What’s her motive? Validation, revenge or she just likes me?

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tylerdetata66 · 2022-08-25T08:06:55+00:00

you better not do anything until you are divorced unless you wanna get fucked in court

Sure-Wish3240 · 2022-08-25T07:55:45+00:00

This has all the looks of a trap.

And rarely It is wise for a married man to give any hint of interest to a female that sends him nude pictures out of the blue.

I am no Saint and God knows i have sinned a lot , but even the head of my dick knows that unsolicited nudes to a married man is a huge red flag.

tudor3325 · 2022-08-25T10:57:18+00:00

I learned a very important lesson a long time ago. If it looks like a trap, treat it like a trap. Be cautious. Tell her you are still married and not looking for any other relationship right now. No nudes are worth losing everything for

xXCosmicChaosXx · 2022-08-25T11:51:15+00:00

She otherwise doesn’t flirt much

My guy, she doesn't need to, she sent you nudes 😅

Repulsive-Fee393 · 2022-08-25T08:21:05+00:00

Women stick to their own so be careful buddy, it does sound quite trappy. Secondly If she’s comfortable sending you nudes, you better believe you’re not the only guy she’s sending them to. Good luck

k1ng_k00pa · 2022-08-25T07:16:22+00:00

This is about as direct as any woman will get without spelling it out for you.

Plan accordingly

Vigeto619 · 2022-08-25T10:57:54+00:00

They are probably both toxic

seerslayer · 2022-08-25T11:51:40+00:00

Please don't. Unless you're one hundred percent sure your marriage isn't worth saving. Even if your wife never finds out and marriage somehow ends up working, you'll always feel like you're living a lie. It'll be thrilling at first but soon you'll loathe everyone exactly for how dumb and gullible they are. So no, please don't cheat. If possible, come clean with your wife.

bobtheseal · 2022-08-25T15:18:08+00:00

Your playing with fire.

HappyToBeMoi · 2022-08-25T14:44:34+00:00

Run boy run. I repeat, RUN. Do NOT stick it in there. You will die. Do not let your peepee be within an inch of her, ANYWHERE. Pretend she’s poison or 100 lbs overweight with a drooping belly, no ass, bad lip filler, bad hair dye and a billion tattoos. Whatever will shut down your #2 when it comes to her. It’s a trap and you will be screwed big time in court if you fall for it. You can bone her AFTER but even then make sure no evidence of that is left in case you guys have common friendships. Avoid setting tongues wagging if you have to bone that badly. Delay gratification or maybe even get an NDA if you don’t have a lawyer, get it notarized (usually $15-40 bucks in your local constable’s office). If you think you’re getting fleeced now, you’ll be eaten alive if infidelity is deemed a cause. Just don’t do it, this reeks of trap like a man with bad onion BO. It’s so clear it’s practically crystal do not be a dumb bird. Hit her up after you’re divorced, this is inappropriate anyways. Also no mention of it to the wife or anyone. Come up with something sweet and clean to not destroy her confidence.

xXCosmicChaosXx · 2022-08-25T11:52:13+00:00

Also look past the nudes and ask whether you would be happy with her

SalamanderNo3872 · 2022-08-25T17:48:08+00:00

You are a married man, the only course of action is to tell her to stop sending unsolicited pics and that her behavior is totally inappropriate. Then tell you wife immediately. You have everything to lose here and NOTHING to gain.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-08-25T13:27:40+00:00

women send nudes for various reasons sometimes its for validation, and sometimes its just because.. this doesn't mean you will fuck her even if she visits you again.

That being said if your married and already thinking about divorce its time to own up to your wife because time is ticking away from her having kids (unless you have kids) If you have kids just be the best dad you can be and tell the wife your not in love with her anymore and maybe you guys can be swingers or whatever but that's not going to fix your problems with her.. Honestly if you are still with her most likely you scared to be alone and dont want your own happiness.. good luck

MywarUK · 2022-08-25T13:58:24+00:00

Bye bye marriage, bye bye hot Sweden girl, hello lonely life..

Comfortable-Past-419 · 2022-08-25T18:30:10+00:00

Bro run.. I’m just being real with you! Like the other said Issa set up 😂

Deep-Advice7587 · 2022-08-25T18:33:49+00:00

Delete all the nudes and keep the conversation very short and dry, if you separate with your wife, you can do what you want

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2022-08-25T21:36:07+00:00

This girl is bad news.

smug_beatz · 2022-08-25T16:39:14+00:00

Looks like a trap to me. If your wife is in good terms with you, then block this 'cousin' from everywhere.

Chelseus · 2022-08-25T17:22:56+00:00

Sounds like you wife is trying to set you up with her cousin so she can fuck you over in court to me. I would block the cousin if I were you.

mjornir · 2022-08-25T19:26:09+00:00

How the fuck do you react to unsolicited nudes “as a friend” besides blocking lmao

Successful_Teach366 · 2022-08-25T19:59:51+00:00

You’re not separated or divorced. Shouldn’t be talking to her in the first place. Quit talking to her. It won’t burn a bridge

dontwatchthatfam · 2022-08-25T23:22:51+00:00

Buddy if you’re in the middle of a divorce for the love of God do not cheat on her with her cousin who is sending you unsolicited dick pics. This looks like a big trap and it can very possibly fuck you in court in ways you can’t even imagine.

AngeloMacon · 2022-08-25T23:27:00+00:00

Since you're not even in the same continent, I'd just continue treating her like your friend. No need to consider escalating your flirting unless you ever end up face to face. No upside, all downside, otherwise.

neversleeps212 · 2022-08-25T23:49:58+00:00

Let me ask you this, is the cousin clearly identifiable in any of the nudes? Eg you can see her face or an identifiable mark on her body like a unique tattoo?

daysinnroom203 · 2022-08-25T13:03:49+00:00

Eww. Wtf. Leave that alone.

hbgbees · 2022-08-25T16:12:14+00:00

I’m gonna to approach this from a different side. You said she’s in Sweden, but you don’t say where you are. But since she named her country, I’m gonna assume you’re in a different country, and therefore it would be substantial travel. If that’s the case, IMO she is texting you because it’s “safe” and she thinks that you’re going to tell her what she wants to hear. It’s safe because you are really far away, and she doesn’t actually want to do anything with anyone, but just wants validation and compliments or a little buzz and still have plausible deniability that she was doing anything “wrong”. She doesn’t actually want to do anything with you. If you did you would’ve heard from her sooner than four years.

Ohmygodish · 2022-08-25T17:49:04+00:00

The fact your fkin around with her cousin shows your still pretty immature why not put this energy toward getting out of this relationship your in or fix it but instead your setting your self up for failure.

Phyriel090 · 2022-08-25T12:21:37+00:00

She wants you to fuck her and possible/future be with her.

It's funny how you guys think that girls like this think 5-10 years ahead of her time.

Most marketing are target based on instant reward.

mindofsound · 2022-08-25T13:36:19+00:00

She's definitely looking for validation, whether verbal, or at the tip of your dick. The ultimate validation would be if you left your wife for her, especially if your wife was previously unkind to her. Once your marriage is officially over, I'd go get the pussy, but that's me. If you want any hope of saving your marriage, I would suggest you tell the cousin she is very beautiful, but you're not in position to be receptive to that. Encourage her to find someone else to entertain.

Spiritual-Pagan · 2022-08-25T22:04:10+00:00

She is from Norway their culture has a very different view on sex and fidelity within the marriage. We are all looking at this from an American centric cultural view. I have come to believe that when push comes to shove God wants you to get that blow job.

dzoya1266 · 2022-08-25T22:04:33+00:00

Dumb post, you are a pervert.

Fabulous-Living1889 · 2022-08-25T09:48:18+00:00

Fuck her now she will vanish when you’re divorced. Women want what they can’t have and she’s probably just getting off on the tease.. which hints at your other option… ignore.

oakpen · 2022-08-25T12:16:25+00:00

Bror bazz henne sen git git, en sån tjej ska du inte wife:a. Om hon är manipulativ va försiktig med elden du leker .

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Title	What’s her motive? Validation, revenge or she just likes me?
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Date	August 25, 2022 7:00 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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