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mr21stcentury · 2018-10-19T15:37:50+00:00

Add them..wait a couple days until they post a story..DM them commenting on their story, fun observation, question etc where it requires more than a yes or no answer..thats your ice breaker from there

tramplemestilsken · 2018-10-19T15:56:14+00:00

They don’t, they meet them elsewhere and end up using insta dm instead of text. Following rando girls on insta and trying to game them is a fools endeavor.

kalz44 · 2018-10-19T15:41:30+00:00

Social media isn't the best way to meet people. You'll have a better experience meeting women in person.

fresh-cucumbers · 2018-10-19T16:07:51+00:00

If she’s a complete stranger and you want more. You’re most likely basing this on what she looks like. You need to remove this idea.

You need to engage with her profile without liking only selfies or butt pics, eg: like a family picture over a cleavage selfie. Then you can drop the occasional comment or story reply but only genuinely. Then when she replies to the story, reply every so often and take it from there.

Positivezero4 · 2018-10-19T15:01:35+00:00

Find common ground

One_Insanity · 2018-10-19T17:35:03+00:00

You need some serious social media game chops to make this a viable method which you can use on a consistent basis and get results.

First you need your basic things like style and general appearance handled.

Second you need a good baseline of social proof. People who you know irl who watch your stories, like your pictures and videos and all that stuff. As well as a social presence. Stories with you at clubs, festivals or just generally hanging out with people and stuff. This shows people like you. Likes and followers do matter here. When you meet someone, direct them to your stuff.

Third you need an actually interesting life that you catalogue. It doesn't have to be some kind of extravagant thing but it has to be varied. You at the beach. You traveling. At the club. With friends. All that jazz. You gotta get into the habit of getting all your interesting things into everyone's view.

Fourth you have to show your best and innocent face at all times. Don't be controversial or risque. Smile and generally show only the best of you.

Your results are directly correlated to how big you are and how popular you are on IG. So you gotta take a look at this and wonder whether it's for you. For the actual act of "approaching" everyone has already answered what you gotta do.

Chunkdirtyy · 2018-10-19T16:06:45+00:00

Slide in the dms with a simple “hey, whats up?” or by waiting for the person to post a story and then replying to the story. Once you are in dms keep talking, asking questions, relating etc. Usually go for the sc first and then eventually get number. Then you talk on txt or call them and talk on phone. Set up a date. Now you are Married.

crash1082 · 2018-10-19T17:29:30+00:00

They're either going to like you and respond, or they won't. This entirely depends on what your profile is like. I don't think what you say matters much. The way you look does.

devilkingx2 · 2018-11-02T06:53:30+00:00

message as many women as possible the same thing, but type it yourself so it sounds like you and not a spam bot or a line you stole from johnny bravo, then delete all the conversations before they reply (so they'll be out of sight out of mind), wait, and a few of the girls will reply. game on.

the reason you delete them is that if you message 100 girls, I doubt more than 20 would reply even if you know them, so it's wise not to have a whole bunch of unanswered/ignored DMs to look at, deleting all of those and only keeping the ones where you and the girl have a conversation will focus your mind where it needs to be

TheDatingSiteIndex · 2019-02-24T04:37:28+00:00

If you're going to slide thru someones DM there are essentially 4 things you need to worry about.

The Opener this is your first impression and you only get one shot at those. You really should treat it as if you where making a first impression in person.
Building repour and engaging the person you are trying meet. If you play your cards right this is what will get you to the third point which is actually getting their number.
Get their number. Messaging through IG can be fun but if you're actually trying to get a date I would suggest actually getting their number. not only will this make things easier when coordinating things but it also displays additional interest.
Don't be a creep. There are tons of slimy dudes out there hitting up hot girls DMs. We have all seen enough memes of the thirsty Indian man to know that this is not the move. Be authentic and be yourself. in short just be charming and reasonable. I wrote a more extensive version of this on my blog so if you are interested check it out! 4 Steps to Successfully Sliding Into Instagram DMs

Maggost · 2018-10-19T17:12:40+00:00

Don't, go out and meet women/men.

poprer656sad · 2018-10-19T18:56:22+00:00

If they’re public u should start w double tapping 3-4 photos. If they double tap u back, or follow (in the case you’re on private). U can slide in. If they’re private, start w following them. Eventually they’ll update their story and that’s a good way to slide in.

karateblitz · 2018-10-19T23:47:48+00:00

Did this recently, met a chick in person then added her on Instagram.

I said "hey nice meeting you last night. Forgot to grab your number so instagram will have to do"

Just went straight to the point. She immediately invted me to her birthday next weekend.

This situation I met her before hand so it was very easy. Good luck man, takes balls and you do feel a bit uneasy trying to find the perfect thing to write...but if she's into you the details honestly don't matter.

ambivalentbrain · 2019-02-03T07:14:48+00:00

I feel like this is largely pointless. I've hooked up with a girl by sliding into her Insta DMs, but I've also wasted time messaging many more who never replied or even saw my message. If they don't follow you it's less likely they'll even see your message in the first place. Anyone agree/disagree?

weallwantsomethink · 2018-10-19T16:37:34+00:00

You mean going for girls you haven't met on instagram?

That isn't a good approach. Most women won't be interested.

It looks desperate/needy contacting girls you don't know on instagram.

2018-10-19T16:15:01+00:00

Don’t, unless she’s expecting a message from you because you’ve already spoken to her in person.

You become a validating fuck. Guys who think it’s cool to comment on their stories and shit are already presented as low SMV just by doing this. This shit is validation for women. When you understand this, and the fact that you must strip them of validation and make them earn it, you will understand to not engage with them unsolicited on social media.

JeffTheSpider · 2018-10-19T16:05:49+00:00

I highly recommend you not to get their phone numbers straight away, because they will probably say no. Some people would like a few of their posts in a row then slide in or reply to one of their stories.

nosecandy · 2018-10-19T16:30:58+00:00

why do you need a number if you have DM? ask her the same stuff in dm you would in a phone call and there u have it.

aushimdas16 · 2018-10-19T17:50:41+00:00

I usually reply to their stories, it's a good way to start a conversation, works for me usually, at least.

2018-10-19T21:52:07+00:00

If they go to your school it helps

0001none · 2018-10-21T05:42:32+00:00

why would you need their number? You already have a way to contact them. I just send pictures of myself and my dog. Or trip pics.

Joseph1na · 2018-10-19T15:50:27+00:00

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likethemonkey · 2018-10-19T15:15:55+00:00

Why do you think women want this? Please go to r/creepypms and rethink this idea.

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