What's the best way to get past when she says "just because we're going to your place doesn't mean I'm gonna sleep with you tonight"

nate_king1 · 2012-02-22T05:18:40+00:00

"Good... Now I don't have to worry about you throwing yourself at me."

bolxrex · 2012-02-22T05:20:39+00:00

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Dfnoboy · 2012-02-22T04:57:45+00:00

Completely ignore it. It's just a test to see how you respond. Just ignore it, change the subject.

Or dismiss it with humor, "what makes you think I want to sleep with you?" Or something.

And then continue to flirt, etc.

Suz73 · 2012-02-22T11:15:21+00:00

It means she'll sleep with you

poopanus · 2012-02-22T05:39:13+00:00

"Who said anything about sex? Quit being such a horndog ;)."

ColonelKurtzPhD · 2012-02-22T09:52:49+00:00

Just ignore it.

I've never had a girl say that to me and not do her that very night. She is saying it because it is already in her mind, so just make her comfortable enough for it to happen and you are good to go!

EricDisco · 2012-02-22T13:47:01+00:00

"Are you trying to use reverse psychology on me? Nice try. We're not sleeping together tonight."

2012-02-22T06:23:46+00:00

I love how everyone gets the same shit test lol I've heard this a few times, pretty easy test to pass, it is completely her reactive will speaking, just ignore it, say something funny or pick her up and make her squeel.

nycprowl · 2012-02-22T16:00:39+00:00

Every girl who ever said this to me I hooked up with. A simple That's cool, or anything else to dismiss it does fine as long as you continue to escalate.

Once while even in my bed. 'Just because my pants are off doesn't mean I'm trying to hook up, I am just getting comfortable'. Riiiiight.

rmbarnes · 2012-02-22T19:48:32+00:00

"Cool"

SatanicBoner · 2012-02-22T19:48:58+00:00

"Ugh! Get your mind out of the gutter! Why do girls always do this to me!?"

"You're right, we should totally not have sex tonight."

Basically, this is a shit-test. What you do with a shit-test is completely play into it - this gives the subtext that you're ignoring it, and her tests don't bother you. If she says you're a player, you tell her your 12 dates last weekend said the same thing, but you don't know why.

The main thing with shit-tests is, keep calm and carry on.

dave-gonzo · 2012-02-22T20:45:46+00:00

"who said anything about sex? get your mind out of the gutter" or the ever popular "slow down there tiger, we just met"

glassuser · 2012-02-22T06:31:15+00:00

Either ignore it, or come back with something like "Sex? Get your mind out of the gutter!"

thatboyaintright · 2012-02-22T16:42:39+00:00

I usually just look at them, and go "Ok" or "Not a big deal" and change the subject.

bolxrex · 2012-02-22T17:41:27+00:00

"Whoa you got a dirty mind. Who said anything about sex."

or

"We'll see"

2012-02-22T19:38:49+00:00

"Aren't you presumptuous?"

Or something like that, everyone seems to have a different variation on the same answer.

Alternatively, I like "correct, there will be no sleeping"

2012-02-22T20:37:38+00:00

Here's what I often do, using an example from about a month ago:

Meet girl near bar time, like 15 minutes before the place closes. I chatted up her (hotter) friend first, but she wandered off and I was left with this (still pretty good) one.
I let my buddy talk to her more than I did at first, just played it cool.
Me and my buddy invite her over. On the walk back, she says "Nothing freaky is gonna happen, just so you know." I say "That's cool" very nonchalantly and talk about something else.
We all hang out for a while (maybe an hour), then I isolate her (bedroom) by having her help me "find something" there.
I start kissing her and we get in bed...she goes for it completely. There was some LMR and I didn't actually have sex with her, just handjob and fooling around and whatnot. But it was still a lot of fun and, I imagine, a lot more than she planned to do. At one point, we were about as close as you can get to sex.
After it was clear she didn't want to go any further, we just chatted and stuff, and I was cool with that.
Later, she said "I thought your friend was going to try to hook up with me, not you." I had played it very cool at first.

So, take that for what it's worth. The nonchalant approach to a girl saying that seems pretty effective. It's worked before too.

TimofeyPnin · 2012-02-25T21:20:42+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fIuMBDLOAQ&feature=related

notlurkinganymoar · 2012-02-22T06:14:47+00:00

Dude, if she's going to yr house, she knows what's up. Don't worry about what she says with her mouth (unless it is a serious "no"). When she goes home with you, it's for one reason only. Capitalize!

revbobdobbs · 2012-02-22T05:24:40+00:00

Just be ok with it. Let her make her own mind up. But be honest:

"I accept that we will most probably not have sex. I will, however, do my personal best to get you hot and wet".

Remember, seduction is mutual. She has to seduce you. Its not up to you to do all the work.

Title	What's the best way to get past when she says "just because we're going to your place doesn't mean I'm gonna sleep with you tonight"
Author	skcin7
Upvotes	6
Comments	34
Date	February 22, 2012 4:19 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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