How to have a good first date without alcohol?

Smokinghot19 · 2024-11-01T15:21:06+00:00

Who said first dates have to be alcohol dependent?? Do anything outdoorsy.

BackendSpecialist · 2024-11-01T17:51:39+00:00

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what!? It’s so easy to have a date without alcohol. proceeds to not give any examples

senator_chill · 2024-11-01T16:12:51+00:00

I rarely drink so 99% of my dates don't involve alcohol. The vibe or date has never been ruined due to lack of alcohol You gotta learn to be comfortable and have fun without it.

KingLouhichi · 2024-11-01T15:29:45+00:00

Just do an activity it'll help ease the nerves. Once you do a couple dates without alcohol you'll realise you don't need it

InterestingGate7002 · 2024-11-01T20:07:56+00:00

Coffee (pick a nice cafe, not a chain or Starbucks), walk in the park, ice cream, lunch/dinner at an interesting hole in the wall restaurant.

SuperPoop · 2024-11-01T19:00:20+00:00

parks or dave and busters. shopping. coffee. brunch. dance lessons. yoga. sporting event.

mow_foe · 2024-11-01T23:40:59+00:00

Replace alcohol with other chemicals your brain can make, i.e. something physical and/or exciting. Dance club, concert, hanging out with a view (i.e. that cool nature spot with the cliff), something that makes her juices go.

Actually, my favorite is a comedy club. Not a big name act, a small, shitty club with unknown acts. She'll laugh, feel good, then you have something to talk about after. It's not awkward if she drinks and you don't, just drive and claim you're the DD. Comedy clubs worked 100% of the time for me.

SmoothOperatorBaby · 2024-11-01T15:39:06+00:00

I don’t drink and I’ve never had a first date that wasn’t followed by a second (given I wanted it)

I’d say, do an activity. Get to know each other while doing something. It’s low stakes, adds another dimension and is casual.

Salty-Cheesecake-473 · 2024-11-01T18:21:43+00:00

I don’t drink, and all my dates have been fantastic!

Cafe date
Street food date
Some kind of activity or workshop
Movie date (but keep in mind, you’ll have very little time to interact). You can pair it with a cafe visit before or after the movie.
Cooking together (only if you’ve both talked enough on calls and she’s comfortable).

It’s all about how you interact with her, your vibe should make her feel comfortable. If she’s feeling good, you’ll both have a great time together. Pro tip: Meet her like you’re meeting an old friend and flirt like she’s your girlfriend.

I even went on a quick date to a simple bakery near her place. It was late at night, so planning something bigger, like dinner, wasn’t possible. But the date was still beautiful.

SmartAd3816 · 2024-11-01T16:33:12+00:00

Go on a picnic

ManaDeus · 2024-11-01T16:53:28+00:00

Most of my first dates are without alcohol, I may drink coffee or even have a cigar, but mostly no alcohol

Typical-Departure-18 · 2024-11-01T17:58:28+00:00

Pool, darts or literally anything? Cut down on the alcohol, maybe get mocktails if that helps make you feel more comfortable.

unknown-one · 2024-11-01T18:03:32+00:00

drugs

backpeddlerr · 2024-11-01T19:43:42+00:00

I'm in the same exact situation. Basically if we both drink enough the date is almost guaranteed to be successful and will end with us fucking. If we stay sober it will just be awkward and we will likely never speak again.

Lemonisherebtw · 2024-11-01T19:44:17+00:00

Go eat go arcade

PeterLamb87 · 2024-11-01T20:37:41+00:00

"to make first dates fun without alcohol?" As long as you work on your conversation techniques, you can make any date fun. Back when I was in the game, I took girls to bars (sometimes I drinked sparkling water with lime and salt to avoid alcohol, so you don't need to avoid bars even if you are sober) Coffee shops and going for some ice cream also works like a charm.

SonyHDSmartTV · 2024-11-01T21:41:13+00:00

It's better to do dates without alcohol IMO and this is from a guy who likes to get fucked up on occasion.

Forces you to be fun yourself rather than focus on getting drunk to be fun.

restecpa88 · 2024-11-01T15:23:46+00:00

Alcohol is a scourge

LegendaryZTV · 2024-11-01T15:30:32+00:00

You could replace alcohol with Ashwganda capsules? Not the same feeling but gives you that relaxed mind frame & keeps you in the moment.

Sandvicheater · 2024-11-01T20:45:41+00:00

Minigolf baby!

Low-Bread9747 · 2024-11-02T00:25:37+00:00

They probably Don't want even drink, but they do to don't make u feel uncomfortableas As solo drinker

JackSquirts · 2024-11-02T01:56:51+00:00

Alcohol doesn't make dates better. It makes dates easier. Just go and be a person and you'll be fine.

MrDoritos_ · 2024-11-02T03:15:52+00:00

If your date is more socially anxious than you and you can tell it's not disinterest, it helps to carry the conversation for the time being. Change venue, isolate from the crowd in a booth or similar, continue extending the easy to talk to hand. If she's still like that by the end of the date and leading her and everything then it's up to you whether or not a shy girl is worth it, she would have to be clear as day interested or else it's not worth it

marsfifth · 2024-11-02T06:28:43+00:00

Coffee gets them yapping. It doesn't always end how you'd want it to though.

Sherman140824 · 2024-11-02T14:14:40+00:00

Spicy food

stinjoshua · 2024-11-02T17:30:19+00:00

Sounds to me you need to keep having sober first dates until they feel more comfortable. You can also try dates that don’t involve around alcohol. Your goal should be to let the other person be comfortable around you with or without her using alcohol.

vorpod · 2024-11-02T18:39:14+00:00

I like to match or under match what my date does normally, if we're out to dinner and she gets a soda or water, I'll match that. If she wants alcohol, you can say no in that moment and choose a soda or water. If my date chooses soda or water, I'll never punch above and choose something alcoholic. And for you, it's imperative that you stay away from alcohol. This is a boundary issue at its core. Set that for yourself! Don't give in just because alcohol is present.

Also, a kiss isn't necessary for the first date. It's your first time meeting someone, it's going to be awkward. Focus on holding hands, maybe an arm around the waist.

MaseratiSpyder · 2024-11-01T18:56:53+00:00

It seems that you've got accustomed to using alcohol to improve your state and that without it you're struggling to get into a good state. Maybe prior to the date you could listen to a few songs you really like and that you know will put you in a good state with good energy.
Also, it's always a good thing to practice controlling the energy flows within your body as much as you can. Think about some different archetypes such as a king, a comedian or a really interesting professor etc and as you think about each one in turn get a sense of how it feels inside your body. Learning to more consciously control the energetic feelings in your body is a great skill to develop. Allowing the conversation to come from a place of connection with the feelings in your body helps you stay out of your head and more in the moment which is a key part of creating a great energetic connection with a girl on a date.
Finally, remember to give the girl a complement about her outfit when you first meet her, so that she relaxes and knows that you appreciate the effort that she's made for the date. Pick out some specific aspect of her outfit that you like and comment on it specifically. This will usually put her in a good mood and get things off to a good start.

Biscuitsbrxh · 2024-11-01T15:35:02+00:00

This is not helpful advice but I sometimes take half a klonopin or 1/4 Xanax. Maybe some phenibut. It’s probably a bad thing but I only do it on first or second dates.

Especially if they aren’t drinkers which my last couple of dates weren’t. Allows me to relax and have fun for the first part of the date at least

NYPeter25 · 2024-11-01T15:49:48+00:00

Eat. Really. When waiter comes ask for a menu. And say just water for now. I have become a guacamole expert 😎

Title	How to have a good first date without alcohol?
Author	allahyardimciol
Upvotes	33
Comments	55
Date	November 1, 2024 3:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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