I wanted to make a post for guys like myself. Now when you read the title you know immediately that this isn't for the well put together guy who wants tips on how to slightly tweak their game to get 9's instead of the 8's that they can F-Close at the moment, sorry guys there is a small chance this might help but there is plenty of content that will help you out there if it doesn't. Also when I say "guys like myself" I mean guys who know the basics and even some intermediate content but are hitting a brick wall mentally with this kind of stuff, so this won't be a "How To Wash, Groom and Shave That Neckbeard Guide" nor will it be "How To Beat AA and Kino Effectively In One Move Vol 5".

Now that we have the Poseurs, the guys who are doing it right and the guys who need to take a shower and crawl out of the basement (but will join us at a later date) out of the way it's time to concentrate on a demographic that I am part of that which encompasses the depressed, the sociopaths, the socially anxious, the autists etc. I think you get the picture. I can only share my experiences and what I have learned from them as a depressed, socially anxious, autistic freak and hopefully some of it resonates with you out there and at least sparks a debate.

So I guess I should start by talking about discipline. I think all we know that shy, anxious and depressive mindsets are not attractive to the majority of women (of course there will be some but they are rare and they have to like your particular brand of fucked upness which makes the chances minuscule) so what action do we take as fucked up guys? We attempt to get rid of all these mindsets aided by an arsenal of advice from the internet and this advice falls under two categories temporary and permanent. Temporary advice will tell you to "fake it till you make it" and preach that everything will fall in place eventually, which seems to be pretty good news to most people and yes it is but for Mr Fuck Up over here its not washing. Sorry guys we (and I include myself in this) were dealt a shit hand genetically and in turn are going to have to work mighty hard to pull ourselves out of this one.

If you resonate with what i'm describing thus far then right now you have to stop looking for quick fixes and get disciplined. And when I say disciplined I mean disciplined. For example here is my routine when i'm in disciplined mode:

  • If I have to get up at 7.30am for class, I will be in my bed for 11.15pm the previous night, this gives me time to fall asleep and a solid 8 hours sleep per night. I can't stress how important a decent sleep pattern is for a good mental state.

  • When I have time during the day, I go for a run which usually takes me about 50 minutes to complete. I try and do this three times a week. This eases my depressive mindsets greatly.

  • I shower daily, take care of my teeth, fix my hair and make sure I look and smell presentable. Even if this is just for going to the shops. If I haven't done one of the things, it's not a crisis but I like to have it as a routine to keep me in line and make sure i'm ready for whoever I bump into when out.

  • I abstain from masturbation. I know this one is controversial and that /r/NoFap has been criticized for being too cult like which I fully take on board however placebo or not, not fapping eases all of my negative mind habits and most importantly makes me actively want to chase women. As some of you depressed guys will know, trying to gain a libido when depressed can be fucking difficult at the best of times.

I could go on and describe everything that I do but that isn't the point, the point is to illustrate that fucked up guys NEED to have a strict regimented routine to succeed. I'm not saying do exactly what I do but at least find things that will keep you disciplined that you follow through with.

So now we have a well disciplined guy who decides to go out and unleash himself upon the helpless women of the world, fraught with confidence he gets closer and closer to making his approaches and then he is immediately his old self again and flees. So why did this seemingly unstoppable force change direction and cower away? Because he remembers that he isn't who he is portraying due to the fact that he is out of his comfort zone. That is the second thing I want to mention, comfort zones.

Compared to getting out of your comfort zone as a messed up individual gaining discipline is child's play. I am just as bad at this as most of you because I am one of you. For me getting a job is outside of my comfort zone, making a speech to an audience is outside of my comfort zone and speaking to gorgeous women is a long long way outside of my comfort zone. I'm not going to stand here and preach to you about how I did it and how you should follow suit, I'm still stuck at this part of what I perceive as the steps I have to take to become successful at this whole life thing. However I know in my mind from the very few times that I have stepped outside of my comfort zone that it is so beneficial to you as a person, in all aspects not just seduction.

The way I see it is you have to take baby steps if you are flawed, so once you have gained even the slightest bit of confidence and energy from being disciplined...do something with it! It's all fine and well to gain confidence and energy but if its not being used then its pointless, all you'd really be is a contented hermit as opposed to a depressed hermit. So do something that phases you, even if its as small as going to the shops if you were too nervous to before, then the next week on your walk to the shops look people dead in the eye as you walk past them and smile. Eventually going to the shops and looking people in the eye will be nothing to you and you have to just keep going. I will add that the steps will get bigger as you go along but your tolerance to making larger steps will increase.

In relation to seduction, my major comfort barrier that I have to break is speaking to girls whilst sober, so what i've been doing when out is decreasing the amount I drink each time, to now that i'm at the point where i'm only having 1 or 2 drinks on a night out. Eventually I'm going to go sober which will be hard but something I have to do.

Now I have lots more to say on this matter, such as stripping the indentity but I think i'll save you that as this is quite a large post. However if the demand is there i'd be happy to make future posts on the same matter.

tl;dr: If you have are mentally fucked up you should start by getting a sense of discipline in your life and then following up by venturing outside of your comfort zone if you want to break through, as this is the only option if you are struggling with mental problems.

Edit: Just to let you know, part II of this is now available here and Part III is here.