No more replies after cool convo?

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-09T15:34:12+00:00

You’ll never figure it out and don’t waste your time trying. I had a very similar experience that I’ve shared on this sub before. All you can do is tell yourself; it’s not me and move on

ftdrain · 2022-06-09T16:04:21+00:00

Get used to ghosting, just reengage at a later time depending on how warm she has been, sometimes works, to me its just a numbers game, 2 might ghost, but another 2 are up for going out, etc. At this point I dont give a shit about ghosting

GripIsEverything · 2022-06-09T16:49:56+00:00

I had asked a similar question here, and the best advice I got was: you cannot neogtiate attraction. If it happens, it happens. If not, move on, because there is a whole ocean of attractive women out there.

nicolai_1998 · 2022-06-09T16:33:26+00:00

There’s a million possible reasons for why she stopped replying. Don’t overthink it. Move on to the next one. And next time don’t do so much texting back and forth, invite her on a date, and you will quickly see if she’s interested or not

VisionsOfVisions · 2022-06-09T16:18:44+00:00

All the “chatting, laughing, and teasing” is over texts?

It is always best to assume that every girl has 20-30 other chats open where she is chatting, laughing, and flirting. If it’s hard for you to imagine, create a fake girl profile and see how the world is from their perspective. They will get 50 matches and 30 “hey” every hour.

MayhemReignsTV · 2022-06-09T15:14:25+00:00

If it is you, it is probably your confidence. But that is only a guess without seeing the conversation, which I would never encourage sharing. I am just getting that from the fact you automatically seem to blame yourself and are proceeding to work yourself into a state of anxiety over 1 conversation without considering it could literally be anything. I recently had a girl go missing in action for a couple of days. Then she texted me out of the blue and set up a date. She got really busy and didn’t want to screw things up from being tired. We had a wonderful date and are going on another soon 🙂

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-06-09T16:27:51+00:00

Maybe the convo wasn’t as cool as you thought?

It’s the same thing with dates and sex. Dudes thinking I blew her back out and she never calls him back, well obviously that didn’t happen lol

HandsomeBadness · 2022-06-09T19:21:00+00:00

Now let me preface this by saying I’m great at the theory but bad once the emotions get involved, but here’s my advice to avoid this. Don’t let this go on too long, you disappear first and then start replying slower the next day when you come back. I’ve found with girls that even when you really hit it off, you can’t let them have all the attention they want or they’ll lose interest very quickly. You HAVE to leave them wanting more, unless you’re just overall out of her league and she could never do better. Like I never get girls to go back and forth with me for long over text unless you do this to her for like weeks-months. Even then you can’t just let her have you. Also remember that girls connect very easily with other unlike us redditors, which makes it very easy for them to find another cool guy to connect with. That elusive teasing is by far the best way to keep them coming. And I do so much better when I avoid trying to make connections over text, just let her go crazy wondering about you between dates/calls.

EDIT: this is also more long game but if you get the concept it can be applied in many ways, even over the course of a single date or convo. But I often will on the third date be super sweet and call them things like baby and sweetheart, then ghost them for a few days. Then do it again maybe 3 dates later. I hate that I have to do this shit to girls but I recently realized how well it works on me so now it’s my go to.

MrBlack__ · 2022-06-09T23:24:32+00:00

SHES FUCKING SOMEONE, JEEZ.

Someone who isn’t ducking texting her all fucking day.

Ask her out on a fucking date next time you get her attention

SadBox4529 · 2022-06-10T05:39:06+00:00

I’ve been ghosted so many times they should call me grim reaper.

bcool_returns · 2022-06-09T20:41:22+00:00

Who knows, impossible to say without seeing the convo. Maybe you said something unflattering/unattractive/confusing. Maybe you said something that didn't necessarily need a reply and it was the natural end of the convo. Maybe something interrupted her and she intended on replying but then forgot. Guys need to move beyond thinking that every conversation needs to have a neat beginning and end. I consider things always open. And it's totally legit to restart conversations a few days later. Most importantly, don't just chat to chat. On a high note, ESCALATE and ask her out. If you're small talking for hours and hours without an end goal in mind, this is not the move.

wordypropensity518 · 2022-06-10T01:04:36+00:00

You can do everything right and this will still happen. Next.

Honest_Inevitable632 · 2022-06-09T18:41:55+00:00

She found someone else more attractive. Women’s moods change everyday

2022-06-09T23:13:08+00:00

Lack of abundance, text more than one chick for Christ’s sake. Next question

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-06-10T11:30:02+00:00

Or maybe didn't do anything. Got bored, busy, another guy, dead who knows. You can't control the response, you need to be talking to more prospects.

Always us the 2/3rds rules. For every 3 you receive send 2. Stops you getting to invested.

HandsomeBadness · 2022-06-09T15:09:52+00:00

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ZachMoore88 · 2022-06-09T16:52:09+00:00

She wanted attention....and she got it.

real_mort · 2022-06-09T16:58:39+00:00

You are worried bc she didn't reply for over a day?! You serious? It usually takes me a few days to reply 😂 I'm sure she'll come back around

NinoZachetti · 2022-06-09T22:28:54+00:00

You texted too much and by doing so lost value to her. 5-6 messages, logistics, date, bang.

SEJ1970 · 2022-06-09T17:22:49+00:00

It's so refreshing when people think we are omnipresent and can be everywhere and see every thing, thereby knowing all... 😉 🤔☺️

WorthTadpole8305 · 2022-06-09T19:51:37+00:00

I've had a similar experience today actually. It is crazy but I know I did nothing wrong neither have you.

bandsupjay · 2022-06-10T03:09:04+00:00

Maybe did, maybe too overly invested. We cant see the chat messages. Doesnt really matter how good you are at that stuff if you give off friend zone vibes lol. Even i could feel it. She probably did as well.

ProbablyAutisticMe · 2022-06-10T03:28:44+00:00

If you want to post your message/text history, you might get better answers, but it could be any number of reasons. She coild have been talking with a dozen different guys at the same time and chose to go with someone else. Maybe that someone else doesn't work out and she tries to reconnect.

basedbhau · 2022-06-10T03:58:38+00:00

it's like a virtual one night stand. another night, another girl.

Senior-Dot387 · 2022-06-10T07:23:41+00:00

That’s the issue with texting, you can’t form an actual bond with the person you’re speaking too. Thus, they can very easily get bored and stop replying all together. I’ve had it done to me and I’ve done it to others. You can’t compare online dating to the real world.

HighFunctioningADD · 2022-06-10T09:41:00+00:00

Hold out another day, send a witty follow up message but make sure it doesnt look needy or insecure. Her response should give you a good idea of why he hasn't replied.

She'll either make her rejection more clear or actually have a good reason for not replying

Also if she does seem interested after the follow up message set a date and stop texting.

Theres a lot of people in here telling you to move on and assume rejection, you shouldn't assume rejection after being left on read once. Ik it sounds counter intuitive but a follow up message actually looks confident and not needy so long as you waited the appropriate amount of time before sending it.

Sup3rHD · 2022-06-10T14:45:15+00:00

Leave the bic alone and talk to other girls

Lonely_Man22 · 2022-06-10T14:55:26+00:00

She probably found someone she thought was better. Doesn’t necessarily make the person better than you.

Pepong_empr · 2022-06-10T18:42:52+00:00

Its like the RNG at loot games. Sometimes a 6 ghosts you, sometimes a 9 Ends up hooked with your attitude. Depends on variables about her moment on life that you will never know. You May be at the right place and right moment, other times an ex pops up. Keep playing king

Title	No more replies after cool convo?
Author	Moist_Meaning_597
Upvotes	22
Comments	55
Date	June 9, 2022 3:05 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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