There is a corner to turn in your life. There is a moment where you start believe in yourself more than before. In fact, there are many of these moments.
I, since thanksgiving, remembered how awesome I am, after forgetting it for a while. And when I got it back, I wondered why things weren't always this easy.
Be yourself and be confident. Cliche simplistic advice about women. Yet, that's really all there is. Be yourself and be confident. HOW though?
Let go. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Just let go of fear over and over again. Be cool. Know that you are cool, and like magic you become so. It's all just a way of playing a trick on yourself and the world. Then the illusion becomes the reality.
My favorite analogy for all of this is Neo realizing he is the One. Every PUA tip or philosophy is another path to get us to a point of supreme confidence. "Inner game" "self-esteen" "abundance mentality"... its all just about flipping a switch and getting out of your head. And awesomeness is indeed a switch, even if it flips back and forth in you thrice a minute. Even if we can't figure out how to flip it, because the room is too dark to find it, the switch is still there. It can flip automatically, or we can control it.
You have to leap like Neo did. Because it gets easier and easier, and it's the only switch worth flipping. I'll mix my metaphors any time I fucking want too.
I'm not saying that you can just suddenly be fucking awesome after years of shyness if only you started taking all this stuff seriously enough. But in another way, I am saying exactly that.
The point of learning game isn't just to get women. That's a perk. The real euphoria though, the only true treasure in this hunt, is believing in your heart that you are the fucking MAN, yo.
Ah fuck it. Getting hotties is almost just as much the point of game. I'd be lying if I said that I didn't write this after a couple days with an amazing woman. Feels good man... and even though it's not an ideal source of validation, sometimes that bit of ego-boost is the spark to light the bomb of independence from validation. Because in the last week, I've had the fucking Kavorka y'all.
8AM. Lotta day left to own...
EDIT:
I think some of you misunderstood what I was trying to say.
I'm trying to communicate that I have recently validated by an attractive woman, so I. have. fucking. ARRIVED! I'm finished learning and off to start my own dating school.
My advice as your new dating coach: Gage your self-worth on womens' acceptance. I believe that is the proper course, and that was the original point of my post. For I, am a moron.
Perhaps you have a counterpoint though. Maybe confidence should only come from within ONLY. Blind faith trumps belief founded on empirical evidence every time. In Game, there are never stretches when you must force yourself to believe and believe in yourself as hard as you can, even when there's not much evidence. So if you doubt yourself (and only douches ever do) , and then you do something awesome are reminded of your own greatness, ignore it. Confidence comes ONLY from withinn. Fuck accomplishments, In fact, if you bang Adriana Lima, don't go thinking you're a baller. Instead, sit in the corner like a pussy-ass bitch made beta male who didn't just fuck Adriana Lima.
TL;DR: Hate on people, especially when you don't know them.
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