why do men always pull away if you return their interest

EarthTravelerxyz · 2022-07-31T04:55:40+00:00

Message delivered doesn’t necessarily mean blocked. It could mean they just never opened the message. If it doesn’t say delivered or anything at all then you probably been blocked.

Switchy287 · 2022-07-31T01:06:05+00:00

If I had to guess based on what you've said its because you've taken weeks to show real interest.

FarComplaint2974 · 2022-07-31T01:01:11+00:00

Maybe you're mistaking him being nice with flirting

incognito3107 · 2022-07-31T07:23:59+00:00

Maybe you took too long to return his interest. He felt frustrated and probably met someone else that is more responsive and with common temperament. Or he was just crazy and immature with playing such flirting games, men can be like that too.

AngeloMacon · 2022-07-31T03:47:01+00:00

Well, if you're 30 and a virgin woman (gay guy?) I'm going to guess the issue is with you and not all of mankind. It's hard to give you feedback without seeing texts or hearing the conversation. But you're doing something that scares them away.

13-bald-turkeys · 2022-07-31T05:17:53+00:00

A lot of people really just want the validation of knowing they "could have" gone on a date, had a relationship, or just smashed.

Once you return their interest, they have what they want and you "don't serve a purpose" in their lives anymore.

punkman01 · 2022-07-31T04:55:17+00:00

Your original statement is incorrect. I can't speak to your experiences but that is not true for most men.

h7hh77 · 2022-07-31T05:47:31+00:00

Could be anything really, hard to tell. Maybe he was tired of waiting, maybe he found someone else. Next time you can be more active, flirt harder, ask for a date yourself, don't wait for weeks, do it right away. You can catch feelings right then and there on a date. Treat it as an exploration, not a confirmation.

Consistent_Video5154 · 2022-07-31T08:02:33+00:00

Sounds like a) nothing t all. My guess is that you've haven't tried too many times at all, and just ended up with a bad run of luck, even though odds are this should not have happened to you more that a couple of times in a row to you. I know this sounds hard-core cliche, but keep trying. It only has to work once. Worry about being able weed through the bullshit and be able to spot the "right one" when you finally do run across him. I wish you nothing but green lights and blue skys.

anubhav23 · 2022-07-31T11:46:15+00:00

Hey there. Want to have a conversation? Here's the thing, I've been a virgin and I'm 27 and I wish to know what I've been doing wrong as well. Maybe we can help each other out. What do you say?

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-07-31T04:20:58+00:00

Sounds too me like you need to lower your standards for going on dates. You're waiting a month to catch feelings with someone who already established their interest for you. So just decide in that moment: am I attracted enough to this guy to go on a date (it's a binary decision, yes or no). If yes, go on a date, if no, reject him. You don't have to be in love to go on a date or even have sex, the dating and sex is part of the way you find out if you love someone.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-07-31T01:54:56+00:00

This sounds completely fake but I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and say these “men” you’re encountering are either momma’s boys, or they’re gay.

FarComplaint2974 · 2022-07-31T08:37:18+00:00

You talk about them going back to their ex wives but you're a man.

How many of the men you're hitting on are just curious instead of homosexual?

Maybe that's a huge issue

Difficult_Ad_8299 · 2022-07-31T08:33:31+00:00

A couple of weeks to go on a date it’s boring. I know I won’t vibe with someone through messaging, I need to see the person. If we don’t see each other for a date after a fry exchanges I’m out, except in extreme circumstances like holidays and stuff

TooMuchJibberish · 2022-07-31T02:30:45+00:00

I am 30 years old I've never had anyone hold my hand, I've never been kissed. I'm a virgin I've never been on a single damn date and I've never had a boyfriend because it never goes further than this! What the fuck am I doing wrong?

Ouch, lol that one must hurt

Bejliii · 2022-07-31T05:33:00+00:00

Lovebomb them since day 1 like narcs do. Many people fall for that. But don't abuse them lol

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-07-31T04:20:59+00:00

Huh? I wouldn’t

Soy-tu-ex · 2022-07-31T04:40:51+00:00

Was this done over the internet?

32Robb32 · 2022-07-31T09:45:16+00:00

afraid or any chance he's married?

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-07-31T10:29:16+00:00

Idk the only time anything happened between a girl and i that was positive there was almost immediate interest, i know from my experience i wouldn't wait even a week before i stop talking to someone if there wasn't interest, shit there's been a few girls i went out with 4 times in the same week, especially at my age (27) there's no fuck around time anymore, either there's interest or not. So maybe just act more aggressive next time and say "Hey we should meet up soon, let's plan it, i have these days off".... the only reason a lot of us knows what seemed to have happened it because we get this constantly

xxNavi · 2022-07-31T10:34:08+00:00

Tbh after reading your post history. Take some shrooms or something, you need em.

sparklingwinepapi92 · 2022-07-31T13:57:33+00:00

You're not blocked if your message says delivered. Ghosted maybe, but not ignored.

It could honestly be anything. Maybe you come off too strong/desperate? That's one big reason why I'd pull away from a girl if she returns my interest.

Title	why do men always pull away if you return their interest
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Date	July 31, 2022 12:46 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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