How is the second branch secured during a monkey branching?

h1shman · 2024-02-29T22:33:23+00:00

Off topic but Jesus Christ

So he finds out the girl is cheating on her bf and his reaction is to ask her to be exclusive.

When you find out a girl has an STD do you plan to go raw the next date?

Not only this but then YOU, the friend, are sitting there trying to get advise.

Bro I can’t even 🤦

kalashhhhhhhh · 2024-02-29T21:30:32+00:00

The girl is already checked out before she even meets/notices the guy she will branch swing to. Meeting the new guy is usually the last push towards finally ending a bad relationship she wanted to end anyway, but was too much of a pussy actually do it.

Source: I was that girl.

ColbyXXXX · 2024-02-29T22:43:33+00:00

You branch swing after a couple different events.

Get caught talking to or having sex with the 2nd guy and then leave for him.
The 2nd guy is now available either they broke up or got left by their ltr or they moved locations.
The 1st guy falls on hard times emotionally or financially.
The 1st guy breaks up with her due to lack of intimacy or whatever because she treats him differently now.
She just doesn’t like the 1st guy anymore and leaves for the 2nd guy.

blebbyroo · 2024-02-29T20:56:06+00:00

I would have been considered to “branch swing” from my first ltr into my second but it happened different to how you explained.

In my relationship it had gotten extremely toxic and abusive - yes abusive and even his grandma was telling me to leave him and that I deserved better- I had mentally checked out, was emotionally exhausted and was described by multiple People as a shell of myself. I was already planning on how to leave when I ended up getting back in touch by chance with a guy friend I met years ago and we reconnected on fb just started chatting. This helped build my confidence and eventually I was emotionally cheating. Broke up with my first bf and then got to be single for awhile but while constant chatting with second guy (second guy lived in Australia). Eventually moved to Australia and second ltr started.

So they met difference for me was 1. I was already going to leave and 2. Was already checked out. If our relationship was healthy or at least had only normal strife not abuse it wouldn’t have happened.

twistednormz · 2024-02-29T20:56:37+00:00

So, this is your second attempt at this post. In the first attempt you wrote the whole thing as a gendered thing that women in general do. Here was my response to that :

"You've written this whole post in a gendered way as if "monkey branching" is female behaviour rather than human behaviour. There are SOME men and SOME women who behave this way, so to suggest that it's something women do in general is ridiculous.

Every boyfriend I ever broke up with - the first question out of his mouth was "there's someone else, isn't there?". And even though there was no one else and I told him as much, he still went and told all his buddies that I left him for someone else. This is how I know that it's not that so many women exhibit this behaviour, it's that men pretend to their buddies, and themselves, that there was nothing he could have done to prevent the break up, it's not that he was a bad boyfriend, it's that she did the common female behaviour of "monkey branching".

To answer your question ; men and women who do this do any and all of the things you listed, there's no one method. But please, don't be so naive, it's coming across like you heard or read something along the lines of "women always monkey branch" and just accepted it without question. It would serve you well to develop some critical thinking skills."

All you've changed in this post is the opening line

Definition: can be done by man or woman

But then straightaway add:

But Lets say a girl is in a LTR or similar situation with a guy. But she meets another guy who is a perceived "upgrade".....

So you still believe it's something women generally do and not men, which is just silly, and this is a bad faith attempt to repeat the same post with the same sentiments but pretend it's not gendered in that way, as if we wouldn't notice.

And just to prove my point you've added in the following line:

I will never branch swing myself as a male

Being male doesn't prevent you from doing that, your personality and values do. Enough with the sexism, learn to think critically. And by the way, your "friend" should forget about her, if she wanted to be with him she would be. Grow up.

his_purple_majesty · 2024-02-29T22:53:31+00:00

Exactly like all the women in this thread are saying. Another guy comes along and all of a sudden the guy they're with is an abuser and they checked out a long time ago, even though just last week they were talking about how much they loved their current partner and were planning a future together. They discard every positive and focus only on the negatives, concocting an entirely new narrative that justifies their course of action.

TRTGymBro · 2024-02-29T21:30:51+00:00

This is not how it works. There is no monkey branching, which implies that a woman leaves one relationship because she has come across an incremental upgrade. Women tend to stay in dying relationships or relationships where they have lost attraction to the male until they meet someone else and can seamlessly transition to a new relationship.

Meaning, most women will not dump a guy, stay single and only then look for a new guy. I'm sure it happens, but is not as common. To men it may appear as "monkey branching" simply because they are not aware that things between him and his woman have been over for quite some time. Usually things are over when a woman loses respect for her bf/husband and no longer considers him and alpha male. Her instincts tell her to go and find another alpha male who can protect her.

The same things happens in the animal kingdom. Lionesses will test a male lion to see if he is getting weak, old or lazy. And if they sense weakness, they move on to a new male who is stronger, younger and more capable.

Sorry, it's nature!

GreiratTheUndead · 2024-03-01T06:13:46+00:00

"Can" It’s a well established strategy by women and men might want to counter it by checking out before she can do it. So guy’s might want to internalize the monkey branch.

Look at your girls phone right now and tell me how many guys do you see messaging her heart react on her socisl media? Yea.

That’s why it says, she’s not yours it’s just your turn.

You don’t obsess, you don’t commit unless she really starts earning that place in your life when you commit, and when she wants to have "the talk" ignore it right away if she doesn’t ad value.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2024-02-29T21:42:46+00:00

It is made behind the back of the partner, every monkey branching start with cheating.

ArtifactFan65 · 2024-02-29T23:16:16+00:00

In my family members case she monkey branched while divorced but still living together with her ex husband while he looked for a new house. And she also had the kids as a backup to emotionally leech from while waiting for the new guy to move in. I'm not sure at which point exactly she got the new guys agreement to monkey branch to him, she possibly just used her intuition to know it was safe.

Monkey branching is an incredibly common tactic because many people either become emotionally dependent on having a partner and afraid to be single for 5 seconds, or they are just too weak to confront their partner directly and break up the first relationship.

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obviousredflag · 2024-03-01T16:26:45+00:00

Could be very well that she just wants to have an affair and this isn't monkey branching at all. Also, what kind of "many signals and hits for an upgraded status with him" did she give, when she didn't even tell him about the otther guy? "you would be a way better partner if i already was in a relationship with a guy that was worse than you!" :D

Title	How is the second branch secured during a monkey branching?
Author	JosephBosa
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Date	February 29, 2024 8:32 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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