Anyone ever take dance classes?

RProgrammerMan · 2022-06-28T19:51:59+00:00

I do salsa dancing as a hobby. It teaches you a ton about interacting with women. You have to practice eye contact. You get to practice touching them in a friendly, non-creepy way. You get practice approaching strangers when you ask them to dance. It makes it easy to adopt the abundance mentality because you’re meeting lots of women. You get lots of female friends so you learn how to manage healthy relationships with women. In the age of tinder and social isolation I think it would benefit society a great deal if it was more mainstream. When it comes to social skills cultures that incorporate it have a definite edge.

nelsne · 2022-06-28T21:02:11+00:00

Oh yeah. I took Salsa. It's a great way to meet women. I wouldn't hit on any women in the classes though. They have these events called "Socials" where everyone gets together and goes to a salsa club with people from all different schools and just salsa hobbyists. That's where you hit on the women

BigBrownBicep · 2022-06-28T18:44:11+00:00

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spicy_simba · 2022-06-29T05:08:33+00:00

I picked up Bachata last year and Kizomba this year.

It made me face a lot of insecurities and anxieties, including fear of failure, fear of being seen as a creep, fear of rejection, fear of being judged for my dancing. Being overly self conscious.

I used to dread dancing and avoid it at all costs, i used to believe i can not dance and that will be that for the rest of my life. I used to avoid parties to not be put in a dance situation, big time anxiety and avoidance.

It also taught me about accepting myself and letting go of idealism and embracing discomfort and mistakes, patience and letting go of being overly self critical.

Over time my mindset shifted from "wanting to be good" to "learning to enjoy dancing", from "trying hard to impress someone else" to "focusing on enjoying myself"

Just like karaoke, dancing is not about "being good, being perfect" quite the opposite. Its about enjoying the song with whatever you have.

I also experienced dating a friend who went to classes with me, we knew each other beforehand, and going to classes together helped getting closer, eventually we broke up but still had to go to classes, going to classes after breakup was very uncomfortable to say the least.

Dancing classes and social dance also teach and calibrate for making difference between ladies behaviors. I used to interpret "thank you" and a smile from a girl i like as "marry me", now i see that as politeness, and i can catch myself looking for signs in the clouds when a girl is cute. Now i understand there are many many levels in between being polite to being friendly to being interested in becoming more than a friend.

On social dancing events, people are friendly and smile as part of dancing etiquette. Some people are more comfortable with touch than others, some people are more comfortable with eye contact. Some people are more chatty, more playful, It is not personal. The etiquette is to not put people at discomfort, to say thank you and to move away quickly at the end of the dance.

If a girl asks to dance again, it means she wants to dance again, over time i stopped overthinking everything a girl does, which is a big relief.

We had a few guys who came to classes and were hitting on girls during classes, some of my female friends stopped coming to classes because of such behaviors, or stopped doing eye contact. Dance classes kind of forces people to dance together, and some of the girls do not want to make a scene in public, they try to save face and avoid embarrasment, sometimes this is interpreted as a sign for these guys to keep pushing harder and harder. One of my friends gives her number when asked out of being friendly at the class, and these guys go home feeling like she is into them, and that they succeeded, and start texting her love letters or weird shit. Please do not do that to your classmates.

Organic_Valuable7826 · 2022-06-28T19:45:38+00:00

I feel you bro, I’ve always wanted to take one myself, it has the same effect as public speaking.

macroxela · 2022-06-28T22:42:00+00:00

I dance a lot of Swing, Salsa, and especially Bachata and like u/RProgrammmerman said, it helps you build social skills with the opposite sex as well as other benefits. Like you, I've gained a lot more confidence and have received a lot more attention since I learned to dance. It's gotten to the point that I've had to reject quite a few women sexually/romantically since I go dancing for the sake of dancing and socialising with friends, not to hook up or find a romantic partner.

I've brought it up a few times in this subreddit but every time at least one commenter says how martial arts is better or some other comments invalidating what I've said about dancing (just like u/CompetitionFair7686 has done with you). It seems like several Redditors here simply have something against dancing or misunderstand it. Just ignore such comments, they usually don't know what they're talking about. Keep dancing and improving your confidence. It will help you grow significantly.

cronasminate · 2022-06-28T20:51:05+00:00

Oh man and when you find a girl who knows how to dance and vibe, that some good times. So many girls I've brought to club think literally just humping you is dancing. I was dating this grade a Russian slut who was hot but was literally a flirt to everyone and had a lot of attitude but I put up with her because she knew how to move on the dance floor. It's a different form of expression and finding someone who knows how to express through dance is a vibe.

TuckerTheCuckFucker · 2022-06-28T21:54:34+00:00

Go to a rave and do some molly… you will never by shy of dancing again lol

Here_123_ · 2022-06-28T21:05:58+00:00

So when I was in college I went to a few parties and always asked the dj to put some Spanish music and would always asked a girl to dance some girls said no but this one girl always would be down to dance with me so it really helped my confidence even more and she was very attractive… biggest thing was I wanted to dance and anything else is a plus … once we start talking you never know that could be a future wife

ThorxIII · 2022-06-29T01:42:05+00:00

I take ballroom dancing lesson just started a year ago but definitely feel more confident.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-06-28T18:41:15+00:00

Because you don’t need to dance well to get laid. That’s why it’s not talked about. It’s fine if you like it but completely unnecessary for seduction purposes.

burncushlikewood · 2022-06-29T07:36:21+00:00

Idk I don't think how good you are at dancing really matters, when you French fry when you're supposed to pizza, you're gonna have a bad time. Just as long as you have fun that's what matters, but I've heard salsa dancing is great especially if you travel to Latin America!

2022-06-29T08:04:36+00:00

Been there, done that.

Dancing is great for meeting with girls BUT it's just too boring for me to waste my precious time.

CompleteRetard69 · 2022-06-29T19:50:31+00:00

I’d just be afraid that I’d look like I was obviously trying to meet women. Dudes that look like me don’t just go to dance classes.

sidewayz321 · 2022-08-21T07:01:26+00:00

What kind of classes were you taking? Any particular kind of dance?

Title	Anyone ever take dance classes?
Author	BigBrownBicep
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Date	June 28, 2022 6:31 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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