Was I too direct?

No_Understanding8988 · 2026-06-20T19:40:58+00:00

Slow your roll brother 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

HotAir25 · 2026-06-20T19:43:47+00:00

Tell me about the time it worked.

Smitty-TBR2430 · 2026-06-20T20:37:24+00:00

Situational awareness dude. Learn to read the room, as they say, and learn to read people.

There are gals in a pick-up bar you can ask “wanna fuck?” and some you can’t.

Barr3tt50c · 2026-06-20T20:46:25+00:00

🤦‍♂️

MyUsername0_0 · 2026-06-20T21:35:58+00:00

That’s risky to say off the bat. Yea it can work with the right girl but why risk it. You could have been safer and gotten better results.

Economy_Parsnip650 · 2026-06-20T20:05:52+00:00

You "read" that sometimes it can work.

Cool, you now know that for you, in that situation, that does not work (for you). Next time you are in that situation, if it becomes a pattern, figure out what DOES work.

Clear-Hedgehog-9144 · 2026-06-20T22:26:34+00:00

Tell her "If it's that good, eat it yourself."

Slow_Key_6221 · 2026-06-20T23:28:08+00:00

the thing is, if shes not into you sexually, anything sexual you say to her will make her leave or change the subject because she has no desire to be with you sexually, so why should she entertain the convo? So, theres nothing as too direct. You have to be direct to find girls who want what you want.

But you also need social skills and cant be awkward. Walking up to a girl and saying right away sit on my face shows lack of social skills. That's the turnoff, not the sexual thing you said. If you engaged in a little convo and was like "hey i want you to sit on my face tn" that shows calibration and would be better received.

End of the day, be direct but in a calibrated manner to find the girls who are down for what you want.

What you did was fine, cuz you were going off what she said about you being cute. i don't see a problem with it. She simply wasnt into you like that.

Away_Anybody7268 · 2026-06-21T15:20:43+00:00

Bro, you're a red flag, keep waving it 😂

kahootofficial · 2026-06-21T15:38:28+00:00

Wtf how hard is it to say “Thank you, so are you. What’s your name?”

FurrowBeard · 2026-06-21T07:20:14+00:00

That was autistic as fuck, dude.

ultratraditionalist · 2026-06-21T02:21:24+00:00

It depends. Sometimes when I get a weird vibe and feel that a girl might be wasting my time, I'll usually say something a bit controversial/sexual. If she's totally not into it, then my instinct was right that she was just wasting my time.

I've 100% said worse things than "sit on my face" so depending on the context, it's not necessarily too direct.

Cavsfan724 · 2026-06-21T21:07:41+00:00

Swinging for the fences. But yeah too strong.

AdditionalDrive6884 · 2026-06-21T22:54:23+00:00

Just say thank you, with confidence. Introduce yourself, compliment her on her looks, like eyes, dimples, yadda yadda

Charge36 · 2026-06-20T19:47:02+00:00

This might work with some women but I think it is a bit too direct if it's just some girl you met on the street. Or in the club.

Fair_Cartographer_71 · 2026-06-21T11:28:02+00:00

Bros autistic

No_Treacle8835 · 2026-06-20T21:11:40+00:00

in the very old school fora, there was a guy called “Nathan Slizard“, located in France I think, who posted about an acquaintance nicknamed “Grandmaster Flash”. you can find the old Usenet posts if you look around: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/debunking-the-role-of-humor-in-seduction-cocky-funny-and-the-grand-master-style.23245/ the main thing about the strategy is that the guy always followed up the dirty joke with a “just kidding”, and was willing to get blown out.

a friend tried this on a subway once, because he was always super bold like that, and the girls even asked him “why is your friend is so wimpy” (meaning me), because I was just sitting there watChing it all go down and being amazed.. they weren’t my type, but still it shows that it didn’t always get you blown out.

the main thing that you were missing in your attempt was the “just kidding” thing that Nathan said his friend “GM” did.

IcyTill1757 · 2026-06-21T23:01:35+00:00

Results vary. If you were a Chad she was going to entertain it but you're clearly not. Sadly, know your place don't be too cocky sorry, me personally i can say anything to a girl and they'll still gaze at me like a good thanks to my parents.

random_question4123 · 2026-06-22T06:42:19+00:00

This is the equivalent to cumming off a hug. Slow it down, take it easy. Act like you’ve been in this position before

slippy-tiddy · 2026-06-22T15:50:07+00:00

LMFAO, i think you're confusing girls liking guys who are confident and know what they want, to not having any social intelligence. Way to forward, way to fast, that might work on a highly uninhibited sexual girl, but for 90% of women thats wayyyyy to much wayyyyyy to fast.

VaporWaveShine · 2026-06-23T03:30:21+00:00

Nice haha I would have given u a pat on the back

United-Implement-382 · 2026-06-20T20:00:17+00:00

You weren’t too direct, that was just the wrong woman. Another woman might have been down with that.

alejoflo11 · 2026-06-20T20:09:35+00:00

😐

Tienes mucha hambre. El que una mujer te diga “Cute, Boyfriend material, kind, sweet” , es señal de que no quiere nada contigo y que no la mojas, te ve como amigo.

Fue una trampa para SIMPS y tú le dijeras “Enserio crees eso de mi?”. Lo que hiciste fue mostrar hambre, ser muy intenso.

Xero_Darknezz · 2026-06-21T01:51:54+00:00

You went too sexual too fast. Relying on lines that work maybe 1 percent of the time isn't a good idea. Going direct was good but be less pervy. What you did was the equivalent of a hail Mary.

Western-Month-3877 · 2026-06-20T19:44:55+00:00

Nah, it’s just a banter.

If she laughed and asked your name, it’d be called a nice rizz.

But she walked away (I assumed because she’s not ready with a comeback), then you thought it was too direct. It’s the same guy, same reply. But imagine a girl could define or redefine which one it was, whether it was a rizz or too direct. Don’t give a girl that much power.

Title	Was I too direct?
Author	lfg141
Upvotes	0
Comments	31
Date	June 20, 2026 7:26 PM UTC (1 month ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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