Why ask?

TrenGod37 · 2017-08-17T03:45:38+00:00

We are here to help you be a better man. Not hold your hand and tell you everything is going to be alright. Most guys come here and want a quick fix, and to be spoon fed everything without doing any of the readings or putting in any work in. That's not going to help you for shit. We are harsh because this shit isn't easy and it weens out the ones who aren't willing to do what it takes to get what they want.

Trust me I thought the same thing as you when I first came here. I got all butt hurt. Just like you. And now I am thankful they were hard on me. Being masculine means being tough. Having thick skin. If you can't handle a little name calling and toughness from Some strangers on the internet how the hell are you going to handle the shit your wife throws at you?

Some guys will be nicer than others and some are angry and just spew nonsense and hate.

Its is like this for a reason. It's meant to prepare you for what's to come and test/strengthen your frame. If you want emotional support and someone to clap for you every time you wipe your own ass join a woman's group because this isn't the place for that . If you want to be the best man you can be, grab a tissue, wipe your tears away. Pull up your big boy pants. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself today is the day you're going Man Up and put in some effort, ya pussy.

FireTempered · 2017-08-17T04:16:14+00:00

Well, "floppy_lobster" it's a fine pickle you find yourself in here.

You come here and would like to get some help. But you don't like that the help isn't "nice".

All your life, all my life all we heard was, "just be yourself" and "you don't need to change". "women appreciate a nice guy like you". "you will find a girl that deserves you"..........

They were so nice about it....... and you got lied to.

Now after all your years of betadom you come here for help. Has it occurred to you that you have gotten some of the best help you ever got in your whole life? That these bad, assholes beat up on you for a reason? You can't even handle this group of nameless faceless internet strangers, how are you ever going to handle your women.

Now, if you think I just beat up on you again, you are, once again, completely fucking wrong.

There are no participation awards here. But what you got your ego all bruised over, is the reality that you are not special. Your little princess is not special. Man, none of us are special! Get over it.

When you get tired of being wrong, get tired of being a chump, come back here, if you don't get yourself banned first. You are as welcome here as anyone.

Red-Curious · 2017-08-17T05:50:04+00:00

Amused mastery is not simply for your wife. Consider those people as practice for strengthening your frame. While keeping your ego in check, rise above those types of comments and laugh it off. After all, that's what they want you to do - that's the whole reason they're mocking you that way.

That said, if you want a place that will share hard truths, while giving a little more respect, feel free to post on r/RPChristians. Even if you're not a Christian, you can still get some good RP advice with a different atmosphere until your frame is strong enough to come back here.

Take my word for it - I've been ridiculed plenty enough, and could call out half a dozen people on that. But I'm thankful these people gave me an opportunity to practice rising above it with my attitude, while keeping the validity of my thought processes in check.

gettingmymojoback · 2017-08-17T10:38:18+00:00

Kill your ego yesterday and realize that you're being given exactly what you need.

Try actually listening to the message that is being given to you. All you hear is "these guys are being mean to me" because you fragile ego can't deal with the possibility that YOU are the problem.

It's ok. To borrow a phrase from Stone, "you ain't shit". None of us are. Like many I got my share of being shit on when I arrived. I deserved all of it, and needed to hear it.

The difference between those who make it and those who don't is how they react to that. Do they come to the realization that everyone is right and "they ain't shit" or do they cling to their ego and beg all the mean people to stop and just be nice.

Fuck that. Nice is the reason you're in the spot you're in. You're getting exactly what you need but can't see it.

The advice for you is the same as for everyone else. Now STFU and get back to work.

And stop abusing your dog. Don't think we're going to forget that. Your next OYS should start with "started obedience classes with the dog". Just like this place, you'll learn that obedience classes are more about training YOU than training the dog.

Dogs are simple creatures that react predictably to training input. Be smarter than the fucking dog. It's you who needs the training.

Get to fucking work.

Persaeus · 2017-08-17T11:49:51+00:00

treated worse than I have ever been treated in my life in any realm online or IRL

true I am sure; and a major problem with "society" today. steel is forged under the pressure of immense heat and the hammer.

I have definitely been treated worse IRL by other compared to this place. This place ain't shit. LOL

Sepean · 2017-08-17T04:57:53+00:00

We're carrying on the ancient masculine tradition of yelling at male pussies.

RedNorseSteel · 2017-08-17T03:41:37+00:00

Aww muffin, is your ass a little chapped?

Triadis3 · 2017-08-17T04:37:52+00:00

This is why step one is

Drop your fucking EGO.

You're here for a reason.

That reason is that there's something fucked up about your life.

Guess what? That's on you. You are doing something that got you here. It's all your fault.

To be able to admit that to yourself is a big jump. After all you've spent years with that little ego-protection hamster running at full speed. "Waaa. My wife won't fuck me! My life sucks! - it can't be me. It must be something else!"

Nope. It's you. You created it, you're living it, and chances are you're not changing anything to get out of the situation you're in.

What did Einstein say again...

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results."

The reason we use plain language is twofold.

1 - You've been doing it wrong for years. Often people need to get a baseball bat in the teeth to "wake up" and realize their life truly is shitty. Your wife won't call you a pussy, even if yours is bigger and hairier than hers. Guys in this locker room who "care" about you will.

2 - A litmus test. If you continue to get butthurt, DEER all over the page, or adopt a holier-than-thou attitude when some guys on an anonomous forum hurt your sensitive little feelings, then you probably haven't/can't drop the one thing that got you into the shitty life in the first place.... Your EGO.

The way a jerkoff responds to me calling him a faggot tell me a lot about whether he's a lost cause or worth trying to help.

Faggot.

donedreadpirate · 2017-08-17T13:46:50+00:00

Survival of the fittest bro it's a harsh world out there. Life will continue to be difficult for you. It's too bad you are tossing out your chance because feelings.

weakandsensitive · 2017-08-17T03:47:17+00:00

was supposed to be a place for camaraderie and to learn more about being a man from other men

you're mistaken. this is a place where those who've been around get to laugh at your stupid ass while you fail.

Had a main event with the wife three weeks into the journey

and you wonder why your dumbass gets ridiculed.

i seriously hope your wife has a man who's not a total bitch giving her some good dickings. frankly, she deserves it.

upvoted.

EDIT - YO! DON'T DELETE THIS POST LIKE YOU DELETED YOUR OTHER TWO POSTS FROM TODAY. SERIOUSLY STOP DEPRIVING PEEPS OF THIS COMEDIC VALUE.

EDIT2 - this is the guy who abuses his dog

AustralianArm · 2017-08-17T05:26:04+00:00

OP: "MUMMY!!! These mean men called me a faggot!"

OP's Mom: "Ummm, no offence but they're right."

OP's Wife: "Yep. Spot on loser faggot."

OP: <foetal position in corner, crying the Mississippi>

anythinginc · 2017-08-17T04:25:11+00:00

4 fucking days ago u/matrixtospartanatLV replied to you with a comment that gave me fucking chill bumps considering his short journey so far. All the active mods and handful of Red Berets replied as well. Now you're not being treated well? Because someone made a comment about your dog? Be better OP, I think you can.

AquitasVeritas · 2017-08-17T08:13:54+00:00

Its so funny how i felt that way for a second too a while ago. then it hit me.. "they" are just like my wife.. bitching and nagging. Just laugh it off and smack em on the butt (nohomo).

This shit makes u hard.

cormacisdead · 2017-08-17T14:30:28+00:00

Where i live, there are tons of scorpions. You cannot ask the scorpions not to exist or not to sting you if you encounter them. You have to teach yourself to walk heavily when barefoot. That way if you do step on one, you crush it before it has a chance to rear its stinger up and get you first. You cannot ask the scorpions in your life not to be scorpions- you have to learn to step harder. It's the only way.

simbarlion · 2017-08-17T04:50:05+00:00

to offer some helpful advice having enjoyed a roasting or two (not spit roast, that would be gay), when you post, hold yourself a mini competition about how bad the replies you will get. Disconnect yourself from the emotion and get the message. Expect for completely fucking rude and retarded and work backwards (And laugh at it). It becomes a bit of a sport. A blood sport.

BUT in amongst it you get some gold. And i always thank those who provide that. u/straius comes to mind, he made my fucking day having flamed me. There are many others.

If your posting is worthy of help people are here to help. But any post will get you a flaming bag of shit thrown at your head, regardless of how shit it is.

BirdManBrrrr · 2017-08-17T14:14:56+00:00

get crucified, shamed, and treated worse than I have ever been treated in my life in any realm online or IRL.

O Rly? Worse than what you get from your controlling, cunt wife? I find that hard to believe.

Humor me--a stranger on the internet--for a second: Go reread the responses you got to your now deleted OYS and the other posts you put here and tell me you didn't get EXACTLY what you needed to hear, good and bad.

If you don't think you did...well...bye. Have fun being a miserable fgt for the rest of your life.

While you're at it go watch some youtube videos about MCRD Parris Island. Might give you a little perspective.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2017-08-17T15:14:23+00:00

Ok.

Last chance. And you get one more than usual because you are so pathetic and I feel sorry for you. Normally, everyone in my life only gets two chances, the first one and the last one.

Your behavior is that of a woman.

Seriously.

Highly charged, and highly emotional responses, and a demonstrated inability to STFU. Highly estrogenic.

Your problem may be deeper than your inability to process these comments and understand the praxeology. Your problem may be biological.

My LAST suggestion, based on your posts, your self-ascribed behavior, and your responses, is that you are highly estrogenic AND very low testosterone.

You KNOW something is wrong.

You WANT to fix it.

But you can't process the answer.

Get your testosterone level checked, by someone who specializes in Men's issues. Your GP will likely see your low number, and say you're 'normal' simply because you are on the chart.

See a testosterone specialist.

Seriously dude, you are acting like a woman.

Get that shit checked.

nooomaam · 2017-08-18T01:28:09+00:00

You sound frustrated.

If you didn't have any repercussions, how would you unfuck yourself?

nooomaam · 2017-08-18T01:28:40+00:00

And eat a dick? Maybe we should add how to properly cuss to the side bar.

88Will88 · 2017-08-18T05:40:06+00:00

A few months ago I might have agreed with you, but a dose of tough love is often the best thing for guys who are struggling with beta behaviours. Think of the army, basic training is tough and noone gets a break, you either get with the program or leave. If you want people who say "yeah broh, wimminnare all cunts" or "you have found the right place, we will tell you what to do", go to TRP. This is not likely to improve your relationship though. Tough love is exactly that, you need to try out the sidebar, read the books and then work on yourself. If you want to keep the relationship, you need to work on you. There is no quick or easy way. Hopefully 6 months from now you will look back and realise that this was the best thing for you.

sh0ckley · 2017-08-21T11:52:06+00:00

I thought the same as you for a brief moment until I realized I had no idea how The Male Social Matrix works because I was a total fucking pussy.

Now I'm not a pussy and being told that I was, was the first step in learning how not to be.

Separate content from tone.

DrPillPopperMD · 2017-08-22T20:52:00+00:00

The way of the superior male says men grow through challenge and being challenged - women grow through nurturing and encouragement - so what's that say, I think get back to the side bar.

I came here about a year ago, they were as rough on me as they are on you, the difference is owning ur shit is taking a real look at yourself. Not a single comment that anyone made was off the mark, trust me, it's hard to hear but there is truth and constructive feedback in the comments everyone provides, even if they're tearing you down.

Once your frame is solid, you recognize them as areas of improvement and work to fix them, not get defensive and argue with internet strangers.

It wasn't easy hearing my wife rode the cock carousel and got it in the ass, and not wanting to be to bothered with having boring sex with me - one later, solid frame, 15 lbs of muscle and running my ship has me turning myself into the kind of guy that any women would want to get with and if my wife wants to be that woman, I invite her into my life.

Take the advice, read, lift and STFU until you know what you're doing - it's tough love but it's a tried and true formula.

Title	Why ask?
Author	floppylobsterMRP
Upvotes	1
Comments	42
Date	August 17, 2017 3:33 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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