I keep attracting what I don't want.

Objective_Sky_6136 · 2022-09-05T06:08:40+00:00

Lmao. Can only attract heauxs but want a housewife smfh. Very strange universe indeed.

hittinlicks247 · 2022-09-05T15:19:14+00:00

Most men/women are looking for a relationship in the sense that if they meet someone they connect with on both an emotional and sexual level and who doesn’t have glaring red flags.. they will think about getting into a relationship. Some women maybe are going through a hoe phase or just came out of a relationship and aren’t ready for anything serious but usually those girls will be seeking men based purely on looks.

If you want to be the guy the hoe phase girl sleeps with you need to be attractive, flirtatious. and give off a fun, bad-boy kind of energy.

CometAzur42069 · 2022-09-05T17:17:22+00:00

hmmm id say most people are looking for a relationship but it would need to be with the right person.

Contango6969 · 2022-09-05T06:15:04+00:00

Almost no girls are looking for a friend with benefits. Stop thinking they think like we do ya goof

Optimal_Butterfly_97 · 2022-09-05T06:56:52+00:00

Man suffering from attracting

Neo-Rio · 2022-09-05T06:30:57+00:00

I have no issue with women looking for a relationship, but that typically happens after sex has happened. What's the point of being in a relationship - stuck together for a long time - if you don't enjoy the sex, or don't even KNOW if you'll both enjoy the sex? That should be important for her as much as it is for you - especially if you're with her for a long time!

You have to tell these women that they're putting the cart before the horse.

Also - you NEVER want to be in the frame of wanting a relationship. NO NO NO NO!

It's OK to let her have a relationship - if that's what she wants from you - but otherwise as a man, YOU DON'T GET TO DECIDE on this. You will get a relationship if - after sex - a woman wants to see you again and you are OK with that happening. In many cases they will NOT (because they only wanted something casual), but in a number of cases they certainly WILL! If you want a relationship and she wants to see you again - THEN and ONLY THEN do you start going places together as a couple and doing all those couple things.... IF you want to. If you're fine with spinning plates like that, it's certainly possible.

This is also why I get upset that people say "Well, not everyone wants to just have sex like you're suggesting!" to me.... and it's because the ONLY way to a proper relationship happens AFTER SEX and NEVER BEFORE!

The concept I champion is that women EXPECT men to be manwhores around women. We're supposed to be the sleazy sex that's just offering up dick, and circumspect enough to understand that this is our role in the mating game.

Any guy who doesn't internalize that concept - and everything that goes with that mindset - usually ends up having trouble with women.

Initial-Laugh1442 · 2022-09-05T09:04:25+00:00

Modern / Western society allows for premarital / entertainment sex: that's OK but, when it comes to reproduction, the two genders have different priorities. It's simple. The man's optimal strategy is to inseminate as many women as possible, with minimal or no investment in the aftermath (raising children, providing for a family, ...). This is because sperm is cheap and super-abundant, in each man's gonads and passing one's own genes is a simple numbers game. Women, on the other hand, want to attract and retain the best partner to deal with the aftermath of sex (raising children, providing for a family, ...). The investment (and risk) in reproduction, her side, is immensely greater. This is because a) eggs are scarce, b) the risk of getting pregnant, and then abandoned, by a ONS / FWB is serious, c) promiscuity can bring STD's. As a man, my advice is to be honest about your goals (integrity is a pillar, imo) and be understanding of the other party's views.

tdroylshy · 2022-09-05T17:17:15+00:00

Bro, go to therapy. Jesus

notforcurious · 2022-09-05T19:56:23+00:00

My opinion: I have a face and a social behaviour (first impressions at least) that I'm the kind of guy who wants a relationship. I'm aware of that. But I don't care, I play the game and later I have to admit I don't need relationships at the moment. Check your body language and your signs

CapnJibid · 2022-09-06T02:59:03+00:00

Have you tried Feeld?

SharpAd3703 · 2022-09-06T03:03:57+00:00

If you dont know what you want than how can the universe provide. Write down everything you want in a women. Basically you're ideal women and what type of guy she would date. Then understand in order for the universe to give you what you want you must become that man for it to be granted to you.

Think about this for a minute do guys that work at McDonald's date super models? No well why? Because they aren't prepared to handle a women like that. You need to be the man the universe can provide to first than the rest will come.

Leo7S · 2022-09-05T10:07:47+00:00

You never directly say what you wanna be, just go thru the motions, see what you can get, do it, and search and get the next thing you want

didled · 2022-09-05T16:53:45+00:00

Summers over bruh you know how it goes

modidlee · 2022-09-05T18:57:19+00:00

Every woman prefers a relationship over being FWB. But only if they see the guy as a catch. They tell guys that are just hookup material that they don’t want a relationship. But for the guy that they see as relationship material, they start treating it like a relationship after they sleep together a few times. If they see you as relationship material, take it as a compliment.

Think_History_5682 · 2022-09-05T17:33:30+00:00

That's what you have to do

Healthy-Round-6204 · 2022-09-05T08:36:34+00:00

Looks like you got the right idea, you could just keep lying about your intentions and see how that works for you

zapadz · 2022-09-05T07:29:30+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbQpPF-NYoQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKbfbipVUqM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-YYqEooT7s

videogames_ · 2022-09-05T15:43:46+00:00

Most women will say looking for a relationship and then if the sexual vibe is good enough may be open to a hookup or fwb. Other women will only want a relationship and that’s cool too.

Iamamindfullsoul · 2022-09-06T00:28:36+00:00

So what do you want?

Oranged9s6 · 2022-09-06T02:41:05+00:00

Lol for me, i avoid ugly chicks , but i dont mind a hot chick that likes me

Title	I keep attracting what I don't want.
Author	justadudechllin
Upvotes	59
Comments	50
Date	September 5, 2022 6:01 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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