tackling the patriarchy will take personal sacrifice and work, it's not something you just out source to women or female feminists while endlessly complaining about the efforts of other people who are actually trying to change society for the better while you do nothing. It means changing your perspective on dating, calling in friends and family about problematic things and deconstructing your own societal baggage about all things gender.

If you're asking yourself: "Why aren't feminists doing X" you should be asking "What can I personally do about X?". Society isn't just happening to you, you are a key player in society and your actions and choices have repercussions.

And if "sacrifice" sounds like a heavy word, well... Everybody here has made some sacrifices. On the other hand it feels way better being your authentic self, rather than playing pretend all your life just to get status and societal approval from the other desperate people in the rat race. I'll take integrity over wearing a mask any day.