Apologies this will be long, because I want to tell the story in full...

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I'm 30 years old and slept with 26 girls, and had a monogamous 8 year and 2 year relationship. Recently after breaking up with my girlfriend of 8 years I've found my skills with women have really deteriorated. I used to find it easy to get laid and suddenly it is challenging, probably due to the long relationship killing my ability to throw chat effectively. I'm not a pickup artist and I've never formally studied game.

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So starting about 2 weeks ago I've been practicing game while on holiday in Europe. I've been going out 4 times per week to clubs to approach girls (been out about 8-10 times in total), and also approaching girls during the day occasionally. I've been watching the TenGame series, but I've been making sure to spend a maximum of 10% of the time watching pickup videos and 90% of the time actually going out in the field. I've just been watching the videos of Julian actually in the field and trying to understand the vibe he projects.

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One interesting thing I've noticed is that the attractiveness of a girl has no relation to how well the approach will go. Super hot girls aren't any more rude when you initiate a conversation than unattractive girls. So I've been just approaching any girl I find attractive basically, and not trying to pick girls who are "in my league" or whatever.

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I made out with a hot girl a couple days ago, but last night was my first time getting laid with a hot girl the same night after cold approaching her. So here's the report:

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Last I caught a taxi into Madrid with some friends and brought a wristband that gets you into 4 different clubs.

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First club is completely dead except for a couple making out on a chair, and a hot bartender. I talk to the bartender for a bit, just asking when the club gets busy and random shit. I tell her I'll write a good Tripadvisor review for her if she gives me a free drink and she does. We talk shit for a bit and then I talk to my friends again.

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There's no-one in the entire club but the couple making out so I approach the guy and tell him we're including him in our group because the club is dead so we all need to be friends. He doesn't speak much English but we all introduce ourselves and have some chit-chat. I'm not going to be a dickhead and hit on his girlfriend, so after the conversation gets boring I grab my friends and we go to a second club.

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Second club is much busier. I'm at the bar when I notice a hot girl standing next to me. I see her look over at me so I immediately look at her, and ask her about whether her wristband is the same as mine. Just a really generic situational comment but we get talking for a while. She's from LA, I joke around with her about whether she's a Trump supporter, tease her for a while, and the situation feels flirty. There's a few pauses in the interaction so I just chill and don't try to fill the silence, to demonstrate that I'm comfortable with a small lull from time to time.

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Her friend comes over so I immediately handle the interruption by introducing myself and throwing a bit of chat at the friend. But her friend quickly drags her away to go to the bathroom together.

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I see a hot South American girl with a guy who has a neck tattoo, so I immediately walk over and compliment the guy on his tattoo, ignoring the girl. He thanks me but doesn't speak much English, and then I go rejoin my friends. I didn't think anything of this interaction but surprisingly this was the interaction that led to me getting laid.

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My friends are talking to some hot black girls so I walk in and join the conversation. We do the introductions and I joke around with them about the US because they are American.

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I notice one of the girls is left out of the conversation, so I walk up to her and say "Hey I need to ask you a really serious question". I walk past her so she turns away from the group and I followup "If you were seeing a guy how many dates would you need to go on with him before you'd feel comfortable eating chicken wings together? I mean spaghetti is a second date food, but chicken wings are fucking messy".

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The conversation immediately goes well and we are flirting and talking about relationships and basically sexual chat. We're standing sort of in the dance floor so I'm moving back and forth as I talk and doing push/pull, teasing her occasionally, and touching her a lot when I make points. It's kind of like I'm dancing around her as we chat.

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She asks for my WhatsApp and I joke around as she puts her number in my phone "Of course you Americans got the +1 prefix", etc. She suggests we go back to the first bar so I grab her hand and walk out the club, motioning her friends and my friends to follow.

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On the way out of the club I see the first girl from LA I approached and so I introduce the black girl and we have a bit of a chat. She tells me she's going on a bar crawl I can join later if I want.

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We all walk back to the first club and as I approach the door I see this super hot tall catwalk girl walking up to the club who rejected me the night before. The night before I opened her on the street, and we spent about 30 minutes chatting and got a drink together, but then the conversation went really sour and she just started seeming hostile - so I ended up ejecting to talk to other girls, figuring I'd accidentally offended her or something. I call her catwalk girl because she's a model who does catwalk stuff and is quite tall and just classically beautiful.

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I point at her "You again!" and walk up and hug her smiling. For some reason she's no longer hostile at me, and is actually being friendly. I introduce her to the black girls and we all go in the club.

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In the club catwalk girl starts dancing and she's just so goddahm sexy. It's really hard to avoid staring at her while she dances because she's doing all these hot moves, but I don't want to be like the rest of the guys in the clubs standing around making eyes at her. We are sort of grinding a little from time to time as we dance, and laughing with each other. But I just get this feeling that she's not really interested in hooking up, and just enjoys the attention of dancing while all the guys in the club stare at her and try to talk to her. So I just dance with her but without hitting on her, focusing more on talking to the black girls as I dance around.

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Then all of a sudden up walks the hot South American girl who was talking to the guy with the tattoo earlier. She gets my attention, and asks me if I'm gay because her friend like guys and he wants to have sex with me. I'm relatively muscular from working out at the gym, have decent dress sense, but I'm not otherwise a good-looking guy as I'm starting to go bald, am of average height, and just have a normal facial structure. I actually feel kind of complimented that this guy wants to fuck me based on looks alone.

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So I tell her that her friend is an attractive guy, and if I was guy I would be keen, but I'm into women. Then all of a sudden she grabs me, kisses me on the lips, and runs off. And when I say runs off I mean like she fucking sprints away.

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Everyone in our group is looking on in shock and laughing, so I shrug it off and make a comment to catwalk girl and start flirting with her again. I notice some hot girls come over and dance near us, and I get the distinct feeling that they want me to approach them, and are standing near me on purpose for this reason. But unfortunately I fail to act courageously and don't try to open them, my one regret of the night.

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Catwalk girl, the black girls and my friends all go outside to smoke hash, and catwalk girl says she's going home, while everyone else is going to a different club. So instead of going outside I take a walk to the back of the club to find the girl who kissed me. I don't smoke weed because it makes me anxious and would definitely throw my game off, but my friends all smoke the stuff.

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I spot her at the bar so I walk past her, then turn and say "Hi" and smile. I hold out my hands and she grabs them, so I pull her in to talk, but she immediately starts kissing me again. I kiss her back a little then push her off me and ask her name, where's she's from, etc. I don't know if there's a pickup principle behind doing this but it felt like the right thing to build some more general rapport instead of just continually making out.

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I put my number in her phone and get her to WhatsApp me, and I tell her I'm leaving the club, but I want to talk to her again later, so to text me if she changes clubs. We make out a bit more then I break it off and go outside.

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Catwalk girl is standing outside and all my friends are mobbing her for some reason, basically just ignoring all the black girls while they hit on catwalk girls. The black girls look kind of pissed, so I pull some of my friends aside and tell them to pay more attention to the black girls because catwalk girl is going home and it looks a little desperate to mob her.

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Then I talk to catwalk girl and just straight out ask her "what happened yesterday you seemed upset at the end of the night. Honestly I thought I offended you?"

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Then she just starts getting all fucking deep about how she is unhappy, and has depression from being bullied, and she covers up her depression by going out and trying to look happy, but sometimes the depression comes through and people think she's a bitch.

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Suddenly my mind is blown when I realised I didn't really get rejected the night before. Actually I just assumed the worst, and let my ego make me think it was all about me, when really she was just going through some mental health shit. I mean this girl is a fucking catwalk model and she is insecure still to this day from people bullying her while she was a teenager. Goes to show that you can't assume beautiful = confident in a women.

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Now we are having a deep conversation about mental health and happiness. It's not flirty and I don't think it's leading anywhere, but she's super hot and I'm enjoying the conversation so I sit down next to her and chat to her like I would to a guy friend.

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As we talk I notice the girl I hooked up with leave the club with her gay friend and walk past me. She glances at me but I pretend not to notice and keep talking to catwalk girl. Catwalk girl eventually calls an Uber and so we get the black girls and go to the a third club we haven't been to yet.

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On the way to the third club I text the girl with the gay friend to let her know I'm switching venues, and she tells me she's at the venue we're going to. Sweet!

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We walk in the venue and it's about 2am, so I realise it's time to start trying to actually bang a girl. There's plenty of girls I could still approach, and I could try and bang one of the black girls, or perhaps join the pub crawl the LA chick suggested, but I have a feeling the girl with the gay friend is my best option.

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I grab one of my friends, and ask him to come with me to occupy the gay friend. I find her in the club and we approach, and quickly we are making out again.

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I take her to the corner, and sit her on my lap and we start chatting and making out. I'm trying to build rapport and find out about who she is and where she's from, so it's more than just random making out.

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Then she gets a text and tells me her gay friend found a guy to fuck, and that has made it difficult for her to have somewhere to sleep.

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I instantly sense this is the time to strike, so I say "let's go to mine, you can stay there" and she nods and starts making out again. I call over my friend and ask him to get the house keys from whoever has them and to WhatsApp me our AirBNB address. He immediately understands the situation, and runs off to get the key and msg me the address for the Uber.

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He comes back with the keys and I take her hand and walk her straight out the club. As we exit we see her gay friend sitting down. Fuck, maybe he's failed to find dick and will stop her from leaving. I say hi to him in a friendly excited manner, and he just smiles and motions for us to leave. I secretly say a prayer that gay friend finds some dick tonight, because I'm so grateful he just wing-manned me like that. I love that gay guys don't try and cock block you.

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I'm making casual conversation with her at this point, trying to just be a little playful. I realise it's going to take quite a while to get home, at least 40 minutes because there's a huge walk to the Uber spot, so I need to be careful to keep the vibe.

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I keep being playful but asking personal questions to build rapport, and every time the conversation gets more serious I make it playful again.

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We eventually get the Uber and make the drive back to my place, arriving about 45 minutes after leaving the club. She still seems happy and keen, so I take her upstairs and motion the toilet to her if she needs to go.

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While she's in the toilet I quickly make the bed and remove all the dirty clothes and other shit from my room, basically making it chick-friendly.

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She finishes in the toilet and comes out and sits on the bed. I kiss her a little, then stop and ask her if she needs to set an alarm or put her phone on charge first. She says yes so I put her phone on charge, set an alarm for when she needs to wake up.

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I kiss her a little and lay her down on the bed. She seems very happy, and I can gauge at this point she isn't too drunk and that she's basically consenting to sex, so I take my shirt off, then take her pants off. I give her head for a little, then we both fully undress and fuck.

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It's really good sex, and after it's over she falls asleep on top of me while I'm still inside her.

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I lay there with my flaccid penis inside her as she gently snores, contemplating the fact I just got laid for the first time ever from a cold approach, and also the concerning fact that I've just had unprotected sex and ejaculated in a girl I've only known for less than 3 hours. In the excitement of successfully picking up I've completely forgotten that this kind of behaviour probably requires me to start using condoms. Oh well, let's just hope for the best this time.

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The next morning she initiates sex when we wake up, and then I order her an Uber to get to work. I text her a bit about how I had a good time, and we've been flirting ever since over WhatsApp. I'm leaving the country today but I'm definitely going to try and figure out a way to fuck her again soon because she's hot and cool - but next time I will definitely get some condoms first.

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I guess the lessons learned I've from this experience are:

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  1. This cold approach game stuff really works, you can definitely get laid from cold approaching, and the physical attractiveness of women is fucking irrelevant when it comes to approaching them. The fucking hottest girls will make out with you, and the ugliest girls will reject you harshly. Beauty tells you nothing about how the approach will go.
  2. I feel like all my interactions that go really well have a certain self-amusing "vibe" which comes from the way I feel about myself and my confidence in the moment. When I cultivate this self-amusing vibe I seem to naturally say all the right things.
  3. It's massively helpful to approach a lot of guys at clubs for short conversations. If I hadn't approached the gay guy to compliment his tattoo I wouldn't have fucked his hot South American friend. It pays massively to just be social in general rather than ONLY focusing on approaching girls I find hot.
  4. Just because I get rejected or blown out doesn't mean it's all about me. I thought I fucked up somehow, but actually the hot catwalk girl just had her own issues going on and the next night she was super friendly again.
  5. I think the best strategy for clubs seems to be to spend the first part of the night getting in lots of conversations and identifying which girls I have the best vibe with to fuck. Then the second part of the night should be spent picking one of the girls I had the best connection with and focusing only on her.

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Thanks for reading and please give me any advice you can. What I did right, what I did wrong, whether I'm on the right track, etc.

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I'm going to be going out, throwing chat, and cold approaching a lot more in the future. I feel like it's just way better than all the other approaches to meeting women, because it cuts out all the bullshit involved with using dating apps or trying to meet girls through friends.