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Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-02-04T04:35:51+00:00

Dude shes teaching you how to swim not hitting on you

lurkeraccountv1 · 2022-02-03T23:19:49+00:00

This was not necessarily her showing interest. She was doing her job. You had to gauge interest by doing casual flirting and talking.

iluvreddit · 2022-02-04T00:39:04+00:00

What an imagination… she literally did her job and you take it as she’s in love and DTF…

bloodyblob · 2022-02-04T07:51:16+00:00

Dude, are you 12 or something? She was just being friendly. Fuck.

Dbotworld · 2022-02-04T04:33:20+00:00

Are you saying you regret not getting your teacher’s number? She got paid for the class.

Ares762 · 2022-02-04T03:07:33+00:00

Oh God...

WrecktheRIC · 2022-02-04T08:27:22+00:00

This reads like you’ve never talked to a woman before.

i__jump · 2022-02-04T11:11:01+00:00

So, she was teaching. Like, doing her job. If there’s one place a woman haaaates being hit on at, it’s her job. There’s definitely boundaries in place here that shouldn’t be crossed, unless it’s painfully obvious to you that it’s welcome. You wouldn’t want her to second guess her interaction with every male student afterwards, because she definitely will after something like that. If you keep returning to class and it’s apparent that there’s something mutual, after a lot of chatting, flirting, getting to know her, then sure. Why do you need her number anyway? You know exactly where to find her at if you want to get to know her more, in a subtle and casual way with boundaries in place that will make her comfortable and more willing to be open to you.

Relaxedllama · 2022-02-03T23:02:14+00:00

did you have a good time?

ragergage · 2022-02-04T11:20:16+00:00

Definitely just doing her job and being polite. Don’t make shit weird

Lefanteriorascencion · 2022-02-04T09:57:59+00:00

You sound creepy bro

maracay1999 · 2022-02-04T09:37:58+00:00

No, she is being paid to be there and help you. Sure, maybe there are situations where after you have flirted and established casual banter/rapport, you could ask her out when the 5 courses are finished or whatever.

This ain't it pal. You literally just finished class #1

rienjabura · 2022-02-04T10:11:47+00:00

No don't you worry, we'll all float on.

Pharaoh012 · 2022-02-04T02:17:13+00:00

You’re definitely rushing. Keep going back and have casual conversation and go from there lol.

Felixisnext · 2022-02-03T22:59:31+00:00

Slow down, you’re doing good. Did you have a good day so far?

Ares762 · 2022-02-04T13:42:52+00:00

"Keeping close eye contact but she was wearing tight clothes" homie, its her job. Wearing a swimsuit and watching her students at the pool don't have anything to do with flirting whatsoever.

jimmytheeel · 2022-02-04T11:43:15+00:00

Don't ask during class. She is working, in a pool environment, she gets asked all the time, you'd be just another schmuck. Keep convo up, and see if there is actually something there.

tonstermits69 · 2022-02-03T23:39:59+00:00

You hesitate, you masterbate.

canuckle1211 · 2022-02-04T11:44:00+00:00

You sound creepy and desperate and maybe immature

bayouboeuf · 2022-02-04T13:36:12+00:00

This is not the woman to pursue.

She was doing her job. If she is a professional then she was doing her job and being friendly but not flirting. You already have a physical attraction to her so you have a “hope” planted in your head. The instructor/student dynamic, in this situation, does not look like it will lead to the instructor being seduced by the student. Keep going to class. Learn how to swim. But take this woman off of your mental list as someone you would like to seduce.

Edit: if you ask her out and she rejects you, are you still going to go to her swim class? I can almost promise you that if she rejects you and you take it too personally, that swim class will be extremely awkward from here on out.

As another person commented, don’t try this with someone just doing their job. If you and she were coworkers then the dynamics would be different and more favorable.

Nungie · 2022-02-04T14:09:39+00:00

Bro what

not-allow-ed · 2022-02-04T09:57:09+00:00

learn to float? Isn't that build in, like from birth?

r_m_castro · 2022-02-04T00:37:23+00:00

Not a good call to hit on your instructor. You'll probably come out like a creep in her eyes (unless you're extremely handsome).

Obs.: You're an adult and don't know how to swim? What happened?

shaggy1452 · 2022-02-04T15:46:09+00:00

Dude let her do her job in peace and learn how to talk to women. More importantly learn how to read a situation. A woman teaching you how to swim, because that’s her job, is not a green light.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-02-04T00:16:02+00:00

I mean she was just doing her job but if you catch some signs of interest with prolonged eye contact or flirting you could

2022-02-04T10:33:56+00:00

Wait a few classes. Don't be too quick.

ragergage · 2022-02-04T11:20:16+00:00

Definitely just doing her job and being polite. Don’t make shit weird

howdatingworks · 2022-02-04T03:05:17+00:00

If you're unsure about her interest, don't leave it up to chance – make your move so you can either progress things or find someone who does want you. I recommend these tips and tricks to have the best success asking women out:

https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-ask-out-a-girl

You should be ready to ask out any (single) woman at any time, even if she's leading your swim class. If she likes you, she'll accept

Wargasm69 · 2022-02-04T05:52:56+00:00

Just be casual and ask her if she wants to grab a drink or ask her if she wants to lift weights some time assuming you’re at a gym.

tiverma · 2022-02-04T13:29:56+00:00

It’s her job to be there. I never ask for women’s numbers while they’re working - just personal preference.

PuroPincheGains · 2022-02-04T14:59:04+00:00

You were right to not ask. This is her job, she's not flirting.

mojojojo2069 · 2022-02-04T17:15:35+00:00

Lmao next he going to fall in love with the cashier who says thank you see you again soon

swimstud5151 · 2022-02-04T17:23:23+00:00

This sounds veeeeerrrrry creepy. Stay away from that nice lady!

elusiveclownface · 2022-02-04T17:51:09+00:00

I used to date a yoga instructor it’s so creepy when people do that.

She will probably be nice about it as you are a customer but no way

TheHungryRabbit · 2022-02-05T07:45:56+00:00

Why everyone is so mean here? Just tell the guy that he is having a wrong impression end of story, not everyone knows the standards on what is okay and what is not, he have to learn, be more respectful everyone next time please

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