I've got a problem, that is, I really love cuddling. So much, that I wanted to cuddle with my ex LTR and she refused it sometimes because it was too much.

Even though the relationship didn't end because of that, I clearly feel how it influences the way how I get along with girls. For instance, there was one girl that was quite interested in me. We talked, met, watched movies, and so on. We also cuddled - but I felt I cuddled too much just because I liked it. She lost interest before I could escalate further (I could not have escalated before cuddling more - that would have been to fast, I should have applied dread instead).

So, as a result I now try to refrain from cuddling and shrink it down to like 10%. I can see this works out really well, but it doesn't feel really great. To give you an impression of how cuddling is for me: I can just very closely cuddle with a girl for like 1 hour without doing literally anything else, just because it feels so good. (Of course I am not doing that but watching a movie so she doesn't get bored fast)

Shrinking down cuddling for me feels very similiar to shrinking down the amount of sex.

But as it clearly works against my ability to successfully handle women, I wonder if anyone has the same or similar issue and how they were able to mitigate or resolve it. Or even what the reasons might be. I sure thought about if there is any fundamental psychogical problem deep inside me, but my life actually went really straight and well - only thing is that I was inexpierenced with girls until 20 (now I'm 31) but that didn't bother me too much.

tl;dr

I love to cuddle too much and long which is not attractive to girls. Why could I like it so much and how can I resolve/change this?