Girls lose interest after a while

circlhat · 2018-04-05T01:39:28+00:00

I found flirty too long without escalating tends to dry up them up , 2 flirts, than up the level, invite her out or back to your place,

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-04-05T00:41:08+00:00

Be specific, give examples, what is your technique for chatting

PaulAtreidesIsEvil · 2018-04-05T06:03:41+00:00

you're boring

you dont take risks

you hold back what you're thinking

all of these tend to be due to the fact you probably are too afraid to make moves that can cause a turn off because you dont wanna "ruin" what few girls are receptive to you.

tooeasilybored · 2018-04-05T03:34:19+00:00

Are you sure it's flirting? A lot of girls especially the younger ones are just very energetic and outgoing...it may seem like they're hitting on you but really she's just making conversation.

Or perhaps she's just flirting cause she can and it makes her feel good. You need to have something to offer to keep her interested...I mean you're interested in her because you're attracted to her body. You haven't really gotten to know her so don't pretend you like her for her personality, for 99% of guys we eat with our eyes.

So let me ask you this, what do you have to offer to this person that you find physically attractive? I find people on this sub think there's some sort of sequence magical phrase you utter to a girl and magic happens.

No, you need to work on yourself. Be comfortable with yourself, explore what you love. If you have no skills, no hobbies and no real interests (reading, gaming are not interests) then good luck finding someone who wants to be with you. So go out and explore the world, do things you've never done.

This is why this sub stresses building yourself, your confidence and really just building you into a productive member of society. What's the one thing all these coaches/pickup artists have in common? They're confident in everything they do, even if they do something stupid because of their confidence and the way they carry themself that action is not seen as creepy/weird rather that person is really outgoing/spontaneous and most of all fun and NOT boring. It isn't so much what you say but how you say it.

Haven't kissed a girl yet? Well it's not rocket science, just go for it when it feels right. Don't open mouth her right when you pick her up, build up. I dated a girl that didn't really speak english...we hung out and at the end of the date I just looked into her eyes and told her I've wanted to do this for a long time and went in for it. She was surprised, because she didn't understand what I had said but it didn't matter we were making out.

EDIT: One more thing you hear on this sub is going to the gym/working out. Why do you think that is so often recommended? If you're having trouble with girls, I bet you don't look good or worse yet you're good looking but just dull. Not everyone is george clooney, but if you lost all that fat and put some muscles on, wear proper clothing you'd be surprised how much better you actually look/feel. The idea is to get you out of the house and doing something with repetition so that hopefully it forms a habit, and since you have no idea how to work out you have to step out of your comfort zone to learn. Now at least you don't sit at home all day when you're off work. It all comes down to bettering yourself, everything else will fall into place.

zfgee · 2018-04-05T03:57:04+00:00

Failure to escalate.

pilipinonguci11 · 2018-04-05T06:43:02+00:00

I've noticed that when I'm too needy they will often stop interacting with you.

shinn497 · 2018-04-05T00:47:36+00:00

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MarTweFah · 2018-04-05T03:44:04+00:00

They're gonna lose interest eventually after sex too..

They do it cuz you're boring/you fall into a boring routine with them. Don't escalate just cuz they're flirting with you, that's one of the biggest mistake guys make. Girls flirt cuz they want attention, if you give them what they want easily they'll label you as easy and will move onto a challenge.

MrButtholePoopy · 2018-04-05T04:28:34+00:00

if a while is longer than 10 seconds you got me beat.

GET_IN_THE_VAN · 2018-04-05T04:45:21+00:00

Most likely because they feel like the interaction isn't going anywhere. If you are texting then you should be trying to establish a time and place to meet in person. There should be some next steps. Otherwise, girls get bored and move on.

fanthor · 2018-04-05T12:57:50+00:00

I read this a few years ago and it has always been true.

There's three stages in attraction process where the girl accepts or rejects

First meetings : Looks. As long as you're presentable to them they'll always give signals(obviously the more handsome you are the more proactive they are) but even less attractive guys are able to get girls to open up if they dress themselves well.

The first few dates : At this point your looks are already a pass, so comes the next thing, Personality.. This is where the true crux of your game comes out. If you can game her well she'll like you. If not, she'll ghost you like you never even met.

And finally, when you're going steady, your outlook of life and how you treat her. This is when girls starts thinking about "life shit" and whether you are suitable or not. Whether you match with her in life, and not just chemistry

Try to pinpoint which point is the issue coming from, whether it's your look, game, or life. And adjust accordingly

passionlessDrone · 2018-04-05T01:40:21+00:00

How long is a while? 5 minutes? An hour? Two dates? A month?

Mr-Ed209 · 2018-04-05T11:08:06+00:00

You're not moving fast enough. Attraction has an expiration date in women as it's largely down to how the man behaves. By stalling and being apprehensive you lose your chance, often forever. I've learned that the hard way many times.

You should be aiming to plot a meet within the first few days of getting the number and text purely for logistics. You need to ramp up sexual tension from the first date, touch her and act like a man that knows how to close the deal. If you haven't had sex with a chick (or at least gotten some heavy petting) by the 2nd or 3rd date date you should cut your losses and move on. It could be that they were never interested. But more likely it's your passiveness and weak frame that results in you getting nowhere with girls who were at one point crushing on you pretty hard.

Womens interest is a tricky thing but you can learn to understand it.

hans1193 · 2018-04-05T10:40:28+00:00

That's right around the time they get to know you

ImJustSo · 2018-04-05T10:41:14+00:00

Without further information, none of us can possibly know what you're doing wrong.

Here's a couple things that stand out as possibilities. You could be too transparent, giving up all mystery, and they know they've won with you already.

Or

You may not be acting interested and they think you're quietly rejecting them, if you're not putting the moves on them.

TheArchdduke · 2018-04-05T12:08:57+00:00

I got same problem recently. She was really into me, and we talked about going out after she comes back into my country after a few days. But she got cold in no time... I got no idea why, it's literally beyond my understanding.

vivalarevoluciones · 2018-04-05T12:38:12+00:00

my number one rule is that most people are shit and selfish and only care about them selfs. that goes to alot of girls that i fucked - i new they where crappy people but i just wanted to fuck them; have angry sex and forget about them. and this happens to me to but ive realized it does not happen with geniune caring people . they will always respond and treat you friendly . but yea most people you meet in general are shit so keep that in mind , they may act nice but thata just a costume they wear and are not really nice .

LimitedContributor · 2018-04-05T13:57:48+00:00

It is usually bound to happen either way. That's why your suppose to really wild out when you have them. At least they'll want to remember you then.

SupaZT · 2018-04-05T14:25:45+00:00

It's tough. Girls like to be entertained 24/7

natephant · 2018-04-05T14:28:42+00:00

Your title is correct.

Girls lose interest after awhile.

So if you’re not making your move for awhile... they’re going to lose interest.

Escalate quicker and sooner.

The_Reddit_Jester · 2018-04-05T14:40:53+00:00

It's because you play it too safe. I had/have this problem too if I meet a girl I like. I get so scared of putting her off that I don't really let my true personality come through and I become very agreeable without the whole "challenge" aspect. Also, you probably put too much investment in them which makes you look clingy. It's fine to do that after 3 dates or so (or at least ramp up communication), but don't do it too soon.

Zoidberg22 · 2018-04-05T16:45:37+00:00

Yeah, I had this happen to me recently. I met a girl in class, got her number and vibed with her. Asked her out and though she did flake (was a legit excuse her phone got stolen, I saw the report) we still talked. She was one of the few girls that touched me unprompted during conversations and had long hugs with.

Through my own stupidity I didn't contact her again after setting up a date in December that she seemed into. She's likely with another guy right now and I've given up hope with her.

Moral of the story is to always strike when the iron is hot at least.

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-04-08T03:12:45+00:00

You're not expressing enough interest in HER. Are you talking just to talk or are talking about yourself? Are you trying to make your time with her fun or just passing the hours doing stuff.

Are you dressing and acting your best? Lots of guys show up in cargo shorts and sandals and wonder why the girl loses interest.

Even so none of this guarantees success, it just improves your chances.

Title	Girls lose interest after a while
Author	StreamPirate
Upvotes	117
Comments	96
Date	April 5, 2018 12:24 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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