Just feel absolutely shit…

drewster23 · 2026-05-17T04:14:14+00:00

10 today is 10 more than someone that did 0. And 10 is not some absurd number to strike out on.

jackthehat6 · 2026-05-17T08:00:34+00:00

This is why I hate the scammy industry lol. You compare your results to FICTIONAL results! Most guys are gonna get rejected by hot girls most of the time. No matter how good their 'game' is or how much they use their pushpull and teases and cold reads etc etc. It's normal. (and the 'coaches' get the same results, but they cherry pick their rare pulls to show)

It's about finding single girls, who are also very social and receptive to talk to strangers (many aren't. Especially in certain countries) AND who think you are hot. (game without that visual attraction is irrelevant. At best she will think you are confident and funny etc, but that does NOT = seuxal attration. Just another PUA lie)

I always see field reports here where guys are going out and doing what they've be taught (through coaching and books and courses) and they approach girls and run their 'attraction material', and surprise, surprise, the girl doesn't give a sh1t lol.

And maybe they have a friend who doesn't know a thing about game, but he gets hit on by girls and then they get gaslit about the reasons why lol

Railbearingmaster · 2026-05-17T07:23:22+00:00

I get the feeling, hard work that doesn't seem to pay off?

This is a mindset shift you need to make, never expect in life just because you are trying/doing something you should expect anything for it. This puts you in a mentality where you belive that since I'm doing it reward system. Never have an outcome dependency when you do things, simply do them because you feel like doing them. I truly belive that taking the effort and action is important and forcing one out to do so, but never to expect results, if the results wish to come to you they will, and the key is presitency, keep doing, practicing, reflecting, taking in feedback and so on.

One way I force my self in the city I live in is that I need to walk 10000 steps a day, this gives me another way to interact with people in my day to day activities.

One way to reflect is to ask yourself, what was different with this approach and the last one, did I start it different, was my energy high/low, did I hold eyecontact or was I jittering with my eyes?

One way to take in feedback is either to record your interactions, or when an interaction is going bad or good, you can ask the person you are talking to in the end, what they felt?

So, I see where you are coming from, investing lots of time and expectng it to yield something, but the best way forward is to work on improving yourself, extend your confidence of yourself, practice talking to everyone, even people you aren't attracted to in your day to day, and take 1-2 hours everyother day to approach women you are attracted to, with the mindset i only need to say hi, and let it natuarly flow, don't think about i need her number, or insta, or take her on a date or anything else of outcome, simply have the thought of having a fun conversation with a stranger, if it feels right then it should flow easily in the conversation.

Good luck and keep going!

Independent-Bad218 · 2026-05-17T06:13:22+00:00

Here is your answer. You greatly misunderstand that most of pickup systems screen for interest. And hence, the blowout rate is by design.

But regardless, at the beginning everyone has it rough. It took me 419 approaches to get a lay in daygame

duke_awapuhi · 2026-05-17T19:38:35+00:00

You talked to more women than most of the guys in that nightclub did. Consider it a victory. No approach is a total loss. You are gaining experience and knowledge. This is all about trial and error, and the more you do it, the more comfortable you get doing it and easier it gets.

BrainEuphoria · 2026-05-17T04:35:44+00:00

You don’t go to night clubs to talk man or collect contacts. You go to have fun, for THAT specific night. It’s specifically called a nightclub and everyone’s drunk in there to even remember shit unless you both wake up tgt the next morning.

becomesharp · 2026-05-17T08:54:20+00:00

This is a skill. One you're currently not good at and not naturally talented at (and that's perfectly okay).

Do you know how many reps it takes to get good results at a skill you currently suck at?

Not 10. Not even 100. THOUSANDS.

If you want results and skill in the long run, youre going to have to grind a skill set to get there.

Matter_Still · 2026-05-17T08:02:51+00:00

Genobs, have you stopped to consider that the things you believe should work, do, for some guys, but not in the long run for most guys?

You probably don’t know the name Buckminster Fuller—a brilliant guy, who came thisclosetosuicide.

He asked, with radical honesty, “How did I get to this fucking point?” He concluded, “By taking other people’s words for things.”

I’d bet you gorged yourself on books like “The Game”, “Models”, “The Mystery Method” and God-only-knows how many videos.

And look where you are. You’re doing everything by the book, but what if the book is not only wrong, but bad wrong, despite all the people who sing its praises?

Calemsonn · 2026-05-17T08:47:07+00:00

I get it, it’s really tough out there. Not to be reductive, but I like to look at it like fishing. Sometimes (maybe for a while) you’re just not gonna hook anything, but then there will be a period of time where it feels like you just can’t miss.

It’s not something you can always control but the mission is to always increase the chances and likelihood of you scoring. So when the opportunity does bite you’re ready to reel it in.

Melodicmat · 2026-05-17T09:28:34+00:00

the 'skill' element is way overhyped lol - (the amount of skill needed when you approach an attracted girl is just base level social skills we all have. Look at lay reports from the studs at 'sosuave' forum. it's just 'hi', 'you're hot', some basic quetsions adn then take her home to bed. Anyone can do that IF you find a girl who wants yo).

And absolutely nobody pulls the girls who are clearly very unattracted at the open. Even the coaches in this very thread, as their own infield shows lol

Pristineonk · 2026-05-17T09:32:07+00:00

i had another rough night too and i've implement everything i've read in terms of attraction building. Doesn't work if i'm honest. If you're not her type, you're not her type. There's nothing you could say or do to change that, so do'nt worry about it. Your game could be brilliant for all we know. But you never know until you open the girls who are interested

Total_Obligation_371 · 2026-05-17T10:59:27+00:00

What were the conversations like? What did you talk about? Did you try to bounce/isolate the girls at all during nightgame? For the day game IG approach, did you try for the number first or go straight to IG?

Also, 10 approaches is only like half of a single approach session. It's going to take you literally hundreds of approaches (based on the average I see with the guys I coach and just most people in general) to get decent, so don't be too hard on yourself from only 10.

Sidenote - most guys consider nightgame harder than daygame because you're trying to hook up that same night instead of just grabbing a number and there's more distractions/obstacles so it's usually better to wait until you're decent at daygame before trying.

Pedro_Moona · 2026-05-17T11:41:25+00:00

If your goal is the score, you're never gonna score Unless maybe you're the top 1% of guys. If your goal is to add value to women's lives and have a good time with them. Then, eventually sexual situations will happen.

red__what · 2026-05-17T13:58:33+00:00

how many times I gotta say this, the approach is the success!

Even the ancient scriptures ask you to disconnect the effort from the outcome

ExtraordinaryBeetles · 2026-05-17T22:58:51+00:00

You played one pickup game of basketball. You made 10 shots and only 1 hit rim.

Is quitting now the way to get better at basketball?

yallapapi · 2026-05-18T09:20:39+00:00

Just quit bro if you’re not an expert by your 10th approach it’ll never happen. Take the black pill and keep posting on reddit about how sad you are

Title	Just feel absolutely shit…
Author	Genobs12
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Date	May 17, 2026 4:01 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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