Summary: You don't have to be an ultra asshole.

Stop. Just stop. Noobs who feel like posting something about how much of an asshole they are should read this. This applies to you and others with the misconception that you have to be an ultra-asshole to be successful. No. You don’t. Listen.

You just have to have boundaries. Have a back-bone. A woman doesn’t want a sissy, no. But she doesn’t want a try-hard caricature of what being alpha really means. The problem people get when first learning about this stuff is that it gets in your head so much that you think you have to be the biggest asshole since sliced bread. That being an egotistical prick who deliberately makes people feel like shit is the answer. It’s not. But I get it. Even I might have overdone it when first swallowing the pill.

Think about it for a second. It’s common knowledge over here that women, much like children, can’t be held responsible for their actions all the time. Like a child, one of their go to solutions for problems is the big shut down and cry. Now, how big of an asshole do you think you need to be to children? Lets think like they’re literally children for a second. How mean are you to kids who don’t know any better? Letting a child’s problems get to you and resorting to abuse or trying to make them cry even more isn’t going to help. Knocking picture frames off the wall in anger or confusion will only make things worse. Thats called losing frame. Literally losing frame because you just knocked a frame off the wall.

No, you get to the root of the problem. Thats the solution. Go get her something to drink. Be the shoulder for her to cry on. Being non-reactive and simply keeping calm will help you more than throwing furniture around the house.

Women want the balance between alpha and beta. That’s it. For one night stands, don’t be afraid to smile and tease. How would you tease a child? You wouldn’t be a total dick would you? Of course not. Women are no different. Get this idea out of your head that you have to be some sorry ass caricaracture of the super douchebro jockmonkey or whatever the fuck. You do not. Just don’t be boring.

I can pretty much guarantee many guys here were at one time boring nice guys. Just add a little more charisma to your personality. It doesn’t mean you have to be this never smiling, lone wolf rebel who thinks he’s super edgy. In fact, that might fuck your game up even worse by making you even more boring.

The Lesson: Don’t be afraid to sprinkle a little sugar on that asshole.