Funny how things work out, is it?

houseoftolstoy · 2020-03-28T21:18:14+00:00

This used to be common knowledge, as the term "old maid" was the label for any woman who could not manage to get married. Somehow it has become a complete mystery to women that men are most interested in them when they are in their 20s, and marriage minded men prefer women in that age range to marry, not after.

Also, the use of passive language, "wait for the right person," shows a lack of effort on her part, as many women seem to believe that fate is going to bring them the perfect man. Even a little bit of initiative goes a long way for women, but apparently a lack of action is the modus operandi for so many women, so they wonder why things don't just happen for them.

Honest_Solution · 2020-03-28T21:48:12+00:00

Women in their 30’s are WAY more picky than women in their 20’s. Don’t believe me? Then explain why I can have women in their 20’s give me stares and smiles often but a 30ish old run through hag makes me jump through endless hoops for pussy. Shit plays out the same time and time again. It’s not a coincidence.

I’m the guy FDS tries to shame because women in their 20’s go for me and I won’t put up with a “strong woman” in her 30’s who’s on her last leg still trying to make demands of me.

rellik13xx · 2020-03-28T21:30:30+00:00

I don't how controversial this is, but I have an idea. Women can have it all, they just have their priorities backwards. Get married and have your children first, then go work.

Cream1984 · 2020-03-28T21:35:57+00:00

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CanadiaNationalist · 2020-03-28T22:28:51+00:00

The formula is simple.

He is to protect, provide, respect her.

She is to feed, fuck, and respect him.

It's really that easy. If you find that when you're in your early 20s hold onto it. If your friends are telling you no they aren't good friends.

_Nequis_ · 2020-03-28T21:38:16+00:00

This reminds me of videogames where people forgo picking equipment up cause they are sure of finding better loot later on and end up naked instead.

What's lacking all the time is honesty,first towards oneself and then towards others,cause i'm 100% sure that if she got her way regardless she'd still behave the same way,she's asking this now cause time is ticking and she got smacked by the realization that she's not the princess on the pea.

Just to clarify,i'm not saying one should settle or go for bad partners,nevertheless one shouldn't discard everyone for petty motives,i once knew a girl who had a list of "has to be blonde,green eyes,this height,that personality etc.",they don't want a man,they want an idea.

Uhtred_McUhtredson · 2020-03-28T23:09:45+00:00

“I was always told...”

Yeah, they lied to you.

Also, maybe, just maybe when you “settle” in your twenties you become a part of something bigger where you can work together and build each other up and have a bond of shared sacrifice and dreams.

Instead of riding dick until you’re 35 and expecting to suddenly just meet up with some handsome millionaire who also happens to have all the free time in the world to lavish you with...

YrjoWashingnen · 2020-03-29T01:26:11+00:00

TBH dating apps have so inverted the dating market, that the market makes the Russian and US economies look Scandinavian by comparison. While I do admit that they've had some positive benefit in letting people who'd never otherwise meet get into decent/healthy relationships, on aggregate they've severely damaged dating dynamics as a whole by inflating female worth and their standards. This contributes to the cock carousel that many females ride, up until it slowly launches them out of orbit and into a collision course with the Wall.

Moreover, while in some respects dating apps extend dating opportunities, in other respects they siphon them from other avenues of life. I read a comment on this sub from some older dude who remembered the 80s and 90s, saying that it used to be much more socially acceptable to approach women in real life even on the street. Conversely in my personal experience the brother of some girl I was interested in told me to fuck off, that "I recommend Tinder bro." Sure, maybe that dating market works out ok for some above average dude in height/looks like him, but for people in general it's a sodding black box wasteland where many don't even get to being able to sharpen their "text game," and face nothing but an empty expanse of zero matches. In some contexts it's seen as just "weird" to approach a girl with romantic interests in mind when "there's Tinder for that," but this seldom takes into account how Tinder, which raises looks above all, doesn't even give a fair shake for many males.

As an aside - the West rightfully criticizes Islamic cultures for openly allowing polygamy. As Black Pigeon Speaks discussed in a recent video, there is a very strong correlation between laws/norms allowing for multiple female partners, and crime rates in a given country: when a minority of men can oligopolize a majority of women, this leaves the majority of men single, frustrated, and prone to impulsive and destructive actions.

But in the Western world, we've largely engaged in de facto if not de jure polygamy. At least the Islamic world demanded accountability and responsibility of its men with multiple wives: he was expected to care for and provide for all of them, with severe consequences if he failed to do so.

Conversely the West has unleashed the Sexual Revolution to its full destructive potential. Dating apps are but one cause and symptom of the change that's occurred over the past 60 years. It has largely discarded marriage as an institution, with single moms and divorces abounding. It has promoted welfare policies and legal institutions that perversely reward adultery and punishing reliable husbands, with welfare policies rewarding single moms over when the father is in the picture, no fault divorce laws, prenuptial agreements that can be voided at will, and divorce courts that overwhelmingly favor the wife. And it has created a dating culture that, again, is oligarchic. The Overton Window is full of complaints about wealth inequality through pointing out Jeff Bezos or Paul Singer, but the usual insults ("creep," "loser," "incel") all immediately come hurling out of the woodwork whenever similar criticisms of the unbalanced sexual market place come out by calling out "Chads" who sample different females much like someone who'd sample different restaurants, and females who idolize and orbit destructive and unfaithful males.

The end result of all this is a sexual economy that is very much winners taking all, losers having to fall. This includes not only males who have largely given up on dating and family-raising (most exaggeratedly in Japan, but increasingly in the West), but also females who threw away their pair-bonding ability like in OP's post.

WiccedPisces · 2020-03-28T21:51:37+00:00

You can "work on yourself" in a relationship, too. 🙄 The only exception is if you're mentally ill and using the relationship as a crutch.

Lion-Slicer · 2020-03-28T23:19:26+00:00

Somehow I joined r/femaledatingstrategies even though you have to be a female to join. You won’t believe how delusional those women are over there. Several of them were bitching about the women that hang out with Dan Blizarian and how the woMen on that subreddit would never fuck him.I’m like wow you bitches are dumb aren’t you.

Kingdebit213 · 2020-03-28T23:31:44+00:00

Just another victim who fell for the advice of stupid whores. No guy with any class or smarts will settle for a woman over 25. Everytime I see a woman over 25 single I feel she's been dicked way too many times to make a good lifetime mate. Even 25 is pushing it but she fucked up. Even then these kinds of women you never want to settle with anyway because once a party girl always a party girl. I go to the club and I see 40 plus year old women still trying to fish for cock. If a girl is high value she will be high value from the get-go.

ipromiseimnotaNazi · 2020-03-29T00:33:56+00:00

They missed the memo. 6’4” doctors and lawyers aren’t exactly falling out of trees and they sure aren’t lining up for leftover CC riders. Sorry.

goodbye2017hello2018 · 2020-03-29T01:26:34+00:00

To put it bluntly......

Vag doesnt have the leverage it used to, thank the feminist movement. "Rent a vag" is a thing now a days.

loneliness-inc · 2020-03-28T22:44:56+00:00

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trwawyrnd · 2020-03-29T03:35:27+00:00

They you like to use the word "settle" to describe the man they actually deserve. Andif you consider what they have to offer the guy might even be too good for them.

NeoCzar · 2020-03-29T14:10:36+00:00

It’s very simple, and I told this to all the girls I dated in my 20s: “Invest your youth and beauty in me when I’m not yet worth much, and you get my loyalty and companionship when your value plummets and mine skyrockets”. I loved the effect it had on them. Brought them down a notch or two.

Dr_Bukkakee · 2020-03-29T01:29:52+00:00

Wait this chick was actually waiting for the perfect guy?

the40yearoldincel · 2020-03-29T05:35:51+00:00

I bet she rejected a lot of those somewhat decent guys who would have treated her like a queen. But nope, not good looking enough, not rich enough, not high status enough.

orwasaker · 2020-03-29T12:38:57+00:00

As a guy I get told to be like this by most of my guy friends too, many of them told me to leave my ex cause I was too young to be shackled to a girl or get in the prison that is "marriage"

Keep in mind that I'm living in Syria not the west, so it's not even "unfair marriage laws" that are the reason so many guys around me have this mentality

I know I'm gonna get crucified in this sub for even suggesting this, but both girls and guys today have this anti-settling anti-marriage mentality guys, not just girls

kidruhil · 2020-03-29T01:29:50+00:00

Ahhhhahahahaahhahahahahhaahahahhhahahaaha

heyheyitsdatboi · 2020-03-29T01:45:31+00:00

A tale as old as time...

asdf333aza · 2020-03-29T05:20:10+00:00

Time will humble them all. 😂

skillpollution · 2020-03-30T04:43:39+00:00

I wonder where society is going to end up. women/girls are becoming more and more degenerate on social media by the second, while also having unrealistic standards for dating partners. they all expect some hot 6pack'd prince with his own castle in switzerland is going to swoop them up on instagram....

but yeah, no babies are being born, our species will die out, what do i care right? i dont. i just find it fascinating. All my friends and male relatives, including me, are single and just hang out and play video games. females are just too much of a burden...

jacksawyer75 · 2020-03-29T10:30:55+00:00

Whoever told you not to settle did you a great disservice, dear.

CameronSins · 2020-03-29T10:38:17+00:00

COCODRILE TEARS

snginc · 2020-03-29T13:25:25+00:00

The irony is back in the day, mothers, grandmothers, aunts etc would say you dont want to be die alone (because they were being too picky ie had too high standards).

Cabshear · 2020-03-31T20:10:41+00:00

Perfection has never been a real thing. If women are searching for perfection they will be looking until the end of time. No one is perfect.

saxobroko · 2020-03-29T13:42:13+00:00

nice

TheApricotCavalier · 2020-03-29T15:33:07+00:00

Where are all the perfect men?

mustangfrank · 2020-03-29T16:01:26+00:00

"Anyone else feel like they missed their chance on should have been less picky in their 20's?

just like the site says

Women in their 20s have numerous opportunities to date the decent men they claim to want, but they consistently reject or friendzone these men for jerks and promiscuity. She takes advantage of a man's kindness for attention and favors, then accuses him of thinking he was entitled to sex just for being nice.

But when she's in her 30s with depreciating looks, jerks who won't commit, the likelihood of being a single mom, and the social pressure from her married friends, she asks "Where have all the good men gone?"[1][2] Funny how back when she was chasing the bad boys he was a "NiceGuy™" unworthy of dating, but now that she's past her prime and needs a bailout he's a "real man" who treats her with respect.

Typo-MAGAshiv · 2020-03-29T16:03:59+00:00

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nihilistpanduh · 2020-03-29T17:52:59+00:00

What's sad is she probably had someone who did love her and she blew them off .

Money is nice but it's not what you should look for in a partner

Funny how things work out, is it?

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