How much do you spend on dates?

mukeshgates · 2020-08-13T09:19:37+00:00

I never spend on any dates because apparently I never been to one before!! 💀

putcoolusernamehere · 2020-08-13T11:55:29+00:00

I might suggest lowering the number of first dates you go on as crazy as it sounds. Maybe qualify the girls more and only go with ones you're really interested in. You're investing a lot of time and money if you're going on as many as 4 first dates a week....

productivitygod · 2020-08-13T07:32:17+00:00

Mix up your dates , every first date doesn't need to be 30$ investment . Go for something simpler and if you're interested then escalate

jestercake · 2020-08-13T09:36:34+00:00

Do free and cheap stuff like a walk in the park, maybe sit down by the river if there is one nearby, do some sightseeing in the historic places in town.

Getting a coffee is fine too. You don't need alcohol. Nor would you want alcohol to be a deciding factor in whether or not she's into you. That's wrong on multiple levels. As other people have already mentioned, you want her to like you for your personality, not because she's tipsy.

I think I know what you meant with the alcohol thing though. You meant people loosen up a bit when they've had a glass or two and become more sociable and there won't be any awkwardness, right? But guess what achieves the same goal. Humor! Get her laughing and she'll immediately loosen up and there will be no awkwardness. Not only does it cost nothing, but it also doesn't cloud anyone's judgement.

gigolobob · 2020-08-13T08:10:33+00:00

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sleepyhead260 · 2020-08-13T09:12:38+00:00

Wow 4-5 dates a week are a lot. I'm only going out for a date once or twice a month so I feel more comfortable paying

Kikiboobs · 2020-08-13T22:08:46+00:00

On most dates I go on the girl offers to split the bill with me. Sometimes I let them split, sometimes I don’t. Depends on how I’m feeling. Sometimes I’ve even asked girls in an innocuous way “do you wanna split it or..?” Mostly they’ll offer to split cards with you. Imo it’s an outdated idea that the guy has to pay just because they invited the girl out. I would even go as far to say that paying for the girl is almost a bad move. I’ve heard on this sub and girls say that when a guy pays for them they think they “owe them” something in return and it makes them feel uncomfortable. In my experience splitting the bill with a girl never backfired for me, in the long run. Like others have said you don’t need to spend that much on dates. A 45 min ice cream date or coffee date can be just as well. You could go for a walk on a trail or beach wherever you live for free.

Ooblackbird · 2020-08-13T10:50:48+00:00

If you are going on dates to get into a serieus relationship, a coffee date is fine.

You are giving off major creep vibes, or at best incredibly insecure vibes, by saying you want your date to be a little tipsy so she will like you. Maybe work on that first.

skullirang · 2020-08-13T10:10:11+00:00

Depends, if I invite her out I treat her to at least one round and close the tab right away. If it's a coffee date I arrive early and order mine so she pays for her own.

It's the same etiquette whether a guy or a girl tbh. Don't treat her differently just because she's a woman.

Zom3ies · 2020-08-13T15:47:30+00:00

Ever see half-baked?

CarbonBeast · 2020-08-13T16:37:11+00:00

3,50€ for 2 ice creams

Enwardio · 2020-08-13T19:12:16+00:00

You don’t necessarily need to go get drinks for a first date. There are other methods to get a girl into a fun mood. If you know she likes hiking maybe go on a trail together. Sure drinks might set the tone you want early on and might inspire a fun time but if you can listen to her interests then there are other ways to have the results you want. Also don’t go on that many dates a week. If you plan to see multiple women it might be easier to see a few of them for a 2nd or 3rd date and just establish what it is. And then always rotate.

mrscyimsofly · 2020-08-13T23:03:51+00:00

How about you go Dutch and depend on your personality to get you to the next level. Cause you sound cheap.

miss_gonzalez · 2020-08-14T01:58:05+00:00

Okay... does no one else have an issue with “the girls won’t be in a “fun” mode since no alcohol is involved”? Just me? That made me uncomfortable. I see line being crossed way too easily.

You need to evaluate WHY you’re going on dates. Do you really want to get to know them, or are you looking for a quick fuck? Either way, you should not use alcohol to entice consent. You can still seduce someone without them being drunk. Makes me think you have the personality of a spider in all honesty.

Get coffee and a pastry first, have a walk at a park, feel it out, and take it farther (ask them out again) if you both enjoyed yourself.

negdawin · 2020-08-13T10:26:22+00:00

Literally do whatever you want on dates. Assume leadership, set the frame and she will follow.

Grab a takeaway $3 coffee as you said and go for a walk in the park. Or just go for a walk in the park without the coffee, for free lol. Enjoy the sunshine

edgeOfTheWorld12 · 2020-08-13T12:39:38+00:00

First of all, 4 /5 dates a week is insane. Usualy you shouldnt go to more then one.

Second, why not try searching for a cheaper bar near by? There is always a cheaper place.

Spending 30$ on a date isnt much. Going to 4 dates a week and spending 120$ a week is much. Not because the money, but because the crazy amounyt of dates.

Liberaler · 2020-08-13T11:06:31+00:00

This question can only be answered by people of your demographic background. It varies too much to generalize.

louitje102 · 2020-08-13T13:26:13+00:00

Nothing

ChelseaDagger14 · 2020-08-13T17:04:22+00:00

I’d get three sets of drinks in a pub. I’ll buy first couple, she’ll buy second couple, I’ll buy third. It’s just under £4 a drink so it works out at £15

bryan2156 · 2020-08-13T17:33:19+00:00

100-250

joneselliot · 2020-08-13T19:10:54+00:00

Well I’m married so we spend like $100 or more on the few dates we have.

But on a new person I’d try to keep it under $50. A movie or dinner at a not too fancy place, but not fast food. Maybe go zip lining. Something you can do for like $25 a person.

martin984 · 2020-08-14T16:42:23+00:00

What apps/sites do yo use?

norwegiandoggo · 2020-08-13T07:08:36+00:00

$30 on each date is a bit much for me too. I typically would spend around $ 5-12 or so. Usually for coffee for each of us or an ice cream or some other smaller dessert, a sandwhich or somesuch thing. I don't think it's a good idea to have alcohol with your date for many many reasons. I also don't think it's a good idea to pay for a dinner. But people are different and this is just my preference. Some girls like to be splurged on. Some girls hate it. It depends on the type of girl you want to date.

SnooDucks4347 · 2020-08-13T17:55:43+00:00

"fun" mode, do you mean get her drunk and take advantage of her? Trash.

skorpion7777 · 2020-08-13T08:07:07+00:00

If it is 2+ drinks each you should split the bill. If it's only one drink I usually just pay everything. Don't be afraid to split the bill, since otherwise as you noticed you'll run out of money quick. Otherwise think of dates outside where you can bring your own drinks/food. I wouldn't recommend coffee since it is a different setting evening vs. Mid-day and evening is always better. I made the same mistake you did and I'll never again spend 20+ regularly on a date since it is just a waste of money.

FlareGER · 2020-08-13T09:10:40+00:00

Big no.

Ive had so many first dates that I can guarantee you that the best first date is not sitting In caffee or anything else.

The best first date is to go for a walk.

You can grab an ice or coffee to-go at some point, but, if things are going great, you usually don't need to.

In that case you should split the bill. That will show if she is interested in a second date not for the money. Then, you can choose to invite.

VDKay · 2020-08-13T10:04:41+00:00

I usually go for coffee date for the first date and rarely spend more than 10$. It's a better place to talk and get to know each other than a bar or a club, plus I don't like alcohol too much. And TBH, if I offer to buy the coffees or drinks, I usually ask for the girl something in return, like if she mentioned that she cooks I'll say something like "The drinks are on me tonight, but next time we will have dinner at your place. You cook". Or simply "The drinks are on me tonight. You can treat me next time, deal? I'll pick an expensive place, I promise"

Goldenpanda18 · 2020-08-13T10:56:00+00:00

A walk with a scenic mountain is free :)

Can't recommend how good a walk can be

oben_yalfan · 2020-08-13T08:28:35+00:00

the girls then won't be in a "fun" mode since no alcohol is involved.

Girls just wanna have fun

Umbran_scale · 2020-08-13T09:11:39+00:00

arraneg a meet up date at a cafe and go dutch on the already cheap drinks, saves so much money, is a simple populated area so anyone can leave if one isn't feeling comfortable and if anyone objects then it's clear where their priorities lie.

imayscamu · 2020-08-13T11:16:20+00:00

Nothing. I dont pay for chicks and most dates we just meet up at a house. If i do go on a bar date i just buy drinks for myself. I dont need to pay for sex lol

Title	How much do you spend on dates?
Author	greenwaffulz
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Date	August 13, 2020 7:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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