do women ever take iniative and lead?

No-Compote-2127 · 2025-10-21T16:38:30+00:00

They do, they just suck at it

They usually give a lot of "hints" that can be either misinterpreted as them being friendly/bubbly or they certainly want you.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2025-10-21T16:10:50+00:00

Of course, it happens. There are always exceptions. But if you are just being passive as a man, you're going to lead a lackluster life.

habbo311 · 2025-10-21T23:43:21+00:00

Yes. If they have something to gain from you, that's why strippers and prostitutes are the most fun

iletitshine · 2025-10-21T23:46:25+00:00

yes women pursue men. usually it’s effective. results in hookups or relationships. if it’s just for relationships though then it’s less effective.

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-10-22T02:08:36+00:00

Nah not really the best you can hope for is solid eye contact and a light smile to indicate you to come over and start a conversation.

Diligent_Tutor9910 · 2025-10-21T23:11:04+00:00

Yea

But only when they really like you

Most wont tho

Bullbythehorns25 · 2025-10-21T17:40:39+00:00

Mostly no

means_and_methods · 2025-10-22T02:40:46+00:00

Yes after you get married. They turn into the leader you never needed.

Noursalam · 2025-10-21T19:55:42+00:00

It happens when the girl has social skills and the guy is very handsome or she have hard crush on him it can happen like that but we have to catch it anyway

Ill-Ostrich2204 · 2025-10-22T02:53:25+00:00

Both have to do their part to a greater or lesser extent for something to happen, the game is not a matter of one, it is a matter of two. Talking to a girl is like playing a game of chess. For there to be a game there must be two players and both of you have to move a piece. Both men and women can take the initiative. Taking initiative in relationships and in life is not a matter for a specific gender. Now. No matter how much initiative a woman has, most women like the man to lead and guide and if not, try having a woman lead and guide you and tell me how it goes, greetings.

DetailFocused · 2025-10-22T09:25:07+00:00

yes they do but they don’t want to.

only05ling · 2025-10-22T16:47:16+00:00

Yes And they shouldn’t. It turns them off if you let them do it too much. They want to feel protected, not to protect (unless it’s her child)

The girls that take initiative are either one of those very “independent” women or those that have a hard time getting men attention… or she just likes you too much and is confident that you will like her too.

Kronuk · 2025-10-21T21:55:43+00:00

It’s not just society it’s biology. Men are the hunters, men are naturally supposed to lead. Women are naturally going to follow a strong man for a giant list of reasons. Masculinity is bold, aggressive, and strong. Femininity follows and is soft, gentle.

If you show a woman that you don’t even have the balls to take charge and lead her then why would she go throw herself at you when you could be a weak loser who’s too timid to take charge of his own life, destiny, and her.

WebNew9978 · 2025-10-21T18:11:15+00:00

It happens.

Virtual_Ad_4817 · 2025-10-21T20:34:48+00:00

lol no. I mean sometimes they do but you'll be disappointed if you're expecting them to.

thatguy94ontheredeye · 2025-10-22T00:46:18+00:00

Of course they do. A few months ago I had a woman approach me at the airport with my headphones in. I loved it. Got her # and dates later.

Tinmann19 · 2025-10-22T01:14:19+00:00

Only women I’ve dated have approached and pursued me.

Productivity10 · 2025-10-22T11:05:34+00:00

Only for top 10-5% men

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2025-10-22T18:12:34+00:00

Yes, just go to the right countries

H8beingmale · 2025-10-24T17:12:20+00:00

never gonna be normalized or i just highly doubt it

kosman69 · 2025-10-24T20:55:52+00:00

It’s the black pill. They do take the lead and bend over backwards for the good looking tall

miyass_miyass · 2025-10-27T17:37:15+00:00

It can happen occasionally.

Sometimes women will take care of some steps in escalation, like there have been times where I talk to a girl and she asks for my number, or I ask her out and she initiates touch, or I ask for her number and she picks the bar or suggests a specific night, or whatever. Stuff like that isn't insanely rare.

Once I was approached on the street during Karneval but I was coming down with a cold so I couldn't really say much and the conversation didn't go anywhere, and my game was still pretty weak at the best of times. It was a shame, cute girl.

Anyway I've only had one situation where the woman took care of everything (asked me out, asked for the kiss, invited me over), and this was a women who knew me through social circle where I was in a relatively high-status position (I was a teacher in a foreign language class).

But yeah it doesn't really matter anyway, it's not something to rely on and you're almost always going to be better off being more proactive.

pickupmid123 · 2025-10-28T14:23:42+00:00

Why do you want women to lead? Forcing women to lead puts them into their masculine energy, which is a turn off for both of you.

OpenUrMynd · 2025-10-21T15:52:43+00:00

Fuck yeah thats how they became my fwb’s and gf’s lol

Total_Obligation_371 · 2025-10-22T01:04:38+00:00

The only girls who ever do this, outside of some rare outlier cases, are the unattractive ones. Any girl who's slightly attractive has enough guys going for her that she never needs to do anything. Leading is the man's job. I assume that I will have to move everything forward 100% of the time. Few things will dry up a woman's pussy faster than her having to take the lead because her guy is too scared.

pindarico · 2025-10-21T17:56:11+00:00

Oh yes!

Title	do women ever take iniative and lead?
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Date	October 21, 2025 3:45 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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