Girlfriend had MFM threesome with ex bf and some random he found. Should I be as disgusted as I am?

BucketOfSunshins · 2015-10-26T16:24:51+00:00

She's told me that she slept with 18 guys but I've only slept with 3.

Well, sounds like you need to sleep with 15 more guys.

CisWhiteMaelstrom · 2015-10-26T16:10:15+00:00

She told me about it and it made me feel sick to my stomach.

Boom. There's your answer. Why are you asking us if you've got stomach pains? I wasn't gonna tell you what to think or what to feel but then I opened up the question and you're telling me how you feel and what to think. You don't need the red pill's permission to be disgusted. If you're disgusted then you're disgusted. I'd be disgusted too btw, but that's besides the point.

Is it as slutty as I think it is?

She's told me that she slept with 18 guys

It's pretty slutty. For future reference, if she's slept with another 18 guys then that should be a hint as to whether something that sounds slutty that she's done actually is slutty.

I don't think it's as bad as it could be because she was in a relationship

That means nothing. Why couldn't she keep her other boyfriends around? It's the same shit as if they were all one night stands. She couldn't appeal to the men and so they left and her partner count soared because she found new dick instead of correcting the problem. She probably kept those guys around as long as she did via deception and then they left when they figured her out.

Supposedly didn't want to have the threesome but gave in after her beta ex pestered her enough.

... Found the deception. Women don't just fall into three ways. They don't just get pushed into sex they didn't want to have. They don't just lack all agency required to take an interest in their own lives and control who they slept with. This woman slept with those men because she made a decision to to do that. She likely played a very active role and figured the cost of lying to you about who she is and why she does the things she does was small.

I'm thinking I need to drop her and pick up some plates and do my own thing for a few years.

Then why are you on asktrp? You seem to have a good handle on this shit. You really don't need to ask permission to break up with a whore who makes you sick to your stomach and then lies to you. You know what to do; go enjoy those plates.

FrameWalker · 2015-10-26T16:14:36+00:00

The thing about tolerating disgust and disappointment is that it builds resentment. There's no overcoming it, only choice is to drop. Sleutha bit more before accepting LTR.

razerhtc · 2015-10-26T21:51:41+00:00

Well, I dumped the fuck out of her. Now she's calling me. I'm going to wait a bit, answer, then plate her. If she doesn't want to be a plate then she's gone forever. Also arranged to meet up with two women this week, so I'm not worried at all about the outcome of this.

Frdl · 2015-10-26T16:06:38+00:00

Have fun thinking about your gf getting smashed by two guys at the same time. You need to bail asap. Have some self respect.

fnordsnord · 2015-10-26T16:30:08+00:00

You've only slept with three guys? Wow.

(I kid. Sorry. It's the English Degree.)

First of all, she's volunteered a number. That's generally not a good sign. It's also pretty high. Remember: always multiply a woman's number by at least 2. Most guys say three. Because when they are counting:

Oral doesn't count.
Anal (only) doesn't count.
Drunk sex doesn't count.
Vacation sex where they won't ever see the guy again doesn't count.

As far as the threesome - I'd worry less about that. He might have been into it, and it could just means she's biddable. I'd be more concerned about the number. Especially if she's under 40.

arnieschwarz · 2015-10-26T16:02:56+00:00

Replace "for a few years" with "forever" and you'll be fine.

sodainthewatercup6 · 2015-10-26T16:25:26+00:00

18 guys isn't bad for a 45-year-old woman.

jb_trp · 2015-10-26T16:20:33+00:00

Don't be in an LTR with this woman. Next.

RedPillAccount69 · 2015-10-26T22:37:44+00:00

If she had admitted to 18 the real number is probably around 50.

JeanValjean197o · 2015-10-26T19:40:15+00:00

MFM is not a threesome. It's a gangbang. Your girlfriend got gangbanged.
You may feel uncomfortable because of the obvious lie she is telling you and you haven't quite figured out.

In my time women have repeatedly mentioned some indecent proposal made to them in the past or just recently. They do this and then reassure you that it isn't or won't happen, but in fact is probably did and probably isn't happening. She mentions it both to gauge your reaction and as a potential inoculation for the truth should it come out. She sets your frame of mind in a way that you don't believe she is that kind of girl so you won't suspect her, but if you do learn the truth then she can claim she told you about it, but you just forgot or misunderstood.

Case in point was a fuckbuddy I had about 6 years ago. One day she tells me that a "friend" of hers wants to stay in her spare bedroom but she said know because he's a sex addict.

I told her that I didn't care but if you do then let me know so I can wrap it up. She said she wasn't going to let him live with her, blah, blah, but sure enough two weeks later I found her shacked up with him and of course she didn't tell me.

So, you should be sick. Sick of the fact that she lets a bunch of dude pounds her. Sick of the fact that she claims to be a victim or reluctant participate when in fact she continued to fuck the second dude after she broke up with her bf.

It's the lies that make me sick. I can deal with a lot of things, but when you lie it's an automatic next for me.

int3rnetz · 2015-10-26T18:10:16+00:00

Yo, Everyone is shitting on you. But my view is this - let slutboxes be slutboxes. And this mentality never came easy to me....lots of reading redpill and converting myself. But now, I see people how they are. There are nice girls and then there are hoes. Dont turn a hoe into a house wife. This girl is a toy, so have fun. Shes not LTR material, she's no well priced ferrari...shes a rental car. So use her, have fun, bang her at your friends bathroom while stopping by for lunch, get a bj at dinner, do all the things you want to do that you red in 50 shades to her and stop worrying so much. You know shes not LTR so don't worry about. Cap your time with her and do more productive things. Don't blow alot of money or time with her. Find a nice LTR on the side even and give her the best. The other chick.....shes a rental. But then again some people buy used second had rental cars.....

wehadtosaydickety · 2015-10-26T16:43:17+00:00

I recently got out of a LTR who I got sick-to-my-stomach over some of her past, then hooked up with this girl who was very open about her sexual history (on the surface at least) and it was almost refreshing for her to tell me about her MFM threesome. Refreshing in the sense that this girl wasn't hiding or trickle truthing me like my ex did.

So I toyed with the idea of 'what if' I LTR'd this new girl? Could I really handle that history? That's way worse than what grossed me out about my ex but it was presented in such an honest way, I had to at least rethink the situation.

One conclusion I came to is that this MFM happened so recently, within the past six months, that I just don't think she was ready to settle down with a boyfriend. She's got some things to work through if she is banging randoms and having two dudes and whatnot, that's just a whole mess I don't want to get involved in. Her n count was 6 at 23, but 4 (including me) in the past year.

And of course what everyone else said here as well, just wanted to add some perspective. It sounds like there is a lot of drama here you don't want, you don't even really know for sure how this break up happened just that there is a MFM mixed in there.

throw_em_all · 2015-10-26T17:34:44+00:00

She told me before that she broke up with her ex because he suggested a threesome. Now I found out that she broke up with him after two MFM threesomes, then had sex with the other guy for a bit while rebounding.

I'd say try setup a FMF threesome with her (if you're into that stuff) and immediately after break up with her.

Yes she's a slut, yes she's not LTR material, but you might as well take full advantage of it before saying bye bye.

mrpCamper · 2015-10-26T17:40:47+00:00

I can't imagine any positives coming out of a woman admitting to a lover that she's had a MFM threesome unless she was trying to get some angry cave man sex out of the guy and didn't give a shit about him or their future. Or she is completely oblivious to how men feel about this shit.

thefisherman1961 · 2015-10-26T23:45:33+00:00

Trust your gut bro. That trickle truth was her ASD kicking in. The Anti-Slut Defense is AWALT, but lying isn't. She is a slut and a liar. You know what you need to do.

Stateofnature01 · 2015-10-27T20:36:11+00:00

Demand a FFM threesome or walk. You've gotten the pussy, and you realize she's just a hot-dog stand. Extract value from her looseness by bringing in another girl or drop her.

mrheh · 2015-10-26T18:06:51+00:00

Yes, demote her to hoe status and live your life.

MyLittleAtomBomb · 2015-10-26T22:23:57+00:00

Plate her.

If she's willing to do that, what else is she willing to do?

Women are arcade machines. Set the high score!

wiking85 · 2015-10-26T16:45:06+00:00

Look you feel how you feel, there isn't wrong or right to it. If that is something that makes you feel negatively then that is how you feel, you don't need others to validate your feelings. If you're not going to marry her you know she's Miss Right Now, not Miss Right, so enjoy the relationship for the temporary fun it is and just remember how you feel about where things are headed; let things take their course and get out and meet people.

Archwinger · 2015-10-26T16:59:27+00:00

Didn't Kevin Smith make a movie about this?

walkingthelinux · 2015-10-26T18:28:45+00:00

Her ex was probably a cuckold type as well; so the other guy was probably less random than he was hung like a horse.

So, after she broke up with the beta (because the other guy out alphaed him), she took a long hard ride on that huge cock until the guy dumped her when he got bored.

thebillstone · 2015-10-26T21:00:53+00:00

18....you don't wanna know the real number.

Whisper · 2015-10-26T20:43:43+00:00

"Threesome" is FFM. The word for MMF is "gangbang".

You LTRed up a woman who never should have been promoted above "plate".

Demote or dump her.

drqxx · 2015-10-27T03:30:51+00:00

Pack now and leave.

Victorboris1 · 2015-10-26T17:58:48+00:00

My personal opinion is that you should be absolutely disgusted. If I were in your place, I would absolutely dump her.

BlackHeart89 · 2015-10-26T18:27:59+00:00

Her body count is 18. Enough said.

flying_cumshot · 2015-10-26T20:12:10+00:00

She said 18.

Now take that number and multiply by 3.

There's your real body count.

zo34 · 2015-10-26T19:16:45+00:00

~~> She's told me that she slept with 18 guys but I've only slept with 3~~

~~Not a bad record for a straight guy. How many women have you slept with?~~

It seems this joke was tired before I even got here.

it made me feel sick to my stomach

I challenge you to ask why you feel sick to your stomach. You'll know you've got to the root cause when the statements involved start with "I feel this way because..." I would also suggest that you brush up on your covert contracts a bit. It seems to me that expecting a plate to have a low n-count is unreasonable at the very least. Discarding her because she hurt your feelz is also unreasonable.

You got involved emotionally, which bred some covert contracts that you weren't aware of, and that led to this visceral awareness you now have of those same contracts. You need to identify them and fix yourself before you say a thing to that woman. Being butthurt and nexting her "because feelz" is about the most unmanly thing you could do.

do my own thing for a few years

This doesn't require plates. This will be good for your head and your life direction.

nophoney · 2015-10-26T19:59:35+00:00

She's told me that she slept with 18 guys

Women divide by 3 when reveling their number of sexual partners. Your girlfriend is a slut. Plate her and get on with your life.

Ola_Kala · 2015-10-26T20:10:15+00:00

she broke up with him after two MFM threesomes, then had sex with the other guy for a bit while rebounding.

umm....

I came in a month or so after all that

You got seconds after that fuck fest.

Is it as slutty as I think it is?

Yes

Go with your gut, YES it is.

She's told me that she slept with 18 guys but I've only slept with 3.

You have only slept with 3 guys? So you were gay before hahah.

18 guys that she can recall, but she didn't count that military guy she fucked the night after the club, or the random taxi cab driver she fucked in the cab for a free ride, or Chad Thundercock in the pool in Cancun.

NEXT her. Please do it man. Girls like that will mess you up. My ex-LTR slept with "18 guys" as well, and I will tell you she was messed up, TRP saved my life.

GET OUT NOW.

F_Dingo · 2015-10-27T01:25:21+00:00

I'm thinking I need to drop her

That would be the correct course of action.

3rt41 · 2015-10-27T05:55:48+00:00

Trust

Your

Guts

slater2j · 2015-10-27T06:13:41+00:00

Sounds like you have one kinky plate. Not girlfriend material thoufh

MattR1302 · 2015-10-27T01:05:07+00:00

The ex either isn't a beta or it was her idea. Either way - get out.

waynebradysworld · 2015-10-27T20:53:57+00:00

If your number was comparable it might be a different situation. I don't foresee you ever not resenting her in the current situation, thus it is time to move on. Go have some wild experiences and worry about a LTR later if that is your end goal.

falafin · 2015-10-26T18:24:56+00:00

Consider thoroughly whether it is reasonable and beneficial for you to stay in a relationship with a woman of loose morals

spoiler&protip: it's not

next her and learn from the experience

ben0wn4g3 · 2015-10-26T18:38:50+00:00

I would say 'look, I have never had a FMF and you have had a MFM - I'm just not comfortable seeing someone who has experienced sexually what I have not. So if you can set up a FMF for me, we may have a chance!'

darkstar505 · 2015-10-26T20:14:52+00:00

She told me about it and it made me feel sick to my stomach.

it still makes me uncomfortable.

Follow your gut on this one. I was in almost the same exact situation two months ago when a girl I was exclusive with (LTR-light) wanted to have threesome with other guys and girls. Then she told me she slept with 9 guys (at the age of just 18). Then that she fingered a female friend of her a few days before we started dating. I ended things a few days later because I just felt really weird thinking about her. After just three weeks she started fucking another guy that became her bf.

The sex was great but I am happy I do not have this weird gut feeling that something is off anymore. May hurt at first but in the end you will be happy you broke up with a girl like this. If I were you, I would break up with her ASAP.

Sdom1 · 2015-10-26T20:46:54+00:00

So, can you get her to engage in some FMF action with you? Maybe with some intelligent application of dread, she would. She obviously doesn't have too many boundaries.

Do that, satisfy your curiosity, and then bail.

-rubashov · 2015-10-26T21:16:21+00:00

Yes it is. Trust your gut, there are millions of years of evolution telling you something.

Apexk9 · 2015-10-26T21:51:53+00:00

Get a FFM threesome out of it then dumb the bitch and fuck the other F you will feel MUCH BETTER.

gmwbh · 2015-10-27T00:08:05+00:00

On his behalf at least

Kiwikeeper · 2015-10-27T00:27:50+00:00

trust your gut! Always

ramot1 · 2015-10-27T03:03:06+00:00

Did you two have a mutually exclusive relation agreement? If not, then you really don't have much of a relationship, just two ships on a similar route for a while.

If you haven't really red-pilled much, AWALT means all women are like this. At least so many are that that the outliers don't matter much. Swallow more red pill, and you will know the answer to your own question.

2comment · 2015-10-27T04:06:53+00:00

Yes.

clint_bronson · 2015-10-27T09:43:06+00:00

And the guy who got two MFM threesomes is the beta? Okay.

You know what to do, that feeling of disgust won't ever go away, plate her accordingly or be done with it and cut contact with her.

Stargazer34 · 2015-10-27T11:53:38+00:00

Man you're worse than a woman - listen to you try to squirm and rationalize her actions and your disgust.

Example: How is HE the Beta, he pounded her AND had threesomes with her and then YOU got the sloppy THIRDS in this case. After all that then you decided to date her.

Not trying to be a dick here but I am hoping to slap a bit of empowerment into you. As our father Tom Leykis would say " DUMP THAT BITCH"

DreadLockedHaitian · 2015-10-27T17:08:35+00:00

NEXT.

uberrific · 2015-10-28T04:20:03+00:00

Stop feeling disgusted and get a threesome going with her! Obviously she is not LTR material.

chief_slap_ahoe · 2015-10-27T11:24:08+00:00

This is what women don't understand their past matters. Feminism has led him to believe that they can go out and fuck whoever and wherever they get with someone new is a clean slate and I start over the real world doesn't work like that a man with honor and pride will not be with a common street whore and someone that would do what your ex or your current girlfriend done out of spite or whatever it's just a few steps over that

She is what I call a fun time girl you ride it for as long as you can but never expect anything serious because she will jump on the next cock as soon as she can.

Title	Girlfriend had MFM threesome with ex bf and some random he found. Should I be as disgusted as I am?
Author	razerhtc
Upvotes	52
Comments	112
Date	October 26, 2015 3:58 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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Pack now and leave.