The less I care about a women, the more interested they seem

inline6throwaway · 2022-09-05T01:18:56+00:00

This might be due to her wanting your attention again. Did you set up a second date? In my experience, this has only worked with girls who already liked me from the start that I wasn't attracted to anyway. Me seeing a woman that I liked but ignoring her did not really cause her to become attracted to me

EveryNizastar · 2022-09-05T01:19:25+00:00

A girl wanting your attention is not the same as her wanting your dick , so make sure she reciprocating sexual attention too

aceeb25 · 2022-09-05T06:34:42+00:00

If a girl likes you already, doing more won’t help anything. In fact it makes it worse. If she’s the one chasing you, she won’t be running away. Keep this dynamic. Contact her first once in the blue only to keep her from becoming discouraged but mostly only to set dates and let her do the rest of the contacting

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-09-05T04:34:33+00:00

It is what it is It's simply called attraction. What girls are attracted to more than anything else? One simple word. Status. So if you're care less than her and dgaf what is sais about you? Why you don't care? Why you don't have to try that hard? Probably because you probably have enough people and girls in your life so you're not desperate over a single one. It's an honest signal of value and status. That's why it's attractive in every case

Neo-Rio · 2022-09-05T04:28:50+00:00

Women stay interested in men that they cannot have, which is why the bad boy often gets the girl - because he is clearly making no real effort to hide that he is probably sleeping around.

This is also why social proof of being with other women produces a cascading/exponential effect where the more women you have around, the easier time you have with them.

As soon as you clearly show that you have fallen in love or do anything to overly accommodate them, then women lose interest in you.

This is why to be successful with women, you really have to be a blatant pussy-chaser and trying to get women into bed - whether you are looking for a relationship or not.
It makes sense really - that relationships with women make absolutely no sense unless there is sex involved. If there is no sex involved - it's because you are in the friend zone.

Women find this conclusion offensive because it gets their sexual imperatives and pokes it in the eye....

.... but think about it. Men and women exist as different genders PRIMARY for the purpose of reproduction. Evolution found that the process more efficient for there to be two genders to facilitate sudden need for biological change in case the environment forced animals to adapt to survive. That's kind of part of the reasons why humans have survived as long as they have, often in completely variable and extreme climates.

Back to the main point though, and that is that men and women only exist as men and women in order to have sex. Otherwise we'd all be non-binary blobs (sounds like a computer science term)

pachacuti092 · 2022-09-05T17:18:41+00:00

“Treat her like a queen and you shall be left on seen”

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-09-05T03:11:26+00:00

Idgaf is a good attitude to have. Detach from the outcome.

LeaderOfWolves · 2022-09-05T02:23:45+00:00

Or maybe she waa telling the truth?

Plane_Reflection6053 · 2022-09-05T07:54:42+00:00

Dont overtext mate, its a huge mistake

gillmanblacklagooner · 2022-09-05T14:08:16+00:00

Balance is everything. Remember Thanos. Balance is key. There’s a thin line between uninterested and confident. But I can say just don’t be needing and overtexting is a good step.

epimpstyle · 2022-09-05T09:54:39+00:00

Do you like a mom who is trying to control their child telling him always what to do, go there, drop the ball there, don't run that fast, don't touch that rock because is dirty ... ?

Even if she has her own reasons, it is not normal to be like that - she is super protective, and instead to look like a good mom to you, if you are looking at her you will say that she is crazy :-)

That's why many PUAs advise not give so much attention to a person to avoid being like that mom who unconsciously is acting like that but if you are using your common sense, you will feel when you are giving too much attention to your gf because too much attention is an uncomfortable pressure on her - nobody like such a pressure.

It is no magic recipe, there are no "secret laws of attraction". there are no special/hidden ways to talk to girls.. everything is related to a usual and normal common sense.

pabloescagains · 2022-09-05T16:12:39+00:00

You're chasing too much. Women like to chase the men they like. If she isn't chasing you, she isn't rejecting you. When she reaches out, assume she wants to see you. Set a definite date and get off the phone.

People make the mistake that they need to be texting back and forth to keep the attraction going, "illusion of action". Women need time away from you so they can think about you, when she thinks about you, her emotions get more involved.

The phone should be about setting up dates. Do all the talking in person

zapadz · 2022-09-05T01:48:18+00:00

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Vob4gUmmgkM

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6SdiL9XFKkU

98Air · 2022-09-05T02:30:59+00:00

https://youtu.be/ANWlNCPWpms

Blackmagic213 · 2022-09-05T17:16:32+00:00

Usually if you don’t want something, your energy vibration goes from a wanting energy to a giving energy…when you’re in a giving state, more people will be attracted to you because you now have something to share.

incognito3107 · 2022-09-05T07:43:19+00:00

It's pretty basic stuff. You should keep sexual tension between you all the time, especially in the beginning. If you take something for granted, emotions will quickly become flat, and that is the killer of male-female dynamics.

1dafullyfe · 2022-09-06T02:27:15+00:00

How can you grow to care about a woman you've only been talking to for one week? You pretty much answered your own question about why she was "tired" all of a sudden.

You made yourself way too available to her and she started losing interest. Stop texting / calling / responding to her everyday. Give her a chance to miss you. Mix it up and stop being so predictable. Go a day with immediately responding to her. Let her wonder about you sometimes.

Women are like cats. They get bored very easily when you give them too much attention. Let her come and go as she pleases. Meanwhile focus on living your life.

lowrep · 2022-09-05T14:50:00+00:00

can confirm

Bunnybunrose · 2022-09-05T02:52:10+00:00

Ha, this is my experience with men. When I use them for sex, they beg me to give them a chance as something more than just that. (What happened to their concept of not turning a hoe into a housewife? LMFAO) Yet, when I'm truly interested in a dude and go outta my way to flirt with them, and ask them out.. they act confused and ask weird questions such as "why do you like Me " and then end up not talking to me as much, or just straight up going out of their way to sabotage our relationship. Then pout when I leave them 😂

NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr · 2022-09-05T19:35:19+00:00

It's called cat-string theory. If you don't know what that is you need to scour the innerwebs more.

hbgbees · 2022-09-05T19:47:47+00:00

When this happens, might be very tempting, but think about what’s happening. This person basically communicated that they’re not into you, then when you stopped paying attention they appear to change their mind. This is not them changing their mind that they’re into you, this is them reacting to their own insecurities. You don’t want to date somebody who is not in touch enough with their own feelings because that’s going to explode later on. Now, however, if you’re just looking for short term sex, that might work in the short term

anicknameyo · 2022-09-05T22:17:34+00:00

You have women who somehow like what they cannot have (personally off putting but well), simply want attention or you just simply don't come off as desperate and ready to fuck everyone coming across.

mabden · 2022-09-05T22:19:09+00:00

You are demonstrating you are not desperate. This peeks their interest as to why.

Plenty_Software4415 · 2022-09-06T00:10:01+00:00

Yep. Girls are ridiculous lol they like the guys who don’t gaf about them.

I never seen an asshole dude have trouble with girls, I only see the simps have trouble. This tells you something.

Maybe it’s something psychological but as a guy this is what you need to know: girls don’t like it when you care about them, as stupid as it sounds. If you don’t get nervous, or anything around them. Or You couldnt care less about their new hairstyle. You’re doing it right.

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-09-06T00:33:37+00:00

Yes women inherently need to know they’ve got someone better than them in some way, supplicating and giving too much attention is seen as low value, ie your time should be worth more.

SharpAd3703 · 2022-09-06T02:52:54+00:00

Because being unattainable is attractive.

123throwaway56789fe · 2022-09-06T03:48:09+00:00

Maybe she was actually tired?

Why not try to plan a second date and if it doesn't happen then you know for sure.

If this is a pattern for you then you might be overwhelming women you like, you can hold back a bit and message every second day rather than constantly. It'll make you seem like you have a more interesting life and she won't be so inclined to take your interest for granted.

a___goon · 2022-09-07T03:22:00+00:00

There are a bunch of fuckwits talking about "what all women are like." Please ignore all of these. It's simply that she's got her own limit for communication. Everyone does. Ever had a friend that just texts too much? It gets really annoying even if you enjoy their company.

If you're trying to be romantic, you need to leave a little space. Make sure you don't text her more than she texts you. Just try to match the energy and don't be afraid to end a conversation. Relationships are give and take. Nobody likes being contacted at every moment of the day.

I'd also advise you don't put too much time into your digital relationship. You over text can become a whole different version from you in person and you don't want her to get a false perception of you. I'd say phone calls are easily a step up from texting. She'll probably feel really special knowing you called her because YOU wanted to talk to her, and not because she wanted you to talk to her. And again, don't abuse it. Keep it sparse. Be deliberate with the time you spend with her.

Lastly, stay honest. Tell her what you like and tell her what you don't like. Don't talk only in ways to please her, but don't be a dick about it. Have your own values and desires.

mangoamanduh · 2022-09-08T04:01:58+00:00

Wonderful_Try_977 · 2022-09-10T10:36:40+00:00

Why read into it so much, when you get busy and stop messaging her, she will miss you. It's perfectly normal, turning that into a manipulative tactic however, isn't.

Just be relaxed, if you get busy in life and don't have time for her, it's fine. Then when you realize you miss her as well, meet up and get together. This is literally how relationships work.

Title	The less I care about a women, the more interested they seem
Author	Mattpat98
Upvotes	194
Comments	49
Date	September 5, 2022 12:52 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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