Do men also get pumped and dumped?

Hairbrainer · 2017-05-05T01:10:11+00:00

All kinds. Frankly it's usually the more attractive guys who are assholes or are dumb that get that treatment, in my experience. Girls looking for a ONS just want a hard body, though other times they go for the first guy at the bar who doesn't weird them out. I've been pumped and dumped, and I think it's literally because I seemed like the kind of guy that wouldn't make headlines the next day for a murder suicide.

despisedlove2 · 2017-05-05T02:24:11+00:00

Men are used for resources. They are chumped and dumped.

goatismycopilot · 2017-05-05T01:08:41+00:00

Ha. Ha. I was waiting for all the men here to express their desire to get pumped and dumped.

abicus4343 · 2017-05-05T03:43:50+00:00

Probably happens to young dudes who date older women

squidracer · 2017-05-05T01:02:12+00:00

Pretty much sums up my 20's . And last year.

Lots of recently separated gals out there

ManSentHisOwnWay · 2017-05-05T09:24:07+00:00

I wish...

Just kidding, of course men also get pumped and dumped. Men can develop feelings for women they casually sleep with and feel bad when those girls don't return those feelings.

louplop · 2017-05-05T06:44:29+00:00

Yes we do

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Unabummer80 · 2017-05-05T11:32:25+00:00

I've been used for sex a number of times. Usually at parties and whatnot when the girls were drunk. More recently when I suspect the women were just bored and lonely or something. A few times with married women, I guess just so they could scratch an itch?

Wallstreet3 · 2017-05-05T04:24:53+00:00

If you are well-endowed and people know, you will get women just wanting the experience.

OurThrownAwayDreams · 2017-05-05T01:36:45+00:00

Where's the sign up sheet?

andrew_rdt · 2017-05-05T03:36:25+00:00

Does it count if the guy feels the same way about the girl? Both mutual fwb that neither would actually date.

simcity4000 · 2017-05-05T10:54:23+00:00

Yeah. I used to have no job and live in a squat in a warehouse. Women would fuck me but wouldn't call back.

In some ways its way easier to get women for ONS if you present yourself as explicitly not being boyfriend material. If she thinks she might see you again she might be way more critical about whether she wants to hook up with you right now. If she knows she probably wont, she'll say "fuck it why not".

LewisCross · 2017-05-05T13:31:54+00:00

Sure. Women pump and dump men all the time.

It just takes longer. Generally, she has to marry them first, pump all the resources and assets out of him, then she dumps him. (EDIT: ah. u/despisedlove2 said it first.)

But seriously - I've known women who've pumped and dumped guys - fucked a hot guy for little more than the bragging rights. Every woman I've ever known who has had a one nighter can tell a story of getting a very, very attractive man for sex, a top 20%er. She just wanted to fuck the guy just to fuck him; just to see what sex with a hardbody hawtguy fuckboi is like.

fatchobanispliff · 2017-05-05T13:53:19+00:00

Sort of, I've had a guy that didn't want to have a real relationship but went ballistic when I broke up with him claiming I was using them for sex and was leaving him for a bigger dick (yes, men are actually this insecure that they think women judge them exclusively on penis size and never on behavior and treatment). I told him that I wasn't going to meet up with him once a week for sex when the sex is bland and we're barely hanging out or doing anything, he told me that he was going to plan a vacation to fucking Montenegro for us (of all fucking places?) and put in more effort but he was just trying to lie his way into my vagina. He was only sad he lost another person to control and use for sex. Its not the same heartbreak as when men explicitly lie to women to sleep with them and than break it off.

yo_radical_one · 2017-05-05T18:08:37+00:00

I have been which is weird because I see myself as even better relationship material than fuckboi material.

Five_Decades · 2017-05-06T20:31:34+00:00

Chad. Celebrities.

Transmigratory · 2017-05-06T23:42:07+00:00

Bottom men do, yes.

winterrider · 2017-05-05T06:22:42+00:00

No. This concept doesn't exist for men. It exists for women but not us.

If a man is being "used" for sex, this increases his value. More women consider him attractive. In other words, if he had purely sexual relationships with 20 women, women generally would consider him SIGNIFICANTLY more attractive than a guy who didn't generate this kind of attraction from women.

caesarfecit · 2017-05-05T16:28:53+00:00

Men are more likely to get friendzoned or cheated on.

Though I'd agree with many other posters that Chads get pump and dumped all the time, though not for the reason you'd expect.

Chads get pump and dumped because that's all they are to women - a male sex object. And many Chads don't mind that.

Now that doesn't take into account that many women will try to boyfriend up a Chad only to change their minds a few months in. That a Chad might object to. Or they get super clingy and force Chad to dump her.

What you'll likely find with most Chads is that they can basically pick free pussy off the tree, but finding a decent girlfriend is a much harder thing. Either she's only into him for his superficial qualities, or she gets let down as she gets to know him and realizes that he's not perfect or he gets vulnerable and the "Chadness" is fatally undermined. Or she tries to top from the bottom and their relationship is an on/off nightmare dominated by power struggles and drama.

fuxdpus · 2017-05-05T01:15:09+00:00

Maybe. But we like it.

funny_lyfe · 2017-05-05T01:23:51+00:00

Yes. It happens. What kind of men? The kind that are the top 5 maybe 10% of all men. When is a FWB not dateable? Usually the guys don't want a relationship, the women want it. Women are masters at ghosting.

Temperfuelmma · 2017-05-05T03:19:27+00:00

If so, what kind of men are more likely to be used just for sex but nothing more?

The kind of men that give validation to an insecure woman that she is desired by high SMV men by virtue of being incredibly handsome 😉

Fdreal · 2017-05-05T05:08:33+00:00

99% of the time men have no desire to LTR their one-night stands so the question is kind of silly. Does it happen? sure. Is it common? not at all, the type of men that would get what they themselves would describe as "pumped and dumped" are not the type of men that are used for sex.

theiamsamurai · 2017-05-05T15:00:41+00:00

Women usually use the guy for tingles, money, or validation, and THEN dump him. That's even worse.

soccerstar77 · 2017-05-05T07:03:02+00:00

No, a man never has casual sex or a ONS with the intention of it becoming a long term relationship. This is a purely female idea.

Title	Do men also get pumped and dumped?
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Date	May 5, 2017 12:48 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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