no I'm not asking you dumbfucks to cheat or become a Playboy. this post isn't a justification for your stupid actions, it's just an observation.

so i was talking to my ex today and she casually said that she had 100s of guys to move on from me. I'm aware she might be trying to attack my ego but i think it kind of inspired me. having options really make you almost free from the uncertainty of life. you actually live and enjoy the present. and women and abundant men have this kinda internalised.

most guys that we consider alphas, the so called rich guys, the top 1%. they get cheated the most. much more than your average joe gets cheated on. but we still look up to them because of how unphased they are by losing a woman. because getting cheated on does not impact their own opinion of themselves. they're still the fucking millionaire with a 20 year old college chick dancing on their lap while their 37 year old ex wife is mostly stuck to dating single dad's from accounting.

just like how ALL women say that the relationship breaking up was ALWAYS their ex's fault. and it's like they never take accountability. if we copy this in a healthy way. and don't let our relationship outcomes define our own self worth, just like women don't. if their ex cheats on them it's the ex's fault. but if our wife cheats on us. most of us go into depression and start coping with gym or self improvement like it was our fault.

this is where having multiple options helps us. first of all, you exist in a relationship purely because you wanna be in a relationship. not out of fear of losing it. you can draw healthy boundaries because you really don't fear the end of relationship. you enjoy a song much more when you're not constantly worried about what will you dance to after that song ends. you won't let a relationship define your own worth. You will almost never simp on a woman who's treating you like trash. when you have multiple chicks it's actually alottt easier to look at them just as humans and not gods so flirting, emotional shit it all becomes easier. Builds your pregame as girls see you popular and you know their hivemind works like that. I think the view that there's really alot of fish in the sea actually helps alot of men.

so here's the final and important disclaimer. have multiple women in the same sense women have multiple men. they all got simps who wanna sleep with them but women are still capable of having committed relationships. they mostly just use those simps to not let their self worth get attached to the one particular relationship so they walk away mostly unharmed even if their ex cheats. yes they're sad when it happens. having multiple options don't make you a psychopath, they genuinely grief the end of relationship. but they still have self worth and don't think 'what will happen with me now' like men do. in the long run it's always much better and gives less depression.

so yeah learn from the girls, they got some things right. abundant mindset is really really really important. Earth's sex ratio is mostly 1:1 we have equal number of men as we have women. so don't treat them like queen bees.

another important reminder, this post is also kind of a cope in itself. usually you should know even without having multiple women that your self worth shouldn't be a hostage to one relationship. but because that's easy on paper. hard to internalize that's why we need multiple options irl to really teach our brain that it's really okay.

just don't cheat on your partner guys, it's bad manners lol.