluts? Does anyone want to explain why it's okay to shame women who have casual sex, but then brag when you do it? Does anyone want to explain why not getting laid is comparable to rape?

C0CKPUNCHER · 2013-02-06T15:15:15+00:00

Sympathy or gloating. If you are over it good, but no sympathy then - you don't need it. If you are suffering, good to admit it, but lets not pretend suffering makes you a better person.

It's also possible that you don't understand your experience. It seems he thinks being nice is somehow separate from respecting others.

chocoboat · 2013-02-06T16:09:20+00:00

Interesting read... no doubt he's not the only one out there. It can be very frustrating and dehumanizing to do everything you can to treat people nicely, follow all the advice you are given, and make every effort to have a successful relationship while being a decent person... then not only be endlessly reject, but see those same women dating assholes and losers instead of you.

He's pretty angry about the situation and writes some hateful things that aren't good to say, but I can see why he feels so angry about it.

Interesting point about women desiring sex less... still, I'm not sure that's true. Yes, there are fewer male prostitutes/escorts/etc., but that's not necessarily because women desire sex less - it's because they're much more able to find someone to have sex with when they want to.

This is partly because there's no societal shaming for men if a woman approaches and makes it clear she wants to have sex- no one would make fun of the man for taking her home to have sex. But a woman is taught that if she accepts offers like that frequently, she's a bad person.

It's a repeating cycle of anti-woman behavior harming the woman and creating anti-male behavior, which harms guys like this article writer and now he's full of hatred for most women, and it continues on.

LobotomistCircu · 2013-02-06T09:27:54+00:00

I like this article, but I have to question it's validity. Most dudes I know on a 12-year dry spell do not have the divine ability to bang out a stripper to close out over a decade of rejection, for one--I buy an evolution into a more assertive person who can do anything, but who out there really can go from zero to 60 quite that fast?

I'd also claim that 12 years is an absurd amount of time to live with failure, but that does actually happen and I know it does. Most men gone that long never recover.

OuiCrudites · 2013-02-06T14:54:24+00:00

I may have a lower sex drive then most men but for the last seven years I only had sex during one trip overseas and that's it

I will occasionally go through a few weeks / month where I get lonely and frustrated but it passes and I'm perfectly fine again

I am not without issues - for instance I am about 25 pounds overweight and I'm sure part of that is compensation for lack of affection - but sex just isn't that big of a deal to me

ExpendableOne · 2013-02-06T18:56:46+00:00

My main problem with this piece is that it ends up just being about "stop being nice, stop being yourself, stop treating women like equals and just be an asshole because it works". In the end, that's not really trying to do the right thing or trying to fix the problem, it's just adapting to a shitty situation or making the best out of an existing problem. What about those men who fundamentally believe in equality and treating women as equals? What about those men who want to be nice or be themselves, or who feel that they deserve to be treated the same way women do when they get to "be themselves"? Is it that unthinkable that the majority of women, or younger women, could learn to make educated or ethical decisions? I don't think the reaction to seeing men being sexually, emotionally and socially being degraded or neglected should just be to blame the victim or tell them "just fit in this tiny little mold of toxic masculinity and everything will work out eventually". There is a definite social problem here being perpetuated by feminism and existing standards of gender roles/expectations, male expendability and sexism. That is where the harm lies and that is what needs to be fixed.

rottingchrist · 2013-02-07T04:57:20+00:00

You know, legalizing prostitution would go a long way towards alleviating this kind of disturbing frustration.

HugoWeaver · 2013-02-06T08:16:17+00:00

The article the author references is here.

Some awesome quotes:

"... It’s been so freaking long since I have had cock inside me... I think it must be over two weeks now."

And my favourite:

"Every girl should have a few fuck buddies on speed dial."

YAY! Let's objectify men! Sure, it's fine and dandy but if a guy says the exact same thing, the feminists jump on him for treating girls like objects

I LOVE the imbalance here

WolfmanMac · 2013-02-06T19:44:54+00:00

All I can relate to is my personal experiences. I cruised along after my divorce with the whole nice guy thing. I wanted a good relationship with a good woman. What I got was burned several times in rapid succession. Finally the day came that it had happened one too many times. I was sick of it, sick at heart and didn't give a shit. anymore. Thats an important point - not that I learned how to act like I didn't care - I really, truly didn't care. Women could lay, stay or get out of the way and ya know what? I didn't care which. In fact, if I had to choose, I would have chosen get out of the way. And take your vagina with you. Hate women? Yes, I did. I had decided all they wanted was a scumbag. So scumbag is what they were going to get.
The effect on my love life was enormous. Suddenly, it seemed I couldn't walk into the post office without being approached by willing, attractive women. I would go into a quik stop for a coke, and some girl would give me her number. For about a year, it was like my world was a sexual buffet. I was actually lying to women to get a night by myself. At one point I had five in steady rotation and various other hit and runs. I felt like Pondo Sinatra in "The Party Animal" after he discovers the recipe for the ultimate aphrodisiac.
I must also add - Im not exceptionally good looking - Im average in every respect, including equipment. Except athletically - I have always loved to pump iron, so I guess I have a better than average build. But I didn't make a lot of money then or now, drove my pick up truck, lived in an apartment - nothing special. But I had soemthing I didn't even realize I had - I had "The Attitude." And the hamster can't resist "The Attitude." Life is a lot different now - that time passed. I now truly have much better things to do and Im a lot older now. But because of that time, I can now say - I've been on both sides of it. Mr. Nice guy, and Mr. asshole. I realized then what the universal truth is - man want the respect of the woman they love and will do most anything to get it. Women want the love of a man they respect - and will do almost anything to get it. And.women.don't.respect.nice.guys. Why? They can get that anywhere, for free. All a cute girl has to do to get guys to be nice to her is..."be." Guys will be nice to her. Even when they have every reason not to be. She can screw you - or screw WITH you. Which will she choose? Whichever seems like more fun.

Clauderoughly · 2013-02-06T15:55:03+00:00

The only reason he has gone 12 years without, is because he is playing the game by their rules.

He needs to go and fine a nice, reliable professional lady of lovin, and then he can get laid when ever he wants.

Yeah, women get sex easier.

But that whole post comes off as a whine by an unhappy teen.

andreipmbcn · 2013-02-06T14:44:55+00:00

One thing that always bothers me about these situations is that no one thinks of holding women accountable for the harm that they deliberately cause. The wisest thing to do, once you realize that they are so manipulative, is to stand up against women, denounce them, minimize their influence in the world and ensure that, once artificial wombs become commercially available, no one will prevent men from having children without having to jump through hoops for women's personal amusement.

Title	Dry Spell? Try 12 years.
Author	kanuk876
Upvotes	2
Comments	108
Date	February 6, 2013 7:25 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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