Wanting to stop birth control

feral-pixi-starling · 2024-01-31T23:12:39+00:00

GET OFF THE PILL!! It’ll change the game!!

deviant_priestess · 2024-01-31T23:03:10+00:00

Hey!! I have a lot of experience with this. Hormonal birth control legitimately destroyed my life as a teen, and I was off it for 7 years.

My best recommendation is to read A Mind of Her Own by Dr. Kelly Brogan. She’s an Ivy-trained psychiatrist and has a lot of insights on how these things effect women. She’s lowkey gone off the rails lately, but this book was back when she was awesome. There’s an audiobook too, it might be on Spotify.

I loved being off birth control. My skin cleared, my mood cleared, I got stronger and more of myself. I tracked my cycles and learned more about my body. I could predict when I would get my period down to 30 minutes. My boyfriend was very supportive of cycle tracking and using condoms during ovulation.

I had a pregnancy scare in November, and my boyfriend and I realized that we loved each other so much there was no longer any way that we could abort a child if we had fallen pregnant, and we don’t want a child before marriage.

So, after a lot of research, I chose to get the Copper IUD (no hormones) and like it just as much. The peace of mind is amazing, and it actually is helping my endometriosis a lot. Good luck and let me know what you decide!

IWTTYAS · 2024-02-01T07:36:41+00:00

I'm going to give you a word of advice. Then you do this you need to warn people. You may suddenly become REALLY b*tchy. I was the same way - horrible cramps - vomiting in high school. I was 24 when I got off them and I was a nightmare for about a week. I honestly got so mad I threw a coffee cup AT my husband probably because he was breathing. It was NUTS. I called my GYN who said - yeah - we probably need to ween you off instead of just crashing you but - might as well ride it out.

Talk to your doctor. Ask your doc and explain your reasons. Don't argue if "let's step you down slowly" is the option.

You do not want to hit hormone-crash angry. I'm 48 - AND WOW - do I rememeber being this level of irrational. Yep - it was when I got off the pill.

You've been putting in chemicals for years that have been controling your cycle. Now you're going to stop that input. It's gonna be a weird transition but you'll live (you might be cranky AF but I don't regret getting off them)

Jewelry_lover · 2024-01-31T23:56:17+00:00

You’ll be fine. I went on birth control for very severe period cramps from 17-21. I’m 26 now and I’m doing well

Ok_Outside149 · 2024-01-31T23:37:57+00:00

There’s lots of opinions out there about contraception but I would just like to remind you that lots and lots and lots of very educated people have dedicated their lives to researching it and making it safe for today’s standards. It DOES affect your hormones and your moods but that does not make it unsafe. Long term use of contraception does not affect future fertility. Nearly 15 thousand women were part of this study and the vast majority of them were able to get pregnant within the year (which aligns with the normal conception rates).

Fwiw I don’t use contraception so I’m not a contraception shill or anything. I’m just someone that does my own research, but at the same time defers to the expertise of people much smarter than me with more knowledge in their field. Humility is a feminine trait ;)

Fae_Leaf · 2024-01-31T23:24:32+00:00

I would never touch hormonal birth control, and I don’t encourage it for anyone. You’re literally messing with your hormone levels. That shouldn’t be taken lightly. And anything that intentionally suppresses your body’s natural functions is a big NO for me.

In addition to screwing up your hormones, birth control depletes your body of vitamins and minerals like different B vitamins, magnesium, and more. That was what woke me up when I was on it (for about 2 years) to get off. It took me almost 10 months to have a period again. And my libido has NEVER been the same despite being on the lowest dose (I had bad side effects on the “normal” one), not being on it for that long, and eating an extremely healthy diet.

It’s very simple to avoid pregnancy via more natural methods like condoms or NFP. My husband and I did that for three years before conceiving with no issues.

Mommy_Koala · 2024-01-31T23:33:18+00:00

Read “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” by Toni Weschler. I read this back in my TTC days and was shocked at how much I learned.

Comfortable-Wish-192 · 2024-01-31T23:52:01+00:00

RN:

A hormone secreting IUD does not give your body systemic hormones. For example someone who has had a pulmonary embolus, hormones are absolutely contraindicated but they can still have an IUD.

Or copper IUD

Your chance of death in pregnancy is exponentially higher than any risk associated with birth control. Do not have unprotected sex please.

AutoModerator · 2024-01-31T22:57:57+00:00

Title: Wanting to stop birth control

Author tinkspace

Full text: Hello, I would really appreciate some advice on birth control and its side effects, and how my situation relates to all of it.

For some context: I have been on the pill since I was 12/13, and I am 21 now. My periods started when I was 11 and before starting birth control they were pretty heavy. The main reason I started birth control was to regulate them and clear up some bad acne that I had, and for about 4 years now I have had no issues with either. (However the clear skin could maybe be attributed to sticking to a skincare routine better than I did as a preteen.)

I did not start BC with the intention of having sex (at 13 of course not). Not saying it was out of the question when I was 18+, but I never had a boyfriend while I was a teenager, and I am against casual sex and hookups. I have a boyfriend now and this factors into my decision about stopping birth control.

Recently online (twitter) I have been seeing people talk about how bad the side effects of BC are for young women, and how high the risks are for complications in the future. I have never experienced some of the worst ones, deppression or blood/heart issues, but I am really worried about how my fertility and mood might be effected if I continue to take BC, and how it might affect those things when I come off it.

I have never truly 'needed' birth control, as I have never been sexually active. My boyfriend and I are also long distance, so even now that I do have a partner, it's not something we've needed to worry about. However with a plan to visit him in the summer, my worries with BC are a bit inconvienient.

My main concern with continuing birth control is how it could negatively affect (or has already started affecting) my fertility and hormones, and to a lesser extent the health issues it might cause (though after 14 years with no complications I am less concerned about that).

As for stopping BC, obviously there is a higher chance of pregnancy, but I am also worried about mood changes, and how my body will respond to suddenly stopping after so long. It would also suck to have a face full of acne again but of course I would take that over health problems.

Anyway, if anyone has been in a similar situation I would really love to hear how these things affected you. Stopping birth control after a long time or continuing on birth control for a long time, and if any side effects have occured because of either.

(and to quickly note yes I am going to talk to my boyfriend :) and yes I am definitely going to talk to my doctor as well! The real reason I wanted to ask this here is because I align with a lot of the perspectives and opinions this sub holds and I am hoping some people will understand where I am coming from with my worries haha)

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youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-01-31T23:35:25+00:00

Yeesh. It was so irresponsible of them to perpetually put you on the pill to "regulate your periods" at ELEVEN. Periods naturally don't stabilize until then mid-teens! And then to not follow up and get you to a point where you didn't need them any more...

1) I recommend finding a naturopathic doctor who specializes in women's health and hormones. They'll be a good guide for coming off BC, and will be able to help you regulate your hormones at the root source if you have issues afterwards, not superficially mimic healthy functionality while covering the real issue like hormonal BC does. You can also talk to them about non-hormonal BC for sex like barrier methods.

2) Check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. You will learn so much about your reproductive system that no one ever taught you, and you'll also be exposed to one possible natural method of BC with a high accuracy rate should you ever choose to use it.

FancyPants882 · 2024-02-01T01:17:14+00:00

With regards to dating and finding a long-term partner, hormonal birth control can really screw things up for you. Your pheromones and scent are strongly impacted by your hormones, and interrupting them disrupts your natural scent that attracts men. Conversely, the scents that you are attracted to and your attunement to scents is disrupted while on HBC. This can lead to people's natural and instinctual attraction to each other being completely railroaded.

When entering a relationship on HBC then stopping it during the relationship, partners can lose attraction for each other due to this as your scent and interpretation of scents completely changes. This can also be on a completely subconscious level, as people don't tend to be very attuned to nuances of scents. Our sense of smell tells us so much about our environment and people we come into contact with. It can even tell you when someone is unwell. HBC stops this amazing sense we have from functioning properly.

There are a whole host of reasons why I don't support HBC, but this one is one of the lesser-known reasons.

As you haven't met your partner face to face yet, you're kind of lucky as you have the opportunity to get your hormones into relative balance before meeting him, and the results of your initial physical interactions with each other will be genuine.

SquirrelofLIL · 2024-02-01T00:45:28+00:00

I am 41 and want to start for the first time, but am afraid of the over 35 rule.

Equivalent-Ad5449 · 2024-01-31T23:52:46+00:00

Birth control is horribly bad for you. Esp when being on from so young, your poor body never had a chance to regulate and operate as should.

Hang_your_halo · 2024-01-31T23:49:46+00:00

My body responded SO positively to getting off it. My anxiety almost completely went away!

AnyCommon9108 · 2024-02-01T00:10:08+00:00

Sharing my story as I made this decision around your age!

I came off the pill after being on it from the age of 14-21. I also was prescribed it for period management rather than birth control: I was competing in elite gymnastics and wanted to be able to skip periods in competition season. I saw my period as such a burden!

When I came off the pill, it took me two and a bit years for my period to come back. At first I loved it as it was so convenient but then I started to worry.

I had some tests done, and while I didn’t match all of the markers for PCOS (weight gain, excessive hair, acne) I had multiple cysts in my ovaries and I didn’t have a period, and so was diagnosed with PCOS. During this time after coming off the pill I went from a DD to a C cup, but didn’t gain or lose weight other than that.

After two years (age 23) my period came back (I was so glad to see it!) along with hormonal acne for the first time in my life. It felt like a second puberty haha, because my periods were highly irregular and my skin wasn’t having a great time. I got onto prescription acne cream though and that’s made a world of difference.

It took me about another two years for my periods to become regular, and now I have a 30-32 day cycle. Around this time I went in to have another scan and there were still were multiple cysts in my ovaries but as I now have a regular period I don’t really meet the diagnosis criteria for PCOS.

I have no idea if the cysts were there before the pill, or if the pill caused them, but I am really glad to be off the pill. It feels really nice knowing that my hormones are my own, and my body is working how the Lord designed it. I believe it’s good and healthy to honour our feminine rhythm!

I am no longer sexually active as I have come to have faith in Jesus, and so am abstaining from sex until marriage - a decision that also led me to come off the pill. When I marry I don’t think I’ll use any contraception, as although the doctors have said my fertility won’t be affected by the cysts, I don’t want to increase my chances of delay as I know pregnancy doesn’t always happen and doesn’t always happen easily.

I’m 27 now and I feel so good in my body! I am thankful every time I get my period - I feel feminine and in tune with my self and my cycle. I’m glad I came off the pill when I did, as it took some time for my body to sort itself out :)

I second the copper IUD if you still need a form of birth control; my friend used it for five years and has since had it removed. She fell pregnant straight away after it’s removal. It’s nice because there are no hormones: it’s the copper itself that is a spermicide! While with the pill it really seemed like it took a looong time for my body to get into the swing of things.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide!

worldlysentiments · 2024-02-01T01:45:42+00:00

Honestly, if you get off it, and wait 6-12 months, you’ll be able to see your real cycle, use ovulation strips a few months and test and see if your cycle is ovulation regular day 13-18 and then you know any Sperm entering on day like 10-20 can be likely fertilized. That on top of a secondary barrier, ie: condom, you’re basically good to go. Because if your cycles regular at day say 14-16, and you have sex with condom on day 8 with a condom, there’s essentially no chance of pregnancy. Granted it’s not full proof but it can be done. I used that method even without condoms for almost 10 years with 1 pregnancy and the 1 time i was pregnant was the one cycle I didn’t track lol 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 If your cycle is not regular, just make sure to use two methods; like condoms and pulling out or another non hormonal combo. Not a doctor but just my experience :)

BC is strange because it does alter hormones but not in the sense it puts you into menopause or anything, it just keeps you in the pre ovulation phase essentially cycling around. As far as science is aware it shouldn’t affect long term fertility. I think a lot of people get off BC and realize omg I have pcos now or endometriosis and they think it’s from the BC but the BC was likely masking the symptoms of a condition they would have had anyway. In most cases.

BUT that being said, having been put on it so young without a reason is not really responsible, I’m sorry they did that to you. While you’re young it’s good to get a chance and let yourself go natural and see how it is.

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snarkypirate · 2024-02-01T23:48:51+00:00

I was not on BC for a particularly long period of time - I started NuvaRing in graduate school when I met my now-husband and continued taking it for...6-7 years or so. Through that whole time I would have said I had no real side effects - my skin did get better, but some of that I think was just aging because it's mostly fine now as well (I'm 33). However, when I did stop a couple of years ago I realized it had completely tanked my libido the whole time. I was suddenly so much more interested in all of our fun adult activities and it was a huge, huge difference. We both decided I would not go back on any kind of BC after that experience.

I know that's not really the super serious kind of side effects, but I was shocked at how drastically it had affected me and I really had no idea and thought I was totally the same as before! In terms of fertility so far I haven't had any issues - I stopped BC a good bit before we started TTC and we had very good luck with that process, but we'll see what happens when we try for another.

Title	Wanting to stop birth control
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Date	January 31, 2024 10:57 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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