All these three first dates asked EXACTLY the same questions

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-06-22T19:52:52+00:00

She wants to know if u are looking for casual or serious relationship.

She wants to know if she is rebound or not.

She wants to be validated.

JackSquirts · 2025-06-22T19:00:55+00:00

It's this decade's "do you come here often?" and "what's your sign?"

Charge36 · 2025-06-22T19:17:38+00:00

"Only cute gals named <her name>"
Honest answer In a matter of fact tone
Also honest but its a good opportity to mention a few things about her specifically that interested you. Maybe include a physical thing but don't lead with it. "Smart fit girls who like hiking. What's the coolest view you've ever hiked to?"

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-06-23T02:26:58+00:00

Just be truthful as usual. If you want to add a slight flare of humor and it's within your natural personality, sure. But don't dodge questions or act like a clown over these kinds of questions. She is likely trying to gauge what kind of person and relationship you are looking for. If you're seeking casual, tell her.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-23T11:44:18+00:00

You need to view this as qualification on her end. For example, when we do this we will disqualify an answer we don't like, and shoot IOIs on answers that impress and attracts us.

I would answer with honesty.

If you have trouble replying with honesty, then the qualfiication on her end is doing what it is supposed to do and is guarding her interests. Her interest is keeping fakers, low value and incongruents out -> disqualification.

tampawn · 2025-06-23T16:34:17+00:00

---no barely at all --I seem to do much better in person

---Define relationship

---I don't have one. I married a tiny blonde and wow that was a mistake. My type is kind warm supportive and doesn't talk nonstop...and here's the kicker...she asks questions!

Never answer a direct question with a direct answer. Make it fun, get them talking, and establish some mystery or it will be your first and last date with her.

LucaCoco_ · 2025-06-23T03:40:03+00:00

I would answer honestly

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-06-23T01:12:57+00:00

None of these questions need to be answered fully honestly of course. They're all just ways for them to try and prevent them from getting pumped and dumped yet again. Just tell them what you know what they want to hear. Nothing matters until you actually meet them in person.

Appropriate_Cake4694 · 2025-06-23T12:21:21+00:00

"What is your type?" this one is a setup for you to give compliments. (just describe her)

other 2 are to know what you are looking for. (hookup or relationship)

invisibletraveler2 · 2025-06-24T12:13:20+00:00

Answering these questions is a great opportunity to demonstrate and establish a few perceptions.

"Not often, only if I get a really good vibe or seems like to good to miss out on" - Make her feel special, she is not next in rotation, she is special.
Be brief but be kind about your ex, don't be nasty or negative. Also be clear it's over, how glad you are she is doing now. Show you are gracious and not still caught up on your ex.
By this point in time you should have picked up on how she sees herself or wants to be seen. Not the attributes that everyone tells her about. Mention you are looking for these qualities and then mention the experiences you want to have.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-06-26T11:53:59+00:00

Yeah it’s just ways of communicating until you can vibe well or hit a topic that’s interesting. I find I ask a lot of boring questions until I can get to one that’s more interesting. It’s like a little golden nugget then I go down that rabbit hole. I’m just waiting for it with each question

eablokker · 2025-06-22T20:59:13+00:00

That’s girl code for “I don’t have a fucking clue what I’m doing.” That’s okay, as long as you’re the one who knows what you’re doing then you’ll be good.

Life-Income2986 · 2025-06-22T20:28:30+00:00

Those questions are inane and stupid except for the second one which is downright rude and not her fucking business.

I've never been asked any of these questions thought for some reason.

Title	All these three first dates asked EXACTLY the same questions
Author	CaptainDolin
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Date	June 22, 2025 6:46 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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