A while ago I posted here on having been with close to 150 girls, most of them very attractive. It got removed for some reason but you are all in luck because I'm bored lol. This is about a topic I hardly see anyone writing about namely the importance of capturing her mind.

why you need to capture her mind

Women don't want dick. They might want to get dicked down, but dick is not a scarce commodity. They can be a landwhale and there are still a million guys who want to give it to her. If you do anything that she doesn't like, all she needs to do is swipe right for 10 min and her dick replacement is at the door.

If you don't have an emotional connection with her (even if it's a FB) it's not that different for her than masturbation. You see women are very emotional creatures. They crave desire, excitement, mystery, power struggles; they want to you to capture their mind not just their body.

If you don't capture her mind she'll simply cheat, leave, move on, or ignore you no matter if you were in a relationship, or just fuck buddies. Many guys don't seem to understand this, so I am hoping to offer you some insights in how to capture her mind based on my own experience. Here we go.

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  • opening up

Always stay calm and cool, but slowly open up. Like an onion, you slowly show her more layers of your personality. Don't try to be mister fucking alpha; it does not work. Be authentic, and connect with her by sharing personal stories, eye contact, touching her, and really TALKING with her.

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  • your world

SLOWLY introduce her to YOUR world. That means YOU pick the date of when you meet. YOU pick the music. YOU take her to YOUR favorite place. etc etc. YOU DO NOT !!!!!! step into her world. Instead you introduce her to YOUR WORLD. The benefit of this is that you can stay in control, authentic and real.

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  • lead her into your jungle

Think of it this way, you are the king of YOUR jungle. Not everyone can just enter, they have to fucking earn the right. So you take it step by step. And when you do, she will discover your jungle (i.e. life and emotional world) and start to appreciate you significantly more. She will start telling herself stories of you, your life, and the girls you've been with. At this point, you are starting to capture her mind.

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  • punish & reward

Reward good behavior by introducing her to another part of your jungle (i.e. favorite songs, places, a hobby, sexual preferences, etc.) and punish bad behavior by not sharing it with her or removing some of the depth by taking your interactions from deep to superficial. It will drive her insane (=good).

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  • withdrawing

After some time when you are seeing a girl (i.e. fucking or building up to fucking) you need to really withdraw no matter how much you like her. Ignore her texts, ignore her calls, and keep contact at a bare minimum. Now let her invest, which she will because you preoccupy space in her mind now.

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  • unavailability

Never give a girl 100%. Not in a relationship, not in marriage, not in an ONS. Always keep your secrets, some degree of emotional unavailability, and things you DON'T share in your life. Because you do not give 100% but 90% at most, you show her that you respect yourself and put yourself first, always.

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  • dominance

I am naturally dominant in the bedroom and always have been. But if I feel like it, I do not fuck her like a pornstar but actually go more slowly, and deep. It is precisely this juxtaposition that opens her up to another dimension of YOU as a person.

pro-tip: I always make sure that I keep eye contact with a girl almost non-stop when we are fucking. Most guys simply forget about it but I have taken this to a whole other fucking level. Try to do this way more**

Fuck her well. Have her tell you how much she loves you. Only let her cum when she looks into your eyes. Remember its not about the dick. Its about the mind and emotional connection you have together.

Also, never text her first after you had sex.

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  • boundaries

Be brutally honest in your interactions with her and clearly define your boundaries. If she says or does something you don't like, you tell her and communicate your personal boundaries. I have had many dates where I simply left just like that only for them to text me later again. Why did they do that? Because they wer more emotionally invested in me than I was in them.

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  • nice & real

I have often made some nice food even for just a fuckbuddy because I was really hungry myself, I like cooking, and I wanted to listen to some music while doing so. That is me being me, which women can instantly sense. I encourage you to do that more, be 'nice' but not to gain her approval. Stay cool, and stay aligned with what YOU want to do. This only applies to girls you like spending more time with.

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  • walking away

Be willing to walk away at any time. The more invested she is in you by thinking about you all the time the easier this will be. Show her you respect yourself and that you are in control no matter what. If she gives you shit, (temporarrily) ghost her without mercy.

Again, it is this dichotomy between really connecting with her emotionally but also having a (healthy) degree of distance/I don't give a fuck/emotional unavailability towards her that works like magic you have never seen before. Her mind starts racing like never before.

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  • absence

Whether you are in a relationship, just dating or fuckbuddies. Be off the grid at random times and actually be busy with stuff you like (your purpose/hobbies). The mind starts going in overdrive for women if you are NOT there and NOT available. Create space and time between you two.

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quick story time

- I have been living on an island for the last year. During that time. have had multiple girls (many former FBs) who literally took the time to take a plane for 5 hours just to visit me (and get fucked). The reason I am still good with many of the girls I have been with and they take the trouble to visit despite having plenty of other dicks available is because I captured their minds. I still occupy mental space in their thoughts and fantasies.

- I once had an explosive argument with a fling late evening. She was being a drama queen but she was at my place. I left her at my place (WORLD) but went out for a long walk myself and I told her to stay. I got back and she was curious what I had done, probably telling herself all sorts of stories. I kept very aloof and distant towards her. Let's just say I had one of the best sex-a-thons ever that night.

- I met a girl on Tinder and we hooked up on the 2nd date. She pretended to be a good girl and I really liked her. When I basically caught her lying about not sleeping around I texted her told and told I did not like that she lied to me. I ghosted her ass. Then bumped into her a few weeks later at a party. She was hovering around me non stop almost begging me to take her home again. Again, capture her mind.

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PS: I am aware this might sound manipulative at first, but if you do it properly any 'relationship' you might have with a girl will ironically, be more authentic. I have done many psychological tests, I am not a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath. I am just a normal guy.