How do you show strong intent without telling a girl she is hot?

letsgetrandy · 2016-01-13T16:44:48+00:00

They always know you're interested. Everyone is interested. You express intent by making the approach.

eviiil · 2016-01-13T19:39:35+00:00

I notice zero difference in results between avoiding physical compliments and including them. I don't see it as cards being handed away, it's just me speaking my mind.

But the answer to your question is eye contact and proximity.

steffbenji · 2016-01-13T17:53:31+00:00

I would say Through eye contact, if you have a laser eye contact the girl knows what's up, also if you are challenging her by talking in a breaking rapport tonality (you voice is high at first and low by the end of the sentence), vocal projection as well, and being in front of her so she can see who you are, and finally the proximity between you and her. All this and I didn't talk about physical escalation, but if you execute the above well, the girl is gonna fall in love instantly (unless she is not interested or has a lover or is a lesbian or she is dumb)

NickTheHeroic · 2016-01-14T05:38:21+00:00

You're missing the point. Be honest and be genuine. If you see a girl by herself who you think looks particularly beautiful today, it's your duty as a man to go up to her and tell her that. I'ts not rocket science, stop overthinking it. If she's not interested she'll take the compliment and make it known to you that she isn't interested (oh, thank you so much but I have a boyfriend). If she is interested then she'll take the compliment and create an opportunity for you to continue talking to her.

Stop overthinking this. Saying this or that is irrelevant, whats important is that you present yourself as a man who's confident enough to state what is on his mind and who is not afraid to tell the truth.

Now go out there and be honest with both them and yourself. You will succeed if you keep at this. Trust me.

LiberalPenguin · 2016-01-13T20:38:56+00:00

So...

The thing is to differentiate yourself from others. Right?

Does good-looking women get guys coming over to them at clubs and telling them they are hot all the time? Well yes. And most of the guys are fucking drunk. Not a good idea to do that then.

But do girls get guys coming over to them at a bus stop and telling them they are beautiful? No. Would that be a good idea? Why the fuck not. If you delivery is good, it's a great way to approach someone in that situation.

Will it work any time, though? Of course not. Should you care? No. 99% of pick up is getting used to rejection.

pro tip: instead of saying they "look good". You say something about their make up, or how their clothing looks good on them. They really like that. REALLY like that. Why? Because it takes effort to make make up look good, or make an outfit work. They put in an effort and love it if they get commended for it. BEING good-looking doesn't. And girls know that.

masterplan2020 · 2016-01-13T20:37:01+00:00

It is anything but a terrible idea! Show intent by stating it.

Jetmann114 · 2016-01-13T21:55:49+00:00

Body language and flirting.

Mi5ery · 2016-01-14T00:07:37+00:00

It NOT a terrible idea, it depends on your intent. If you're seeking something out of it, then you're doing it wrong. If it's genuine, then some girls will reject you, some will adore you : that's what happen when you're polarizing, and that's a good thing.

As for sexual interest, I tend to think from experience that it's not something than can be hidden if you're acting accordingly to what you feel. If you think she's hot, then every things you say or do, that particular way you smiled or looked at her, the way your hand touched her, the way your arm wrapped her, the sparkle in your eyes, the way you breath and moove in her presence, everything will convey how much you find her attractive, and that's something she can't be unaware of, consciously or unconsciously. It will be pretty hard to 'friendzone' you then, even if she's not attracted right away.

Sbeast · 2016-01-14T02:10:45+00:00

Say "you're luke warm" then take it from there.

GLOOTS_OF_PEACE · 2016-01-14T02:16:46+00:00

You CAN say she is hot/beautiful/anything and make it work...it depends who you are, why you say it, and how you say it.

InscrutablePUA · 2016-01-14T02:46:06+00:00

Communication with girls is mainly 'sub-lingual'. Your body language and how you touch her is all she needs to know you're interested. On the surface you can shoot the shit about anything really.

sdtwltry · 2016-01-14T06:17:24+00:00

I've tried this opener out a few times during "day-game", and it usually works pretty well.

Me: Hey/Excuse me, I saw you walking just now, and thought (pick something she has/looks like) looked super cute/adorable, so I wanted to say hi.

piperson · 2016-01-14T07:15:30+00:00

Keno is very important. While you chat you need to escalate the physical contact. Start with a casual arm touch and work your way up to touching their hair and becoming more intimate. This way you can gauge if they're interested without putting yourself out there too much. You are just casually joking around with a new acquaintance but you are also gauging her interest and setting her up for more intimacy later. You don't have to state your intentions and you can remain outcome independent because you don't have anything invested in this girl. If she pulls away a little bit from your touch then you just move on to the next girl. You don't have to say anything or put yourself out there. Keno also sets you apart from others by giving you the appearance of relaxed confidence.

DaygameCoach · 2016-01-14T12:19:36+00:00

The point is to show intent.

Statement of Intent: You either tell them something about them is sexy (smile, eyes, style, etc) or get them to visualize making out with you or sex. You do it after the "hook point" meaning you got a bunch of IOIs already.

riz89one · 2016-01-16T20:46:13+00:00

imagine face fucking her, her twerking on your dick and busting all over her face.

TheBadGod · 2016-01-13T21:19:17+00:00

"I want to fuck your face."

Those were my opening remarks when talking to my current LTR.

Title	How do you show strong intent without telling a girl she is hot?
Author	makethegirlsdance
Upvotes	38
Comments	28
Date	January 13, 2016 4:26 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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