UPDATE: Crunch Time

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-08-25T03:33:23+00:00

So here you are.

That damn forest.

It’s so beautiful but now, there’s too many fucking trees in the way to see it!

Look, you’re RP. You can’t quit, give up, or walk away. It’s in you.

And you KNOW, even if you DID take her in now, the relationship you had, would still be dead.

Your frame would be gone, she’d have power she would ultimately resent having and lose respect for you.

The universe has given you a gift.

Accept it, gratefully and graciously, and..

DO NOT GIVE IT BACK!

Let’s look at this from the other side, you are an awesome motherfucker. You have shit going on and wired tight. You ARE the PRIZE.

One woman. One pussy.

That’s all she is. One. Let it go.

Are you seriously contemplating throwing away your shit over, ONEITIS?

Life has a lot of questions.

I’ll give you a hint:

The answers are SIMPLE.

SIMPLE does NOT equal EASY.

It’s hard to let her go. I know. I have to let my hypergamous hot wife go. It’s not easy, but it is..SIMPLE.

So, suck it up, buttercup.

You can, and will, do better.

You will thank you.

Your sons will thank you.

And WE will thank you when you post an FR in four months about the newest plate in your life, and how unbelievable she is.

One last point...if you only have one plate, that’s called a girlfriend.

You got this. You swallowed the pill.

You already got your shit together.

Now keep it together, for you, your boys, and all of us that believe this shit really works, because...

IT FUCKING DOES.

end pep talk.

NoCoast82 · 2018-08-25T01:42:25+00:00

Do not date single moms, that has to be red pill 101 right?

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-08-25T01:45:56+00:00

This is a girlfriend.

What the fuck happened to working on your abundance mentality?

Fit, Successfull?

“Time to come back to myself and keep focused on what I need to do.”

Yes.

You are the Prize. Start acting like it faggot.

weakandsensitive · 2018-08-25T09:38:51+00:00

Just read your first post. She's a 46 year old entitled woman. Gross. How the fuck did you decide that that entitled cunt deserves to be your girlfriend? My buddy moved into a new house yesterday and his 7-month pregnant wife (baby #2) was going around carrying stuff, packing, and unpacking, and a whole bunch of other stuff - not the heavy stuff but still. Two full days of this. So I'm here reading about you doing all this on your own thinking -- the fuck is wrong with this guy?

My apparent lack of "generosity" in this regard and my "fears and doubts" about having her move in immediately with me was just too much of a "painful rejection" for her.

Not sure how her feelings are all of a sudden your fucking problem.

"Great. I'm glad you have clarity. See ya later!"

There is literally nothing here that I'd be upset at. The whole notion of someone inviting themselves to come live in my house, and then getting upset when they're told no, is so laughable.

Let her have her travelling pants dream. Go bang some 35 year old milfs instead.

She wants a bf who says yes not no, who is "flexible and not rigid".

Reminds of this scene from Pulp Fiction. "What does Marcellus Wallace look like?" .. "Does ... he ... look ... like ... a ... bitch?!"

Tebulus · 2018-08-25T02:35:08+00:00

resisting the urge to just give in and tell her to move in.

Dont grasp at smoke, faggot. Its already gone and over with. If you do break, fuck you. You deserve it. You dodged a bullet early and got some bitchin advice from Matrix and UEM in your original thread. Take that and run with it.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-08-25T03:58:06+00:00

I’m thinking you need a cigar and some high quality scotch now. Dodged a bullet, you did.

On to Tinder, Bumble, and time to get out there. Your next FR better be you getting laid in less than two weeks.

BobbyPeru · 2018-08-25T04:00:43+00:00

Her:

She can no longer feel happy and open around me. She wants a bf who says yes not no, who is "flexible and not rigid".

You;

Great, I hope you find him. Ba-bye.

In one of Bill Burr’s specials he says he tells his woman to go down to Applebee’s to find “even-keel” Mr. right.

Bill Burr

Westernhagen · 2018-08-25T01:49:08+00:00

2.5 years, it was time to throw that plate in the fireplace anyway.

"Flexibility means doing what you want? Kthanksbye."

You dodged a huge bullet. Stay strong!

light-----------dark · 2018-08-25T01:58:19+00:00

She wants a bf who says yes not no, who is “flexible and not rigid”.

So she wants a beta bux while she rides around the CC.

You didn’t cave, and now she’s leaving - brilliant. Now you have the time to get back to work, so that when she comes back you can do whatever the fuck you want - on your terms with 4 other women on the side.

justpickanyusername · 2018-08-25T04:44:19+00:00

Her script here was to come up with a concocted reason to move in with you and lock you down. After 2.5 years she wanted full commitment and to cement her position. This last bit of her “ending it” is a Hail Mary on her part. If you are worth a damn she will crack and come back. If not, then you have dodged a bullet because she was seeking you as a provider more than anything. As others have said, resist the urge to reach out. Ghost her and move on. She may come around eventually, but you have a green light to pursue other options.

nonnimoose · 2018-08-25T18:14:34+00:00

Go back and read this response whenever you feel yourself wavering: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/98jsip/crunch_time/e4ihmxe/

I am around single women this age all the time and the sentence in caps (YOU ARE WHAT THEY ARE ALL LOOKING FOR) could not be more true. I hope you celebrate her departure with your 16 year old son who she did not get along with (how dare she?).

Be prepared for her return; she most surely will be back. IME, when someone gives a list of your supposed faults as the reasons for breaking up they always come back. When people are truly done with a relationship they either ghost or give the "it's not you, it's me" line.

BIG_HUB · 2018-08-25T01:47:27+00:00

Dodged a bullet man.

RandomlyChosenTitle · 2018-08-25T02:52:09+00:00

"resisting the urge to just give in and tell her to move in."

In short, hand over your balls and then apologize for not doing it sooner. After all, her bf isn't allowed think for himself and doesn't resist being manipulated.

Why would you consider bringing that into your home?

Persaeus · 2018-08-25T09:33:28+00:00

She’ll be back . Ffs get some plates before that happens

RuleZeroDAD · 2018-08-25T02:49:46+00:00

OPA!

Get some new plates. Hopefully without the accompanying cups and saucers next time.

healthyteacher4 · 2018-08-25T06:38:38+00:00

You won, bro. Your princess is in another castle. Don't worry.

dandar4600 · 2018-08-25T12:06:36+00:00

It's definitely highlighted my oneitis

The first step is to admit that you have a problem. Good job.

Sepean · 2018-08-25T16:24:04+00:00

I don't feel great about this turn of events and am resisting the urge to just give in and tell her to move in.

She has in no uncertain terms shown you how little you mean to her. If she liked you she'd put up with a ton of shit to be with you, but this woman just dumped you because you didn't fit neatly in her plan.

Move on, and work on yourself, up that SMV.

FireTempered · 2018-08-25T17:51:53+00:00

I read your first post. Other than great sex, you do not mention anything great about her. If she is the only woman you can get, I guess you're screwed. But wait, maybe there a few billion other women out there, that might like you enough to add more to your life than she does, and some great sex too.

Aren't you glad you bought that house, so you can stop wasting time on this woman.

RedPillCoach · 2018-08-26T03:55:43+00:00

She wants a bf who says yes not no,

That must make the breakup easier for you. Dodged a bullet. She does not want to submit to a man. She wants a man to submit to her so she can drain him into a dried out husk. Then she will move on to the next man to harvest.

Congratulations!

You are immortal again. Omnipotent!

adeptintact · 2018-08-26T01:46:39+00:00

If you're in your 30s, don't date single moms. That's one of Leykis' rules and one red pill theory that it's equivalent to cuckolding.

The fact that she wanted her son to move in with you to me says it all.

oytrp · 2018-08-27T16:05:19+00:00

You must feel light as a feather unloading all that baggage.

bourbonhipster · 2018-08-25T03:06:39+00:00

You sound angry. Do you need a hug?

griz3lda · 2018-08-26T11:47:00+00:00

case 1: she's a hassle and a golddigger, let her move on to someone else to scam

case 2: if you for some reason determine she is genuinely into you, good for you, etc, see the following:

If it were me with my gf, I would keep being nice to her (within reason-- I'm a bit of a lovebomber but with immobile boundaries) like nothing was happening. Do not take on any of the burden of implementing a situation you don't want. She may of her own accord present to you some hedging content about what would allow her to agree to your decision and still have the relationship (ie what you want)-- in that case, hear her out and maybe you'll be able to tweak her suggestions such that they're acceptable to you and make her a counteroffer. Being RP doesn't mean you can't care about maintaining your relationship if it's quality-- by all means, throw her some bones that don't matter to you (you can even pretend that this is a big compromise but one that you are willing to put the work in on, heh) as long as you're not compromising on the main thing. It sounds like she's invested if she's so sensitive to this perceived "rejection"-- I would assure her that on the contrary, this isn't a rejection but is actually you setting your world up in such a way that you will be ABLE to maintain a worthwhile relationship, not one that is doomed to failure because you are not taking care of your own needs. It's like "Put your own airmask on first"-- you simply cannot ignore the realistic conditions of what will allow you to succeed in a relationship, and your relationship is too valuable to you (here's the affirming part for her) for you to carelessly allow circumstances to destroy it when you know full well what your wellbeing [currently] requires.

(Can you tell I just went through this? 😏)

Title	UPDATE: Crunch Time
Author	discard9090
Upvotes	21
Comments	41
Date	August 25, 2018 1:30 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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