• Frustration

• Annoyance

• Impatience

• Sluggardness

• Distraction

• Laziness

^ These are the main facial expressions, emotions and body language reads I get from guys I see working out with their girlfriends/girls at the gym. What don't I see?

• Progress

• Determination

• Seriousness

• Drive

• Satisfaction

Iron sharpens iron. Your workout partner needs to be someone who is on your level or higher to make you better. I do not believe a woman is able to fit that role. You are better off not having a workout partner at all.

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I was at the gym today. A guy was working out with his girlfriend. They were doing squats. The guy was doing sets of 315. The girl was doing sets of 95. After every set he had to unload the entire bar and load her weight on there. Then reload his own weight all over again when she was done. I failed to see how this benefitted him in any way. He'd be better off lifting solo. Ideally he would have a lifting partner who would be doing a similar weight he was doing. After squatting they went to machines and did the same exact workout program. Why is a guy doing the same workout program as a girl? The two probably have different goals, so why are they doing the same exact lifts?

I then proceeded to see another couple working out. They were doing hang cleans. The guy was trying to be serious about it. The girl wasn't. She sucked at it, and instead of being serious and trying to learn how to do it right, all she did was play the "Lol I suck at this but aren't I so cute and adorable at least trying?" card. The guy was getting visibly frustrated and annoyed because she wasn't taking it seriously at all. I was wondering why he was even bothering. It's clear she was there simply to be there. She was holding this guy back in the gym.

Then you had the couple at the cable cross machine. The guy seemed more interested in playing flirty flirt flirt with her than being serious about his lifting. While taking up a machine other people could actually put to good use. I think I saw them do maybe 2 sets in 10 minutes.

I can come up with dozens upon dozens of more examples like this as to where I saw a man being held back in the gym because he was working out with his girlfriend or a girl. Meanwhile I can not recall very many instances, if at all, of a guy who seemed to be benefitting from working out with his girlfriend or a girl.

You need to be equally yoked to your workout partner. Not necessarily on your level in terms of the amount of weight that he can lift(but in the ballpark), but at the very least needs to be on your level in terms of experience, knowledge, know-how, seriousness, dedication, commitment, and drive. Otherwise you are better off lifting alone.

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"You are so wrong /u/mallardcove. I workout with my (girlfriend/plate/girl I know) to make sure she lifts properly and stays in shape so she stays hot. I don't want her to not lift and become out of shape and fat. I am there to keep her accountable"

That's great. Just separate your own lifting time from hers. For example you can workout for yourself in the morning, and go be her accountability buddy/trainer/fitness instructor/whatever in the evening. That way you can focus 100% of your attention on yourself for your workout, and then focus 100% of your attention on her for her workout. When your attention is divided, you are going to get divided results.

"You are so wrong /u/mallardcove. My (girlfriend/plate/girl I know) is a great workout partner because she motivates me to workout at my absolute best when she is around. If I am lifting around her, I go all out so I can look strong to her. If I don't, I will look weak, so I have no choice but to go all out with her by my side"

You know what will cause you to go all out even more? When your male workout partner busts out an impressive personal record set and you are up next. That is far more of a motivator then some girl. And its positive motivation. You just saw your workout partner kick ass and want to do the same. Wanting to go all out so you don't look weak in front of your woman is negative motivation. Also your girlfriend probably doesn't know what your "all out" is. For all she knows she thinks 135 is a shitload of weight and you doing it for reps is mighty impressive. But a male workout partner on your level will know that's warm up weight and you won't be able to pull that shit on him.

Not only that but this mindset leads to show off mentality. A guy is trying to show off more than do what he needs to do to progress. I.E. putting way too much weight on the bar in order to impress his girlfriend, weight he shouldn't be doing if he actually wants to progress. Are you more focused about impressing your girlfriend, or making weight lifting progress? She will be nothing but a distraction.

"I workout with my (girlfriend/plate/girl I know) because I don't want to work out alone, its better to have someone than no one"

Bullshit. Working out alone is far preferable to working out with someone who won't make you better. You may not get the positive effects a solid workout partner would bring to the table when working out alone, but at the very least you won't get the negative effects and deadweight a shitty workout partner provides. Have fun having your girlfriend try to spot you doing heavy weights. I've seen it happen. Guy is benching above his level and his weak ass girlfriend was unable to upright row the bar up when he failed and others had to run over to help. Good luck getting that episode out of her brain, she probably lost all respect for the guy right then and there.

"You don't understand /u/mallardcove, my girlfriend is on my level"

If a girl is on your level you are weak and that's even more reason to get a male workout partner. The average man will be able to outlift pretty much every woman who isn't an olympic weightlifter. Even if she is experienced in the gym and knows what she is doing, the amount of weight she is doing will likely be dwarfed by yours and that alone is enough of a reason to ditch her and get a male workout partner. The psychological effects of seeing heavy weights on the bar do matter, and when you are having to take off 50% or more of your weight for her to do her sets, that will have a negative psychological impact. Compare that to working out with a guy who is doing a little more weight than you, it will provide psychological motivation that is positive. And even if she knows what she is doing, you shouldn't be doing the same workout program as a girl. You both have different goals which require different lifts. "But I will do my lifts, and she will do hers!". That is dividing your attention and will cause you to not be 100% focused on you. Again, divided attention brings divided results.

"I work out with my girlfriend to keep her in line. If she goes to the gym without me I don't want her getting hit on, so I go to make sure she doesn't get hit on by other dudes and flirt with her"

Congrats, you are a mate guarding loser. If she is going to flirt with other guys or be reciprocal to other guys hitting on her, she is going to do it whether you are there to mate guard or not. Running dread game will prevent this, not being there to be her shield from alpha cock who is going to AMOG you in the gym anyway.

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I swear, most guys probably work out with their girlfriend/plate so they can be all "Hey everyone look at me I am working out with my girlfriend aren't I so awesome and aren't we so cute together?". Showing her off like a trophy. Either that or they are afraid she will get hit on by Chad. How many guys workout with their girlfriend/plate for the goal of getting better? Probably not many.

Find a workout partner worth a shit. Your girlfriend/plate probably isn't one. ","selftext_html":"

Frustration

Annoyance

Impatience

Sluggardness

Distraction

Laziness

^ These are the main facial expressions, emotions and body language reads I get from guys I see working out with their girlfriends/girls at the gym. What don't I see?

• Progress

• Determination

• Seriousness

• Drive

• Satisfaction

Iron sharpens iron. Your workout partner needs to be someone who is on your level or higher to make you better. I do not believe a woman is able to fit that role. You are better off not having a workout partner at all.

---

I was at the gym today. A guy was working out with his girlfriend. They were doing squats. The guy was doing sets of 315. The girl was doing sets of 95. After every set he had to unload the entire bar and load her weight on there. Then reload his own weight all over again when she was done. I failed to see how this benefitted him in any way. He'd be better off lifting solo. Ideally he would have a lifting partner who would be doing a similar weight he was doing. After squatting they went to machines and did the same exact workout program. Why is a guy doing the same workout program as a girl? The two probably have different goals, so why are they doing the same exact lifts?

I then proceeded to see another couple working out. They were doing hang cleans. The guy was trying to be serious about it. The girl wasn't. She sucked at it, and instead of being serious and trying to learn how to do it right, all she did was play the "Lol I suck at this but aren't I so cute and adorable at least trying?" card. The guy was getting visibly frustrated and annoyed because she wasn't taking it seriously at all. I was wondering why he was even bothering. It's clear she was there simply to be there. She was holding this guy back in the gym.

Then you had the couple at the cable cross machine. The guy seemed more interested in playing flirty flirt flirt with her than being serious about his lifting. While taking up a machine other people could actually put to good use. I think I saw them do maybe 2 sets in 10 minutes.

I can come up with dozens upon dozens of more examples like this as to where I saw a man being held back in the gym because he was working out with his girlfriend or a girl. Meanwhile I can not recall very many instances, if at all, of a guy who seemed to be benefitting from working out with his girlfriend or a girl.

You need to be equally yoked to your workout partner. Not necessarily on your level in terms of the amount of weight that he can lift(but in the ballpark), but at the very least needs to be on your level in terms of experience, knowledge, know-how, seriousness, dedication, commitment, and drive. Otherwise you are better off lifting alone.

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"You are so wrong /u/mallardcove. I workout with my (girlfriend/plate/girl I know) to make sure she lifts properly and stays in shape so she stays hot. I don't want her to not lift and become out of shape and fat. I am there to keep her accountable"

That's great. Just separate your own lifting time from hers. For example you can workout for yourself in the morning, and go be her accountability buddy/trainer/fitness instructor/whatever in the evening. That way you can focus 100% of your attention on yourself for your workout, and then focus 100% of your attention on her for her workout. When your attention is divided, you are going to get divided results.

"You are so wrong /u/mallardcove. My (girlfriend/plate/girl I know) is a great workout partner because she motivates me to workout at my absolute best when she is around. If I am lifting around her, I go all out so I can look strong to her. If I don't, I will look weak, so I have no choice but to go all out with her by my side"

You know what will cause you to go all out even more? When your male workout partner busts out an impressive personal record set and you are up next. That is far more of a motivator then some girl. And its positive motivation. You just saw your workout partner kick ass and want to do the same. Wanting to go all out so you don't look weak in front of your woman is negative motivation. Also your girlfriend probably doesn't know what your "all out" is. For all she knows she thinks 135 is a shitload of weight and you doing it for reps is mighty impressive. But a male workout partner on your level will know that's warm up weight and you won't be able to pull that shit on him.

Not only that but this mindset leads to show off mentality. A guy is trying to show off more than do what he needs to do to progress. I.E. putting way too much weight on the bar in order to impress his girlfriend, weight he shouldn't be doing if he actually wants to progress. Are you more focused about impressing your girlfriend, or making weight lifting progress? She will be nothing but a distraction.

"I workout with my (girlfriend/plate/girl I know) because I don't want to work out alone, its better to have someone than no one"

Bullshit. Working out alone is far preferable to working out with someone who won't make you better. You may not get the positive effects a solid workout partner would bring to the table when working out alone, but at the very least you won't get the negative effects and deadweight a shitty workout partner provides. Have fun having your girlfriend try to spot you doing heavy weights. I've seen it happen. Guy is benching above his level and his weak ass girlfriend was unable to upright row the bar up when he failed and others had to run over to help. Good luck getting that episode out of her brain, she probably lost all respect for the guy right then and there.

"You don't understand /u/mallardcove, my girlfriend is on my level"

If a girl is on your level you are weak and that's even more reason to get a male workout partner. The average man will be able to outlift pretty much every woman who isn't an olympic weightlifter. Even if she is experienced in the gym and knows what she is doing, the amount of weight she is doing will likely be dwarfed by yours and that alone is enough of a reason to ditch her and get a male workout partner. The psychological effects of seeing heavy weights on the bar do matter, and when you are having to take off 50% or more of your weight for her to do her sets, that will have a negative psychological impact. Compare that to working out with a guy who is doing a little more weight than you, it will provide psychological motivation that is positive. And even if she knows what she is doing, you shouldn't be doing the same workout program as a girl. You both have different goals which require different lifts. "But I will do my lifts, and she will do hers!". That is dividing your attention and will cause you to not be 100% focused on you. Again, divided attention brings divided results.

"I work out with my girlfriend to keep her in line. If she goes to the gym without me I don't want her getting hit on, so I go to make sure she doesn't get hit on by other dudes and flirt with her"

Congrats, you are a mate gua