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[–]omega05 50 points51 points52 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If 7 girls respond to you and 3 dont, why worry about those 3?
But me personally I probably would send a follow up text but after that it's a wrap
[–]putcoolusernamehere 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well just because the other 7 respond to text 1 doesn’t me they end up going out with me. I haven’t been getting much success in dating lately (I am in the first few weeks of a long run self improvement plan to address my deficiencies and up my SMV), so I don’t want to give up on a lead, getting the numbers took a lot of effort. 2 of the 3 I’m referring to I’m really interested in, they had some of the better vibes of any of the cold approach convos I’ve had and both seemed interested in the moment (honesty was kinda surprised they didn’t respond and some of the others did).
What would a good second text look like? I agree it’s time to give it up if that doesn’t get a response.
[–]qurfy-1 points 3 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
bably would send a follow up text but after that it's a
I texted a girl who gave me her number 'guess what' (experimenting with different first texts) and didn't get a response. My reasoning for this is no interest, bad first text, or she doesn't know who and is ignoring. Would you recommend doing a follow up with something like 'hey it's qurfy'?
[–]omega05 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
'Hey this is qurfy from the bar the other day just reaching out to you to see if youre interested in making a connection. Take care"
Or of course try to call these women
[–]Vinegar_Tits_9 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
“Interested in making a connection” 🙈 oh no. Way too formal and just gives off the wrong vibe.
[–]brandonmadeit 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d leave the last part off but that’s basically my first text: “hey (insert girl name), this is Brandon from (wherever I met her) let’s link up this (insert day) at (insert bar/venue) around (insert time).
This shows your taking the lead in setting up a date (only text to set up dates!)
Day before or day of the date send another text to confirm plans for that evening.
[–]Senior-Dot387 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If they don’t respond, never send a follow up text. This will make you come off as desperate, not working your favour.
[–]Sure-Wish3240 16 points17 points18 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Here we Go again.
One funny and casual message every day for 3 days.
Then
I eat ass.
Never fails
[–]esoteric82 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Statements don't elicit responses, questions do. If you want responses, ask questions.
[–]Contango6969 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Facepalm lol I would give the exact opposite advice to this
[–]revente 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I disagree. Asking questions is needy and lame.
A statement that you're doing something fun and that she's invited is 1000x better 'hey how are you' question.
[–]esoteric82 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There are plenty of questions to ask other than something generic.
[–]putcoolusernamehere 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Right, that’s why I’m thinking I should send another text. But I don’t know what to send.
[–]1keentolearn12 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ask them to meet up. Why else did you get their number
[–]putcoolusernamehere 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’ve tried doing the direct to asking out text before and it’s only worked like maybe 10%. Building some rapport feels necessary.
[–]1keentolearn12 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
As you have already met in person when you got her number it will should be easier to meet up after a few messages
[–]putcoolusernamehere 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok, but what are these messages about? What do I ask her about herself? I’m genuinely a good conversationalist irl, I just don’t know what to text
[–]1keentolearn12 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ask her what her plans are for the week ahead / weekend when you send the first message
Then on the second text say ‘then let’s grab drink on x day’
Don’t over complicate things
[–]spaincrack 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t want answers, you want reactions charged with emotions.
Jokes or statements will work wonders instead.
Women get asked 89 questions a day, specially on Online and Messaging Apps, each requiring attention and work to answer. You asking question n’ 43 wont get you closer to a date.
[–]kinano23 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If they were interested, they would answer your statement too.
[–]lifeintraining 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Give it a few days and try again. I think your opening sounds a little too invested especially with the exclamation mark. An opening that I use with surprising success is “Save this number, it’s the most important one you’ll get all day/night.” They almost always respond.
[–]putcoolusernamehere 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I like this text, I’ll start using it. Only issue is I typically get girls numbers by giving them mine and asking them to text me on the spot, I guess maybe I should stop doing this.
[–]lifeintraining 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
If you’re giving a girl your number then you are not getting a text back 99% of the time. Just get hers.
[–]putcoolusernamehere 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I get the number then immeadiately have them text me theirs. 80% of the time I get the text right away.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Deffo do not send another text. U said u succeed 7/10 times anyway. So what even is this. Why are u even asking this?
Just because girls respond to the first text 70% doesn’t mean I convert those to dates.
Long story short I’ve decided to take a break from going out to daygame, because I’ve got some career and fitness stuff I need to put most of my focus on and daygame has been too emotionally tilting for me. So these 2 girls (whose numbers I got over the weekend) are kinda my last shot at getting a date for the time being (other than sporadic app matches). I understand that’s coming not from a place of abundance, but that’s where I’m at rn, and I’d like to take one more shot with these two girls who are very my type and also might’ve just not replied because the text doesn’t prompt a response.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Always put career and fitness and family first. Dates and girls will come automatically. If those 2 girls haven't responded then I'm sorry buddy they're obviously not interested. Messaging again is weird and pushy and desperate. The fact ur not getting a reply is almost a sign - it's a message from the universe telling you to focus on other priorities at the moment. Listen to what the universe is telling you!
[–]Mc_Dickles 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just send a picture of yo beef bro it never fails
[–]1keentolearn12 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
A 70% success rate on a cold approach in the day is something to be proud of
[–]putcoolusernamehere 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Not a 70% cold approach success rate. I probably get the number somewhere around 5%, which I’m fine with. 70% is the response rate once I already have the number when I send this specific text.
A 70% response rate is very good, especially from a day approach
[–]putcoolusernamehere 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This issue in general isn’t them not responding to text 1. It’s actually getting from text 1 to a date. I’ve sent very boring texts that have derailed lots of solid numbers. I genuinely don’t know what to text girls about. Those 70% who respond probably goes down to 5% who meet up.
There is a high flake rate with day game. It goes with the territory
That’s the you should try to go for a meet more quickly. Avoid the long texts. You have already met so don’t have the fear of the unknown of meeting someone online
So you’re saying literally just text this girl, who didn’t respond to “nice meeting you”, something like “want to get sushi Wednesday at 6?” Feels a little out the blue, no? But I’m open tot trying
The ones that don’t reply back. Forget about them and move on
There could be a variety of reasons why they didn’t reply back to you
[–]Delicatestatesmen 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn’t use “nice meeting you” but I don’t see an issue here. The numbers thing is shit in itself along with texting in general.. call her to schedule a date man.
I would text something like , this is so and so- let me know if you want to grab a drink sometime.
Thing is I usually interact with girls 20-23 (I’m 26), and they aren’t big on calling. Most young people today view calling as annoying.
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[–]nice___bot 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]Delicatestatesmen 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The whole point of a number is to get them out for a date I usually have to talk to them on phone briefly to make sure I am not wasting time or money. I guess just text them for a time and place to meet for jamba juice you can do screening for 1 hour there or local juicer’s.
Always put ball in their court.. Hey this is Jake let me know when you want to grab a drink for an hour or so.
[–]Elkhunter3000 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Todd V on the basic 4 types of texts (one of them is silence)
[–]Literally_Autistic 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wouldn’t phrase it as giving up, just move on. Until you have a rapport and have met a few times with a girl don’t text twice. Until she responds, she stops existing to you.
[–]KLKemke 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Personally I don't actually care if they respond or not. If I'm feeling social and playful, I'll occasionally send them something funny later, but if still no reply, no worries, I just move on. After all I'm busy, why wouldn't she be?
[–]motherseffinjones 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s not worth the time or energy to message someone who won’t answer.
What I think most aren’t understanding about the question is that I was more asking if my first text even prompted a response to begin with. Like is someone not replying to a text that doesn’t ask a question the same as them not replying to one that does?
[–]creativedave73 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How are you exchanging numbers? One way is to have her put her name and number in your phone and have her text herself and you do likewise on her phone.
Secondly, your interaction should be very memorable to her, so she wants to text you again. More importantly, meet again.
None of this "nice meeting you last night" a day later.
[–]putcoolusernamehere 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I generally give them my number and ask them to text me their name on the spot
A lot of these street approaches that last 5 minutes, so only so much time to make an impression
[–]Jay-Ames 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Everybody deserves a chance in life and she just blew her chance.
[–]ParticularAmazing112 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When you meet a woman, make a remark on something you can use later on.
For example, I met a woman at a pharmacy last week. Her shirt had a picture of the woman from Thor that was a king. It had the word “queen” crossed out and king at the bottom. I made a remark about it, we discussed it and I got her number .
A day later, I simply texted “wasn’t exactly sure about this Woman King movie coming out but could be fun with someone passionate about the subject”
She responded with excitement and we have a date planned. What would I do if she’s didn’t reply? Nothing.
The point is find something that’ll get her to want to text back. Always find something in real life to text about later. Simply “it was nice meeting you” might do it for some but for others, would just get lost in the other messages.
[–]dobbs1997 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
why don’t you just set up a date in that same text? There’s not much a woman can say to that text you send.
Is it acceptable to go straight for the first date in text 1? Feels like it’s jumping the gun
[–]dobbs1997 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
of course it’s acceptable, if a girl is really feeling you then she’ll come through. If she says she has to get to know you more or something along those lines then chances are she has medium or low interest in you.
[–]Griffithead 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You did the check in/showed interest after the meet. Good job.
You can text again, but it needs to be totally different. You could go the just chatting way. Memes. TV shows. It's not going to work most of the time. Sometimes very slow is the approach, but not usually.
Best approach is to actually go do something and invite her along. If she doesn't come, you get to do something cool. If she does, you look great because now you are both doing something cool. Caveat is actually do something cool.
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