Method for creating and tracking goals

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-05-01T13:35:09+00:00

I’ve come to learn it’s not whether or not you achieve the goal, it’s the person you become during the process.

abdada · 2018-05-01T13:31:02+00:00

Better to make contingency plans than goals. A man who wins is a man with many options, not singular goals.

If you set strict goals, it means you GAF, and it'll set you up for heartbreak.

The worst goal to set is one that other people are aware of. Never share your goals or tell others what you're up to.

The_Litz · 2018-05-01T15:01:15+00:00

Whatever app, Moleskin journal or whiteboard you use, always remember it is second to Acta non Verba. Don't get tangled up in minute details.

wekacuck · 2018-05-01T14:17:15+00:00

I like using habit tracking apps and the simplicity of the don't-break-the-chain type things. The one I use now is "Loop Habit Tracker" (github, play store) because it's simple enough to do what it does and easy enough to see at a glance how things are going. And basically when there's a new habit I want to develop I add it to the list and set a notification schedule to "nag" me until it becomes more automatic so I don't forget. Even after I don't need to be reminded any more the don't-break-the-chain motivates me.

Also, some goals don't really make sense in a "goal / milestone" context. E.g. I can make a goal for anal sex, but it won't be very helpful, reliable or accurate when it eventually does happen since this isn't something that I have a clear roadmap to.

The risk there is that you're reinforcing some sort of covert contract. I don't like tracking things that are outside my control and have a fairly sharp razor for that. I only track what's under my control and things that I'm making an effort to improve (or monitoring to avoiding regressing on). I see it more as a tool focused on my behavior and not an almanac to track the weather or some woman's cervical mucus viscosity or whatever. So for example I track "didn't avoid initiating" which focuses on my behavior and not the outcome.

markpf73 · 2018-05-01T14:30:02+00:00

Weight lifting - app to track my workout and weights (warmup calculator).

MAP - put pen to paper in a journal and keep it somewhere safe. Every time you feel apathetic or lost revisit your MAP and take care of the low hanging fruit to keep you marching forward.

What you're really asking is how do I hold myself accountable. You can do it publicly with weekly OYS posts. Here you'll get feedback on your blind spots.

hbPUA · 2018-05-01T18:42:04+00:00

Two ways:

weekly review: Where i ask myself three or more basic questions.

What went well this week?
How could I improve _____?
What is my ONE thing in health, business, game I could improve, such by doing it everything gets easier or unneccesary?

Set systems instead of goals

Example goal, benchpress 1.5 * my body weight by june 30th.

Example system, I go to the gym four times a week, and dedicate two days to bench pressing and overhead presses. Following a proven lifting program that proggressivly add more weigth and others have used with success.

wild_deer_man · 2018-05-01T21:09:36+00:00

There is a simple method I came up with from reading some books: you make a list of big goals and a reasonable timeframe. Then, you break them down into actions and at the beginning of every week you write about 3 simple, doable, goals that will further you as much as possible.

The hard part is to filter the noise and find what is THE most important thing that will advanve you the most.

Keep the goals SIMPLE, so that by the end of the week you will feel that you have accomplished what you set out to do, and not disappoint yourself by taking more than you can actually handle.

I would say that this is a balance between ambitious long term goals and braking then down into simple steps. So for example "trying anal" may be a step in "make my sex life more fulfilling". You can even make small steps like finger her, get a small butplug, or any other creative idea you might think of.

pseu-don-ymous · 2018-05-01T22:34:54+00:00

I use Google Sheets, but with a different spreadsheet for different types of goals/tracking. Trying to combine everything into a single spreadsheet would be chaos. I have one for tracking my lifting (which makes it easy to measure my progress against identified goals), others for tracking "to do" list items to help me own my shit in different areas of life, another for career goals/planning, etc.

Works for me because each new spreadsheet is as simple or complex as I want to make it, and doing it on Google means they are all readily accessible on any computer or my phone. I've tried various apps, paper systems, etc—this is what works for me.

johneyapocalypse · 2018-05-01T13:37:56+00:00

I'm writing the equivalent of war and peace on the subject and will be posting to main sub in the coming days. I think you'll find it helpful.

SBIII · 2018-05-01T14:29:27+00:00

Some form of ink that goes on paper.

2ndal · 2018-05-01T14:57:21+00:00

If you have so many detailed goals that you can't think of a coherent way to organize them, that tells me you're not setting the right kind of goals.

I'm a fan of SMART goals: Specific, Measurable, Ambitious (yet Attainable), Relevant and Timely.

No single person an multitrack successfully beyond a certain point. Set core SMART goals for the key areas of your life and resist trying to measure every god damn thing.

creating_my_life · 2018-05-01T15:51:20+00:00

I can make a goal for anal sex

Never make another person's actions your goal.

SgtSilverBack · 2018-05-01T15:52:52+00:00

Remember one of the main points to being introspective about your goals and steps is to help focus your mind on the steps to reach that goal not just to remind you to do those steps.

They can be as broad or narrow as you need but at some point, narrow becomes an actual design. That is hard to maintain against many detailed goals.

Cloudsurf89 · 2018-05-01T21:47:24+00:00

Get yourself a cucumber and a tub of vaseline next time you're at the shops - big tick for anal for you this weekend 😆👍

gvntr · 2018-05-02T00:15:49+00:00

Write your Iron Goal down every day on a piece of paper.

yesbuthereswhy · 2018-05-03T01:39:40+00:00

I use a spreadsheet and a word document. The word document I call my handbook to success. It has a short paragraph about self discipline and then 8 subjects for success in no specific order. Body/Appearance, Finances, Profession, Marriage, Education, Social/Personal and Character. It has a few sentences or bullet points.

The spreadsheet I call my habits/goal tracker. There’s two sheets. The first one is things I’m focusing on right now. For instance stronglifts is on there, college is and a reminder for my wife’s birthday. There’s a few more other things. They can range from goals or habits. Goals for things I want to do. Habits for lifestyle choices I want to form.

The second sheet of that excel is called my parking lot ideas. It’s got goals and habits as well. Whenever I think about doing something that will take some time I put it down. For instance I have reduce my wardrobe, develop a list of network outing events and friends, and some personal things I want to accomplish like teaching myself physics and trigonometry.

I review these 3 times a week minimum.

Title	Method for creating and tracking goals
Author	electric_dragon1
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Date	May 1, 2018 1:26 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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