Men who brag on this subreddit about being a player or being promiscuous haven't burned out yet, and will.

SoftHarem · 2013-12-29T02:24:51+00:00

Relationships are TRP on hard mode. Plates are fun, and I recommend the new guys spin for a little while to really internalize Game/TRP concepts, but eventually you'll want to pursue monogamy. Once you're RP aware and avoid any legal ties you really can make a relationship a net increase in your happiness. Women who are worth it are rare, but if it was easy none us would be here.

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mrpoopistan · 2013-12-29T02:26:31+00:00

One of the things that differentiates TRP from PUA is this exact point.

redpilldude · 2013-12-29T02:52:43+00:00

I agree. I'm 30 and got tired of sleeping around several years ago. Now, I'm mostly MGTOW. I might marry if I can meet a very high quality female, but that is probably unlikely.

emptyform · 2013-12-29T02:47:22+00:00

I'm only a few months into legitimately spinning plates and I can feel it coming, though having three girls on rotation is still pretty damn fun. I believe the strategy will remain useful as a vetting process so I can compare & contrast while keeping my confidence high and my judgments more objective--avoiding oneitis. Eventually I do want to transition to an LTR with constant flirting to keep my game sharp and maintain that ambient sense of options, but I won't settle.

[deleted] · 2013-12-29T04:15:52+00:00

I hate to say it but this is a great point. Look at what Wilt Chamberlain said about how he slept with 1000s of women and how he wasn't fond of it looking back.

Laughing_Jelly_Bean · 2013-12-29T07:34:39+00:00

Sleeping around is fun for about a year or two. Then, casual sex becomes predictable, uninteresting, and one slowly begins to embrace MGTOW

I'm pushing 40, and I agree 100%. Thanks for posting this. I was just about to post something similar.

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subgamer90 · 2013-12-29T22:51:08+00:00

ITT: Guy beta-backslides and tries to pass it off as alpha

Yeah erickson she is your special little "rare,high quality" angel. She will always be loyal to you and will never screw you over, I promise.

draketton · 2013-12-29T03:39:35+00:00

Benefits of a relationship, from a TRP perspective:

1) You get to train a girl to have sex with you the way you like it, which is way more rewarding and pleasurable than any one night stand.

2) You get a girlfriend to show off to your family and social circle, if they care about that sort of thing.

3) It's cheaper than plate spinning after a certain age. A young 20-something man can fuck around with his unambitious peers basically for free, but as you move into career age and your looks start to reflect that, it's more expected of you to use money as a foot in the door to impress women. The less women you have to do this for the better.

As you get older and more jaded by short flings with women who suck in bed, and as your close people start to put more pressure on you to settle down, an LTR looks better and better.

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Arbitrage84 · 2013-12-29T04:05:21+00:00

MGTOW for sure, bro. Just coming around to accepting that women will be in my life for 3-10 years at a clip if I'm unwilling to marry. So be it.

sadshark · 2013-12-29T03:17:27+00:00

Please let me enjoy my promiscous years thinking that plate spinning will never get old. I'm enjoying this too much to think that MTGOW will inevitably come. I will never look for that rare female gem, i know I will go alone on my way, but for now, i will fuck as long as my dick stands up.

[deleted] · 2013-12-29T11:59:58+00:00

I don't get these threads in the first place. Why would I be interested in your bragging on TRP? If you want to brag you should go to Seduction.

FortunateBum · 2013-12-29T21:58:02+00:00

Like Ali G said, the worst thing you can get from casual sex is a relationship.

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[deleted] · 2013-12-29T02:12:51+00:00

When it comes to relationships, do whatever you want and pursue the ones that actually add something to your life.

alt30313 · 2013-12-29T03:03:56+00:00

Relationship branch swinging and 3-6 month throwaway relationships are an option too.

1ron_giant · 2013-12-29T13:50:45+00:00

This hits home.

Got divorced and started trying to fuck anything I could. Succeeded more than I should've, unfortunately. Now I'm focused on improving myself and looking for the next future wife. I don't want a slut and I'm sure whomever I end up with isn't going to want some man whore with little self control or heaven help me a baby mamma in tow.

Futsushi · 2013-12-29T06:49:52+00:00

Agreed, I didn't come here until long after I was married and I think RP has little to do with how much casual sex you get. It was easy to get casual sex in my 20's, but I got bored even then.

/r/becomeaman is a great sub and is where most of my focus on RP is.

trunks74 · 2013-12-29T03:24:20+00:00

Yeah this very true. Casual sex becomes dull. Very dull. All of college I had a new girl every weekend. But starting the summer before my junior year i met a girl who I've been dating and it doesn't compare.

[deleted] · 2013-12-29T13:07:43+00:00

..it only takes bagging a few girls to realize that the reward/esteem from conquering a woman is self-defeating when the girls are easy. You realize you're king of shit mountain

Necromaze · 2013-12-29T06:31:22+00:00

I figured someone else should say that, but I've pretty much noticed this the entire time on this sub. Most guys just talk about gaming chicks left and right trying to get a hard dick. Trust me you'll get burnt out and you'll be left alone with no RP LTR because your mind frame is all fucked up. Step it up lads.

vengefully_yours · 2013-12-29T09:44:28+00:00

High quality female. So you may be burned out on casual sex (I did too, 24 years ago) but you have yet to become cynical. That comes too, unless you are so easy going and beta but bare tall, wealthy, and not fat, so one stays with you and hides the extra dick from you.

Cynicism is coming....

Jovianmoons · 2013-12-29T04:43:16+00:00

...and yet people still hate this subbreddit. Thats a mature and rational realization. I will never understand the human capacity for irrational hatred.

Guano- · 2013-12-29T09:47:37+00:00

Still virgin, used to hate myself for it, not anymore. Studied the red pill and realized most guys on here were just like the blue pill cock carousel woman; just looking for sex. I also realized that a lot of threads were dedicated to this and not solid relationships. I didn't want to be that person, and from the relationships I had early in life before sex was a thought, I enjoyed the connection between myself and another. From what I have viewed on both blue and red pill sides is that both parties tend to eventually go toward that one on one relationship status, not everyone. This thread completely confirms this with me.

Red Pill has definitely taught me what to stay away from in a woman. As painful as this will sound to most of you, I rather stay a virgin than sleep around with a plethora of woman and end up without a deep meaningful relationship or at the time being reverting into that more beta state of blind love relationships. I'm glad for the redpill as it has taught me to connect better with woman from the get go, I have had a great deal of more dates due to the mindset of self confidence toward myself. A few woman that I wanted to pursue more were not interested, but those who tended to pursue me where those looking for providers while they continue down their road paved of shit. Quickly threw them away. It's a continuous path for me, but a relationship is my first priority, not sex. Great thread topic, thanks.

dixiedownunder · 2013-12-29T06:00:59+00:00

I'm basking in the glow of youthful Kiwi poontang found by a pool table in the sport fucking paradise island called Koh Samui in Thailand. Maybe this will be down voted to hell, but it's psychologically healthy to have sex. Everything in moderation I suppose.

forbiddenone · 2013-12-29T06:20:15+00:00

I'd type a refutation but the crumbs are jamming up my keyboard.

SuperNinKenDo · 2013-12-29T04:37:42+00:00

Thankfully skipped that phase myself. Brought up in a very anti-promiscuity household.

Olipyr · 2013-12-29T02:32:27+00:00

Yep. I'm way past that point and I'm only 27. I'm in the triple digits of numbers of different partners and, while I LOVE sex and fucking, I'm bored.

Don't get me wrong, though. If a hot woman offers herself to me, I'm not going to turn it down. Well, If I'm out with my buddies and have to jump a grenade for them, I will.

trudatness · 2013-12-29T15:27:17+00:00

Ha ha...

I don't know what you're talking about - new pussy never gets old.

Why? Because it's NEW!

At 26 I got jaded with how easy it got to get laid and decided to get a rare, high quality female companion and it turned out to be an extremely bad choice. As it turned out, I was just fodder for a woman who was in panic mode accelerating towards the wall. That was a fucking HUGE mistake. That doesn't mean I love my kids she bore me any less, because I love them very, very much, but it was a mistake regardless.

In retrospect, I would recommend continuously fine tuning one's game to keep things fresh.

In the beginning of game, one is a carpet bomber. You just open the bomb-bay doors and drop bombs. Sometimes you hit a high quality targets, sometimes you land in the fat farm or nutty-ville. You get a mix that is purely random. If you stick with the game and try to continuously hone your skills, you'll be able to filter out the unwanted targets. At the same time, the sexual compulsion you feel that drives you will lessen somewhat with age. What makes you obsessed at 21 chills out enough for you at 35 (the same age at which single malt scotch becomes delicious) where you can begin to savor it. The blood fever compels you to fuck and fuck hard, but as you age you become like the Jedi, able to control the power with the aid of your cognitive powers.

I would say the best strategy would be to avoid that 25-30 trap. Women of this age are NOT sincere in their affection and adoration. They are flying towards the wall at a million miles an hour. They'll do and say anything to avoid missing their cash-in window of opportunity. They can't be trusted.

Even if you are a successful alpha with money and easy pussy on call, don't think you have it all figured out. Be patient. Wait. Chillax until you get into your thirties and go either high or low. If you're on the early side of 30s, look for the young tender who's got her self-respect in tact and exhibits /r/redpillwomen behavior and attitude. If you are in your late 30s or early 40s, look for the post-30 hottie who has a decent (but not life consuming) career and has both the genetics and the will to keep and stay hot for good amount of years. That post-30 hottie will likely be over her accelerating-to-the-wall crisis mode, but still be young enough for you to have a couple of kids.

If you are a guy with no (or a small, non-consequential) criminal record, a good career making decent money, decent credit with no foreclosures and/or bankruptcies who goes to the gym regularly and keeps himself fit - you'll find yourself in a highly desired minority.

There are a fucking ton of losers out there and after 30, the pool of attractive available men begins to thin dramatically. If you are doing it right, women will chase you so much to the point it will become annoying.

I see much talk on TRP about the traditional provider role, however in this modern day and age, that really is becoming less of a reality. I would also suggest to target women for LTRs that aren't financial losers. If you get with a woman who is clueless about earning and managing money, you'll have to bear the full burden of support - and that means during marriage and post-divorce as well.

Take it from personal experience, being with a woman who is financial independent and acts like an adult with finances is not a bad thing. Having money is good. You can still use your TRP philosophy of prioritized, and ultimately enlightened self-interest to keep your relationship healthy and stable. I personally think that's the best case scenario. Being a true alpha male in a power couple relationship (which I think is the only way a power couple happens and is function-able) is not a bad way to go about things. Unless you're pulling down $150K plus and are content with the money of a single earning household, dual income households are the reality. In a world in which dual income households are the norm, I say why fight that? Part of life-game should be about making that work for you in the best possible way.

cipahs · 2013-12-29T11:48:37+00:00

In a fraternity, still banging out rando's constantly.

Still having fun. Could be because all the love I need i get from the bros

geenomike · 2013-12-29T18:23:34+00:00

I was just wondering when trp turned in to r/seduction

EeeeeeevilMan · 2013-12-29T22:48:02+00:00

Or, you know, you get herpes.

1 in 6 people have it and condoms only cut the risk by 20%.

You can't dodge the bullet of statistical probability forever.

nubswag · 2013-12-29T06:50:42+00:00

I agree, however I don't think there is any reason to be condescending to those braggers. This is important information that they can use to grow.

dub121686 · 2013-12-29T05:59:13+00:00

Thanks for this post. This is how I've felt about the subreddit lately

10J18R1A · 2013-12-29T11:49:20+00:00

There's an alarming amount of posts in this thread that imply marriage equals commitment

DaddyMonster · 2013-12-29T23:36:10+00:00

Reeks of troll.

I almost don't know where to begin when describing how disingenuous the OP is.

It's concern trolling to put it simply. The post is a red herring, a semantic bait-n-switch and an appeal to consequence, with some shaming thrown in for good measure.

Quite well constructed truth be told, but it's no different from shit tests and generic "who do you think you are"-put downs.

Example:

Sleeping around is fun for about a year or two.

"Having a nice body from all that going to the gym is all well and good. For now."

Then, casual sex becomes predictable, uninteresting, and one slowly begins to embrace MGTOW and/or patiently look for a rare, high quality female companion.

"When you get older though, it'll be difficult to sustain your physique, and you'll either crash and become obese, or, if you're smart, you settle for something (I think is) more reasonable.

So please stop flaunting your naive ego on this subreddit.

"So stop flaunting your muscles."

You're like a child who has learned he wont be punished for taking as many cookies from the cookie jar as he wants.

"(Who do you think you are, anyways?) You're being childish. Just because you can it doesn't mean you should (or that you're better)."

The implication is obvious.

The OP completely (and I would guess intentionally) misses/disregards why a lot of men at TRP starts sleeping around and spinning plates. When you consider that, it becomes obvious that the OP is a troll.

Addendum: It doesn't matter if the appeal to consequence is valid or not. That is not important in this context.

TRP is about learning how shit actually works. It's about maximizing one's options and freeing oneself from socially imposed programming that limits one as an individual. What one does with that knowledge is up to oneself and one's own best judgement. It is up to every man to find out what works for himself, and for many, that involves experimenting and opening doors that were previously closed.

[deleted] · 2013-12-29T04:30:44+00:00

Sleeping around is a boon to getting a LTR. It gives you skills in bed, raises your SMV, and overall is a valuable experience for actually using the Red Pill in the real world.

Let's not be like jealous seddit faggots because we're on a dry spell.

usku · 2013-12-29T02:03:08+00:00

Damn straight and well spoken.

slcjosh · 2013-12-29T04:43:37+00:00

I disagree. I dont really see it getting old for another 10 years for me

autoNFA · 2013-12-29T08:27:31+00:00

Fuck your bullshit moralizing condescension, I like fucking around and I'm taking as many cookies as I want. I'll figure out how many that is on my own.

phx-au · 2013-12-29T08:48:19+00:00

Yeah I have a mate who hasn't really figured out RP stuff - he's just read a bit of PUA. I honestly cannot stand the constant bragging of how he managed to trick some unattractive emotionally damaged girl into fucking him.

When I'm in a party mood I'll often get to the stage where I know that I could be going home with someone. Then I realise I've got better things to do (one of them being an awesome girlfriend).

If someone will let me pick them up and fuck them without any sort of connection, then I have zero respect for them. I've only had one one-nighter in years - and that was at a wedding, where all behavioural bets are off.

Remerez · 2013-12-29T14:12:34+00:00

Had a ex-friend divorce his wife he had a kid with to date a younger woman. He sourced TRP the entire time i asked him why he was doing this. I hooked her up with a bunch of lawyer friends out of spite because this dude was having a mid-life crisis at 32 and was blaming his recklessness on us. Moral: use the skills here to be a more aware, BETTER person.

cozycoffeecake · 2013-12-29T21:17:28+00:00

This topic doesn't need to be here.

narcissus88 · 2013-12-29T21:46:20+00:00

Ridiculous post. I have no interest in monogamy or LTR and a good argument can be made that a woman will ALWAYS consider her LTR to be a chump. It's a scam and I recommend you look into women's nature to understand why. Marriage and monogamy is a raw deal for men and has always been, which is why men have always been given so many financial and social incentives to marry.

CreateTheFuture · 2013-12-29T05:20:00+00:00

This is bullshit. You're oversimplifying a complex situation to the point of no longer adding anything useful to the discussion.

-Conflict- · 2013-12-29T10:59:22+00:00

Life and learning is a process, and while perspectives can be shared with those lacking in relative experience, many people don't truly learn something until they've done it. It is every mans right to life his life how he wants to, whether you agree with it or not

General_Fear · 2013-12-29T18:06:47+00:00

This is the natural course of men development. If you are young and red pill you will try to lay as many women as possible. But the day will come when you are bored with it. This is the point in time when most men marry. But if you are red pill you know that marriage is a scam and living with a woman is a scam. So what do you do?

If you are true red pill your credo is, never marry, never live with a woman and don't make babies. It's all scam. So then you become a MGTOW. Ya as a MGTOW you might date a woman every once in a while, but you will focus you life on yourself. Chasing tail will not be your first priority.

But unlike the OP. Post your opinions players. Enjoy your young life. Brag. Have fun living your red pill life.

30303030303030 · 2013-12-29T18:09:19+00:00

you always want what you don't have

SSTUPNC · 2013-12-29T18:43:21+00:00

Cosign, for me personally it gave me a kind of Al Bundy syndrome.

nophoney · 2013-12-29T22:17:54+00:00

So what I'm hearing is....being promiscuous is part of the process, and once you figure that part out, telling everyone to shut up about is the next step?

[deleted] · 2013-12-29T22:57:36+00:00

I'm not saying I disagree, but I need to have sex at least 3 times a week. And I do mean need - it's a biological imperative. If I don't, it's like insomnia, it affects every area of my life negatively. I'm under 30 and the frequency may decrease with age, but this is where I'm at and have been for 14 years. I don't give a fuck about lay count or impressing men and honestly, I put exactly the minimal required effort into achieving this. I get what you're saying, but sex is necessary for me.

whiskey_bearfist · 2013-12-30T03:33:40+00:00

this is garbage concern trolling. go back to /r/relationships

ThisisMalta · 2013-12-30T08:23:33+00:00

Well said....

P0eticJustice · 2013-12-31T06:07:36+00:00

why the fuck was this upvoted to the top

PrisonerOfLife · 2013-12-29T02:50:52+00:00

It's funny how we delude ourselves into thinking along the lines of "I lack element X in my life, therefore, once I bring X into my life, everything will be perfectly ideal". It doesn't matter what you substitute in this sentence for X (sex, high-paying job, six pack abs, huge muscles, nice car, good social life etc...) - the law of diminishing returns eventually kicks in and you seek a new dopamine rush.

I'm still a virgin at 24 but I've noticed that most of the major milestones I idealized in my head weren't so special once I achieved them; they either left me wanting more or convinced me to move in a different direction with my motivations. Somehow I don't think sex will be any different so I've reluctantly avoided it for this same reason.

seanjohn12117 · 2013-12-29T16:31:29+00:00

Who are you to tell me how to live? I'm 19 why would I want anything more than casual at this point. This was incredibly condescending.

Ethylparaben · 2013-12-29T02:45:19+00:00

Betas with poor dick control. It's annoying they consider themselves alpha.

abcd_z · 2013-12-29T06:06:15+00:00

You guys know that there's a third option, right? A way to have your cake and eat it too.

Develop emotionally fulfilling open relationships. That way you can continue to sleep with any woman you want, while getting the sense of love and affection that you crave. It's Pickup Artist Polyamory.

Captain_Crunk_ · 2013-12-29T07:23:48+00:00

If your sex is becoming predictable and uninteresting then you're not doing it right. I don't need a high quality female companion to have great sex. I've built comfort with plates to experiment and be the freak I am.

Clauderoughly · 2013-12-29T02:51:26+00:00

Oh look, more bitter MGTOW's

http://i.imgur.com/ruh7Z.gif

Awww... did someone get blueballed again?

roue_ · 2013-12-29T11:24:00+00:00

When I complete my legacy il stop being promiscous. A 100 girls,a girl from all races (4) and a girl who is a hard 9. Until I do im not going to get in a relationship.

j_arbuckle2012 · 2013-12-29T03:54:51+00:00

Wooo concern trolling. That's new.

[deleted] · 2013-12-29T01:23:58+00:00

Title	Men who brag on this subreddit about being a player or being promiscuous haven't burned out yet, and will.
Author	erickson712
Upvotes	296
Comments	154
Date	December 29, 2013 1:20 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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